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Compared to most of my friends, I am a master at videogames. I know everything there is to know about them. When I play a game in front of my friends, they are blown away that I am actually controlling the incredible things that my on-screen character is doing. Granted, most of these friends are semi-gamers (people that only play party games like Rock Band or Scene It?), so, to them, my obsession with videogames translates to me being an undeniable expert.
But when I fully immerse myself into a world of gamers, my videogames skills don’t seem nearly as impressive. I can breeze through the single-player campaign on something like Modern Warfare 2, but I pop online and get absolutely destroyed by the competition. I can joyfully complete Mirror’s Edge on the toughest difficulty setting, but then check the time trials and realize I am only a disappointing speck on the ranked leaderboards. (Sadly, this shameful pattern is the online norm for me.)
I have been playing videogames for a vast majority of my entire lifetime. Why can’t I compete with so many other gamers around the world? Am I doing something wrong? Am I not in on some secret technique that could make me a better player? Or, after all these years, am I -- gulp! -- just not as good at videogames as I always thought?
Hit the jump for the sad and shocking truth.

Growing up, the only multiplayer videogame option available to me (and to everyone!) was playing in a room full of friends on the same console and the same television. Just like getting together to play a board game, multiplayer gaming involved a room full of people dedicating the same amount of time to playing a game.
Because I was the one kid in the neighborhood who owned every videogame and videogame system that came out, most kids would head to my house to take part in these multiplayer gaming extravaganzas. Because of this, I was a relative expert at most of the games I played. I had the most time with them, so when I would get together with my friends, my extra hours of practice would result in me being victorious most of the time.

As I got older, I started taking part in fewer multiplayer games and became much more interested in spending time with single-player games. This was understandable, because as the technology became more advanced with future console releases, single-player games turned into truly exquisite experiences. Role-playing games stretched to 80 hours long; characters and stories in games started to rival those found in movies. As my love of single-player gaming hit a fever pitch, my multiplayer gaming reduced itself to random stints of Mario Kart or Mario Party every once and a while.
Then the world of online gaming exploded.

At this point in my life, I was confident I was one of the best videogame players in the world. I had been playing games nonstop since the Atari (the first popular videogame console), so who else in the world could have more experience than me? Who else had played more videogames? Certainly not someone half my age!
My God, I was naïve.
As I quickly learned, videogame experience has nothing to do with videogame skill.
Just because you play football your whole life doesn’t mean you can automatically compete with the players in the NFL. This same, basic concept applies to almost any similar thing on the planet: playing piano, singing, painting. A lifetime of dedication does not always equal a high level of expertise.
It was very recently when I accepted the shocking truth: I may not be very good at videogames.
The thing I have dedicated my life and career to is something I may not be that great at.

But, of course, this painful statement comes with a pretty huge asterisk. An asterisk that amounts to, “Do I even care?”
The refreshing answer is ... no. Not really.
Outside of playing with some good friends, I am not a competitive, multiplayer guy. It’s just not my thing. I love playing single-player games by myself. It’s the videogame experience I choose to enjoy. It is the videogame experience I have enjoyed for many, many years.
And over these years, I have grown to master this very particular experience. I can play a Zelda game better than anyone I know. I can take on Zebes and the Metroids that live there with an unparalleled skill. When I crack Simon Belmont’s whip, it hits its target every time.
So, am I good at videogames? If you compare me to the rest of the world from a competitive standpoint, probably not nearly as good as I want to think I am. But, in my own world -- the world that makes me happy -- I am awesome.
And that’s all that really matters.

