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[Editor's note: Tubatic talks about not talking in multiplayer games for his Playing With Others piece. -- CTZ]

I'm the guy that likes to play multiplayer without voice chat.

You know, its not that I don't like people. People are cool. I really do enjoy getting to know people in general. But for the most part, I don't want to participate in headset banter. In some circles, one might label me a jerk.

Don't get me wrong though. I'm not a complete tool. If I'm playing something that involves heavy strategy or tight verbal coordination, I'm throwing on the headset, no question. Call of Duty or Left 4 Dead would be a generally disastrous experience without voice chat. When strategy is necessary, I'm there with you. But, considering that necessity, I'll probably not be the guy you'll hear too often over the chat channel. 


There are some games, however, that don't need voice chat, and I love them for it. Beat'em ups and fighters are two games genres that really don't need any sort of major verbal communication to remain competitive or fun. Firing up a multiplayer match of Turtles Arcade or Castle Crashers without my headset is a joy that I revel in when I get the chance. Smashin' is smashin', and nary a word need come betwixt me and my better-than-bots buddies.

Non-verbals in these games are down right classy to me. If I'm low on health, and a guy sidesteps a delicious mutton chop so i can grab it, it shows enough communication and respect for me to still enjoy the game, without belaboring the obvious point of "Food's right here, man!" All I really need is my game, and someone on the other end that doesn't require the burden of conversation to have a good time whacking goons upside their heads. On the versus fighting end, I don't require trash talking to get into the competition. In Soulcalibur IV, desperate attempts at teabagging or overkill hits are enough for me to get your meaning.


Running silent also affords, in some cases, a chance to communicate through actions. This can be sometimes more genuine and endearing than any spoken or typed conversation. World of Warcraft, for example, allows no meaningful language based communication between the two factions. They simply can't understand what the other is saying. However, there are some limited emotes that are understood in all cases. Its a great moment expressing support to another character through he actions of assisting their quest progress, or presenting them with a bow or salute in respect of their non-interference. Again, there's a level of civility and nobility in making your point here without speech.

Beyond ideas of stoicism, brevity, or focus, I just have a lot of fun playing on silent. For most of my gaming life, I've been a single player. However, some of my most memorable moments have been experienced in the multiplayer space. For me, playing multiplayer without voice is the best of both worlds. I'm losing myself in the action of a game, but still pitting myself with and against players that are far more intelligent and reasonably skillful than any coded AI based opponent.

Get it?

So please, its nothing personal. Sometimes, its just more fun when you're quiet.

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Elitechief27's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/02/2009 16:23
Elitechief27
In the paraphrased words of S.E. Hinton


"Stay gold Tubatic, stay gold
kepler's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/02/2009 16:25
kepler
I have to say I'm one of the silent types on Xbox Live also. If I play a game where communication is necessary, then yeah I'll talk and I'll speak when spoken to. Otherwise I just use voice chat to communicate with my friends, who tend to be RL friends anyway. Its not that I dislike people generally, its just I'm not really that fussed about talking to them.
Yashoki's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/02/2009 16:26
Yashoki
I'm half and half. I love to talk to other people while playing games, but often the people talking end up being annoying. So I turn on some music and just chill.
blehman's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/02/2009 16:27
blehman
Good post tub. I'm a quieter player online, unless I'm drunk or playing with friends, simply because those people who talk mad trash and get killed mad alot of times are tools.
Charlietime's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/02/2009 16:31
Charlietime
*thumbs up
short of the occasional "look out" or behind you if i dont know you you wont here a word outa me.
id stop wearing the headset entirely but it feels so right.
norm9's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/02/2009 16:50
norm9
I'm definately a quiet person online, with the only times I speak is if I have an urgent question to ask.

Sometimes I think that the other Live players are talking and shouting because they feel that they HAVE to talk. And so there's a lot of gibberish being spouted and very little true information and content.
Sentry's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/02/2009 16:53
Sentry
*Nod*
Qraze's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/02/2009 16:54
Qraze
well, when we play poker, its just a glorified chat room with cards. not having a voice playing it just don't cut it.
NotAZombie's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/02/2009 17:27
NotAZombie
I have to be really tired or really relaxed to not plug in my mic. I always like to at least here what people are saying. If its garbage I slide the volume off.
BFeld13's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/02/2009 17:29
BFeld13
Oh... it's the set of the play Noises Off!
Jonathan Holmes's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/02/2009 17:35
Jonathan Holmes
I agree 100%.

I remember the good old days when the only time I played videogames with strangers was at the arcade. Back then, people didn't have the internet to hide behind, so if you called someone a bloated anus sucking dick-fuck, you had to deal with the consequences. There was a quiet code of conduct back then, nothing more than "Good game" or "I think throws are cheap" was necessary to communicate what you were there for. Everyone was there for one reason; to play videogames. No one was there to be an asshole, and if they were, they were quickly ostracized.

