BitLife’s Ex-Soldier challenge is about experiencing new things, from spending time in the military to finding love after years of self-discovery. While most of its objectives are fairly straightforward, it’s easy to take a few missteps if you try to fast-track certain tasks.
Weekly trials are designed to test your skills and push you to try new feats, so you might need some help making it all happen. If any part of it is giving you trouble, here’s how to complete the Ex-Soldier challenge in BitLife.
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BitLife Ex-Soldier Challenge guide

The Ex-Soldier challenge in BitLife has five objectives for you to complete:
- Be born a male in Germany.
- Become a soldier in the Army.
- Desert your station after a deployment.
- Date a biologist.
- Marry a childhood friend.
While you won’t need any special career packs or expansions to complete this challenge, you must be attentive to your character’s actions throughout their entire life. Forgetting to make a friend early or passing away during your first few years deployed in the army will force you to restart your entire run. You may also have poor luck while trying to date a biologist. Generally speaking, this challenge is all about luck and patience.
Be born a male in Germany
The first step of the Ex-Soldier Challenge is to be born a male in Germany. Doing this is the easiest task of this challenge, as you just need to set your character’s starting gender as male and starting country as Germany. You can select any starting city you like as long as you make sure it’s in Germany.

From here, age up your character until they enter elementary school. While you pass the time, try to make a few close friends, as you’ll eventually need to marry one of them later. Since NPCs can get married or pass away during your playthrough, making several friends during your character’s childhood will lower the odds of you having to restart your run later on.
Become a soldier in the Army
Once your character turns 18, enter the Occupation menu, choose Military, and enlist in the army to quickly knock out this next objective. Typically, as long as you’re in good health and don’t have a criminal record, you should be allowed to enter the military fairly easily. If you can’t for whatever reason, focus on bettering your overall stats, then give it another try.

Desert your station after a deployment
After entering the army, return to the Occupation tab to find a selection of military job options. You’ll find several to choose from, including requesting a discharge, working harder, and retiring later. Our focus is deserting your post, which you can find just below the co-workers menu.
However, you’ll want to wait to do this after you finish your first deployment mission. As your character ages, you’ll randomly encounter deployment opportunities involving a Minesweeper minigame.
You can finish this minigame yourself or use a metal detector if the option presents itself. Either way, complete this minigame before deserting your post to complete the third task of the Ex-Soldier Challenge.

You’ll now be a bit pressed for time as you finish the remaining two objectives. Deserting your post in BitLife can lead to immediate arrest. If you escape arrest, the police can follow you later, delaying the next two tasks.
Date a biologist
Now is where the luck and patience come in. Alongside avoiding arrest from law enforcement, your character will also have to find a biologist to date. To do this, head into Activities, select Love, and continue to go on dates until you find someone with the biologist occupation.
The profession of each person you encounter is entirely random, so there’s no way to guarantee you find the biologist you’re seeking. You may get lucky and encounter one right away, or it might instead take much longer.
Just be patient and keep trying to ensure you eventually manage to check off this goal. As soon as you do find someone, start dating them right away, before then breaking up right after so you can move on to the last challenge task.

Marry a childhood friend
Lastly, it’s time to wrap up the challenge by getting married to a childhood friend. Completing this task requires finding one of your childhood friends in the Relationships menu, asking them on a date, and proposing once your relationship stats increase.
The tricky part of this quest is that you must have a childhood friend who is available and willing to be in a relationship with you. To set yourself up for success here, it’s a good idea to make several friends when you’re young, and prioritize maintaining bonds with all of them as you age. This will ensure you have at least a few options to choose from when you reach this point.

A good way to make this marriage easier is to propose with an expensive wedding ring; the higher its value, the more likely they will accept it. Once you propose to and marry your childhood friend, you’ll complete the final task of the Ex-Soldier Challenge in BitLife.
If you’re up for it, BitLife has lots of other weekly challenges available to tackle from the vault. Some good ones to try out next are the Jolene challenge, the Manic Mother challenge, the Real Housewife challenge, and the Rainbow Widower challenge.