What about you all? How would you rank your videogame skills in the grand scheme of things? Are you better than just your non-gamer friends? Are you only amazing at single-player games? Can you confidently compete in the multiplayer world?
How many of you will proudly stand next to me and admit you may not be as good at videogames as you once thought?
Let the discussion (and the declarations!) begin!
I used to go to fighting game tournies and such, but as I got older I mellowed out a bit and started to enjoy all types of games.
I also believe you're better at video games than you think: I'll be watching you over your shoulder at E3 Mr. Concelmo! Stay tuned for the official report this coming June.
I've never SEEN anyone better than me play, but that doesn't mean they don't exist. There aren't any scoreboards for Sonic The Hedgehog. Either way... I don't really care. I have a blast every time I play, and isn't that all that should really matter?
But I'm fairly certain that pretty much anyone can get very good at the games they choose to invest a lot of time in. You just don't seem to be the kind of guy who does that. :)
I may not be good at playing games either, but dammit, I'm good at playing games while having fun. And I think that's most important in the end. If you play a game to be good, it's no longer a game. Just a competition to see who's got the best reflexes with what is ultimately a common technique. It's these same reasons that speed runs frustrate me.
I mean, excluding games like Portal or Braid, where either it's kinda easy or there's not really much scope for 'losing' as it were, I think maybe... I've beaten (and I mean on normal difficulty, no cheats, doing all the missions myself) Maybe 20 or so games, and I've been playing for easily a decade now.
On the other hand, Spelunky and Mega Man 9 are two of them, so I guess I'm a bit Rain Man when it comes to games I know are going to hurt me.
I'm not the only gamer I know personally...in fact all my friends are gamers.
And while I'm always the one with the new games and who knows about developers, delays, release dates, new announcements, etc. I'm probably the worst gamer amongst my friends.
But it's all about having friends and I can still kick their ass when it comes to platformers.
They're fun for me, and that's all that matters. I get yelled at all the time when I'm playing L4D2 versus games, but it doesn't really offend me. I just try to stop sucking as much.
But i don't care. I've come to terms with my suckiness, and play games to enjoy them, not to be the best at them.
And when i demonstrate to my friends, i'm still the king of games =p
I've always mostly been a single player guy, but I'm also a completionnist. I was about 10 when I met StarCraft, and I went up the multiplayer ladder there. Well, mostly on special games ; since this one time where I was beaten pretty badly, I never lost at a Marine Tug-O-War game, and I played them non-stop. Learn from your mistakes I guess.
Then I started getting into FPS's. The ones with a single player experience, like Halo PC. Then tried going online, but my latency would suck. Not trying to excuse myself, but I'd glitch and jump a few feet all the time bad latency. So I lost interest even though I would have loved it (I enjoyed playing Battlefield 2142 at my friends place... a lot). Now I can't even watch people play MW2.
The one game I was great at was Command and Conquer 3 and the expension. Me and my friend would ditch class to play it, non stop. People hated us so much; we'd always have to make new accounts so that people wouldn't take a look at our win loss ratio and think 'I'm not playing them'. Like 40-3 on our first account, then 21-0 on our second. Those were the good times.
Now I just play Mass Effect 2 because I'm on a shitty government connection. But I long for those days where I could invest myself in an online game.
And as stupid as it sounds, don't play multiplayer alone. If you want to become good, start playing with a friend : you can both share your experiences, have fun together, and not mind being beaten up a a few times to outgrow it.
Just kidding. I notice similar things about myself, mostly with Guitar Hero, and then only if I go online, and then not all the time only every now and then. I'm pretty good though.
It can be quite a shock when you think you're hot shit but then get put in your place by someone way better, especially when the difference between you and them is way less than the difference between them and the pros.
@sonic9jct
"I might be able to pull off the best turns on Mario Kart DS, but if I go online it becomes not a race, but a snaking competition."
No, it's still a race, it's just a race for people who are "good".
But that doesn't make me enjoy videogames any less, or be "less of a gamer." There's a big difference between skills and passion. I have a huge passion for games. I just can't get enough of them, even if I am on the losing end a majority of the time.
I am not very good at online competitive video games... and im ok.
Which probably leads me back to single player games and my fear that they are dying. I don't want to lose the one thing that makes me feel awesome... .__.
That's my main issue. I suck at reading people. That said, I'm pretty decent overall, I guess. I managed to beat Ninja Gaiden Black on MNM (though NGII is a different story) which stands as my toughest gaming achievement yet.
The worst thing is that I'm a girl. Thanks to people like the Frag Girls, a female is expected to have to kick butt at everything, otherwise their not a "REAL GAMER" ¬¬
Ah well. The most important thing is I have FUN I guess.
I feel like I can adapt to fighting games easier because of the familiarity I have with them. All I need is practice and more practice, but with the mentality I've expanded on with that genre, I feel like I dedication could take me to the top if I really wanted, but I just don't want to.
There will always be a bigger fish.
But I still have fun.
In Project Gotham I will pick the worst possible car for a Time Trial and keep at it until I've broken the top ten of the leaderboards. I want you to tear your hair out because you can't beat my shitty Honda Civic with the best car for that track. I picked the worst.
In the Mario Kart context, I'm the guy that wants the three green shells - just so I can shoot them down every corner.
I'm more of an agent of chaos than a competitor. I want to take what you believe about the game and - in a non-cheat/hack way - turn it against you.
Haha. Okay, I will give you that. I can own Contra. :)
And yeah, I'm pretty good at games. I suck at shooters and RTS games but I'm starting the path of greatness in fighting games and I'm already really good at RPGs.
As for online leader boards, you're going up against people that are devoting their life to that stuff. Not being able to rank in Mirror's Edge but being able to beat Contra is like being good sprinting but being sad you can't rank in a swimming event.
All jokes aside, the only games I really play online are Advance Wars: Days of Ruin and Brawl. I just play them for the fun of it. It doesn't mean you're a bigger, badder dude just because you beat a total stranger at an online video game. It doesn't mean you're stupid just because you lost at a strategy game against another person.
But for the record, I win 2 out of 3 Advance Wars games, and lose 2 out of 3 Brawls.
Of course, then you could argue, isn't the point of Street Fighter to be the best Street Fighter ever?
Beating Demons Souls was my last accomplishment, feels good man. Winning a duel against another invading red soul player was exhilarating as well- but it was part of the game, not a competition to see who is the best Demon Souley Demon Souler ever.
I got the platinum trophy in Mirror's Edge thanks to those youtube time trial walkthroughs but I don't think I got anywhere near any of the top online times.
I am ok with this. :D
Much like you Chad, I'm happy just playing games in my own world and being good at those. Although I will admit my skill level has been waning as the newer generation of games baby us. Once I sat down with Mega Man 9 though, those skills came rushing back. Now I can breeze through that game in 35 minutes.