God, I miss those days.
mistic's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/02/2009 17:55
mistic
I like silent people on Xblive, I wish there were more of them :-)
smurfee mcgee's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/02/2009 18:25
smurfee mcgee
I'm the same way. I don't talk alot, if ever, in most games.
If it's this particualr community, say on FnF, I will definitely have it plugged in, and probably be willing to chat it up. With random players, though, sometimes I just listen and shake my head.
Chaotic Life's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/02/2009 19:55
Chaotic Life
I know exactly what you're talking about. If the people you're playing with know the game well enough, non- verbal communication is the way to go.
Tubatic's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/02/2009 20:20
Tubatic
@BFeld

Well done!!

@Everybody

lol I'm kinda surprised I'm not so alone on this one :)
Qraze's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/03/2009 00:33
Qraze
when me and my friends play warhawk we need to communicate or else we can't get each others back, certain games with certain people almost demand communication. i'm sure when Jimbo's playing socom he communicates strategies with his team. playing crash commado i go silent though. weird how some games we need to speak and others we need not to.
thefil's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/03/2009 14:43
thefil
I'd prefer to be silent on the subject.

I actually agree quite a bit as well. I don't even really play competitive multiplayer gaming. My idea of a multiplayer experience is hopping on an MMO for some cooperative challenge with other real people. It doesn't involve a lot of communication; it's more the action of working with eachother towards a common goal is an experience not viable in a single player game.
blehman's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 12:11
blehman
Congrats on the front page Tub!
Anus Mcphanus's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 12:14
Anus Mcphanus
I only plug in my head set when I'm playing with friends. I guess I just can't be arsed to talk to people I don't know most of the time.

I remember when I first played online in Quake 2 and I may have had the most fun playing online ever and I don't think I even knew you could talk to other people back then.
The-Excel's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 12:15
The-Excel
There's a poster of those two guys in the first graphic at my university library.
Tubatic's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 12:18
Tubatic
@blehman

Thanks! :D :D :D
Yuphrum's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 12:18
Yuphrum
I completly agree with you and I myself am the person that rarely talks on my headset. It's not that I think that "Oh if I want to talk to people I'll go outside" or maybe it is...
I forgot where i was going with that, oh yeah, I just feel it's a bit pointless if you hop into a random game with a bunch of other people that you will probably never meet again, so yeah. Totally aggree with you
-PL-'s Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 12:31
-PL-
I prefer teamwork and winning.
Visc's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 12:40
Visc
Great article. I agree with you, I use online communication very rarely too, unless it is absolutely necessary.
sickNasty's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 12:44
sickNasty
Holy crap, where did u get that last picture of that stage. I could swear that was the exact stage used in a student play I saw when I was a Sophomore at Penn State.
sickNasty's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 12:49
sickNasty
Also, in something relevant to this post. I need voice communication in team based games.

It annoys me when people have no way of working with the rest of the team. It's worse than being down one player, because the guy without the microphone often gets himself killed more often because he's out on his own.

Also when I'm playing with a friend and he's on the phone or not using his headset I stop playing because it's not as fun. I might as well be playing with a bot if there's no communication going on.
Necros's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 12:57
Necros
If they're my friends and not randoms on Live, I like talking with them, but I do admit that sometimes talking over the cutscenes in a co-op game that I haven't played before is annoying.
Tehmtnlion's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 13:18
Tehmtnlion
*thumbs up*
Wexx's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 13:35
Wexx
Great read. I usually don't talk much when I play games either, even when it's with friends/in person. I sometimes cringe when someone else says something, I just feel like they don't understand.
OrangeMango's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 13:35
OrangeMango
There's barely anyone with mics in GoW2, unless they're in parties. I'd rather use microphones on XBL, if not, i start to feel like i'm playing something off of Nintendo WFC. Of course, if it's garbage, i just keep my mouth shut during the game and silently lol at the general stupidity of my team.
Cowboy TTop's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 14:41
Cowboy TTop
It took some getting used to for me, since I never had an original Xbox. However, with 360 its part of the charm of playing, and so long as I don't get any grief, I look forward to playing with random people.

The joys of Live are, I know a lot more random people I've met on Live, than those I know personally. Once a player behaves, and plays well, with or without a mic, I'll add them to my friend list.

Playing single player games, like when we had consoles that couldn't get online, does allow the player to be more focused. Its nice to be alone sometimes and enjoy the selfish experience.

Playing games with total strangers, is also a nice change, since they and you can chat about almost anything. Its nice to find out what another gamer is doing and what their tastes are about, if you put yourself out first.
pascuz46's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 14:41
pascuz46
Yeah Im not a big fan of voice chat in games. Most are usually annoying who have a mic, I dont think people want to listen to me swearing when I'm playing death match in Resistance 2 or COD4. When the mic is used like that, there's no need for it, however for more tactical games such as SOCOM or search and destroy in COD4 having a mic is useful when your working as a team.
Volomon's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 14:57
Volomon
I actually don't use voice chat either, or not very much. Why? I have to mute every single person in order to be able to hear the enemy their foot steps, their shouts (aka I just planted a mine), ect,. Most of every conversation or tactics consists of I just pwned that guy, "Hes up "there"", wtf its repeatedly pointless.

