Grand Theft Auto IV. Disappointed About Multiplayer

You know in Call Of Duty MW3 people keep inviting you to infected matches. Well im started to have this kind of problem on GTA IV. People keep fucking inviting me to Party Mode on GTA IV which for me, it is boring unless theres alot of people in the Party Mode session.
I don't actually give a fuck if its best to cause chaos or go on a rampage through Liberty City on GTA IV. Don't you guys fucking know that theres this option called preference in the Multiplayer section?
Well obviously if you wanna start a 100% public rampage through Liberty City just by turning off police. That would be better.