I can tell what your going to do and apply more tactics, than most people could if they were telepathic with each other and sat in the same room.
Corak's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 15:05
Corak
Nice write up man. I'm in the same group as yourself, I talk when I need to, otherwise I'd let my playstyle do the talking for me. A horde match recently in GOW2 comes to mind. There was this attention starved kid before the match started asking who had a mic, I did but it was on mute, and I kept quiet, as did everyone else. During the first few waves he was talking to himself, just random crap, and complaining that no one else had a mic. When asked again why no one had mics I chimed in with the line from Rush Hour, "you seem like you like to talk, I like to let people talk who like to talk, it lets me find out how full of shit they are." I got the standard reply of a guy who has no comeback of "dude tell me more," and I just stayed quiet and listened to every other player unmute their mics and start laughing at him. He left the match shortly after.

I can tell within the first minute of playing co-op or competitive multiplayer what type of match its going to be. If its a good match with players working together towards the goal, yea I'll jump in and talk. If its a random profanity filled match, I turn the headset volume down and pump some tunes.
MrFwankie's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 17:02
MrFwankie
I usually don't talk (or even have the headset plugged in) unless I'm playing something cooperative. There seems to be less idiots playing cooperative modes than the competitive ones.
John B's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 17:07
John B
@The-Excel:

There's a poster of those two guys in the first graphic at my university library.

"Those two guys"? Good God, man! Laurel & Hardy! Are the youth of today so uneducated about our pop culture history? {*whimper*}

Can the audio from others be muted? The main reason why I don't participate in multiplayer on with PSN or XB Live is because of the arrogance of people with their F-bombs and unnecessary bigotry. But if there's a way to filter that out without having to mute all of the audio, I might start to join in.
akathatoneguy's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 17:17
akathatoneguy
I'm glad to see that someone wrote something like this, and I like seeing all the folks who agree in the comments. I'm a fellow silent player most of the time. Generally, if I'm playing a game, I want to play the game and not get to know people, especially with the kind of asshats XBL is famous for. Sure, I know that that is part of the problem, that the only ones with headsets on are the jerks, but I'm just not motivated to help fix said problem, when I'd rather just not use a headset.

I played quite a bit of CoD4 with a headset (before they had party chat, so I'd have to talk to my friends and anyone else on my team all at once) and it's not as if it was strategy-fest over the headset. Usually it was random blabbing, or complaining about something being "bullshit", etc. Given, I didn't get into Search and Destroy type games so maybe that's why I missed out on the strategizing aspect.

I was the kid who didn't like group projects in school. Similarly, I don't want to play a lot of games that require me to strategize with strangers, many of whom will think they can boss you around because they played the game for 100 hours or what have you.
Rabite's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 17:28
Rabite
I bought my 360 and sold the headset before I left the store. That should make it pretty obvious what side I'm on.
Mattchewie's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 18:27
Mattchewie
Ah yes, the non-verbal communication. I love those. Especially when its in a aid situation, be it covering my back form afar or as you said, letting you take health, ammo etc.

The only thing I would disagree with is that COD needs a headset. Well, I should say when playing COD in a PUG scenario. Strategy is usually thrown out the window as 1 to 2 guys become feel the need to play the character of Rambo :P
Grande C's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 19:08
Grande C
Lets call people who prefer or usual play single-player "bachelors".

Not quite sure where you're going with this one Moto. Why is bachelors(sic) in quotes?
Rathe989's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 20:17
Rathe989
Nicely put! I feel just about the same. I'm a single player kind of guy but when I do play with others im definately the quiet guy. I communicate for game related reasons or if im spoken too.
archimedes17's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/10/2009 22:58
archimedes17
Congrats on the front page, from one silent gamer to another.
brainderailment's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/11/2009 02:04
brainderailment
I'm certainly not accusing you of anything, but I find that almost always when someone is using a lag switch, they don't have a headset.
NotPigeon's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/11/2009 11:42
NotPigeon
Whether I use voice chat really depends on the situation. For just chatting with people, unimportant stuff, I'll usually stick to text. I usually use the mic for strategizing or situations where I can't stop to type.
It also depends on how talkative the group is- if I'm playing TF2 on a server with alltalk and an interesting conversation pops up over the mic, I'll probably join in, or if I manage to get a really well-coordinated team that makes sure to report back on enemy sentries or locations.
Phalanxxx's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/12/2009 07:04
Phalanxxx
I normally play with voice on, but only in party chats; that said, the most respectful game of castle crashers I have ever had was when my mic was broke. I agree that sometimes, silence is bliss.
Budboy311's Avatar - Comment posted on 01/12/2009 09:27
Budboy311
"Get it?" picture:

Noises Off! set FTW? I skimmed the comments and didn't see anyone mention it.

Yeah, I know, I'm a dork. Great article.
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