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Improving game communites: Gaming together photo

Game communities online are a funny thing. They can be hilarious, entertaining, and awesome. They can also be obnoxious, trollish, and intolerable. So what can we do to make game communities suck less? Well, one of the best ways to do that is to meet in person, but of course, certain things can restrict that from happening.

Whether it is time, money, or location, some people just cannot make it to in-person events. And even among those who can, most cannot reasonably go to more than a couple a year.

It's why we have forums, IRC, community blogs, Ventrilo, Stickam, Skype, and any other means of connecting with one another online. While NARPs and other community meetups solidify friendships, it is the online interaction that builds a person up to decide to take the plunge to begin with. It should only be natural that one of the best ways to build a gaming community is to actually play games together.

Of course, here at Destructoid, we have a long-running tradition of Friday Night Fights, or FNF for short. With the magic of the Internet, we can produce a reasonable facsimile of what it was like back in the day, sharing a couch with a few other friends, huddling around a small, standard definition TV. Only now, we've got the whole screen to ourselves, and run a much lesser risk of getting punched.

As somebody who typically can't make it on Friday nights until after most others have gone to sleep, I still have found ways to connect to other Dtoiders in games. But however or whenever you do play with your brethren, you may find that you really click with some. You begin to work as a team like a well-oiled machine, and meanwhile, you can kick back and shoot the breeze with your new friends.

There are a few people on Destructoid who I literally would not know a thing about, were it not for the time spent playing Call of Duty 4 or Left 4 Dead with them. Who the eff is Ascythopicism? He's that dude who won a PSP recently for being the latest hairy naked gamer. You know what else though? He's really friggin' good at Call of Duty 4, he recently got a red ring, and he's all around awesome to converse with. I don't even remember whose friend he was before he was on my XBL friend list, but I met him playing games, and I can't imagine not knowing him now.

Playing together not only builds the community among itself, but strengthens the bond between community and the people running the show. We can sometimes forget, as readers of a blog that reaches millions, that the people writing the stuff we read are actual people, and they actually play games too.

This, I think, is paramount. And it is one of the tenets that Destructoid was built on. The writers, editors, and contributors to the site will directly interact with you. They will post on your forum threads, they will comment on your C blog posts, and perhaps most importantly, they will play games with you.

So while face-to-face meetups are unparalleled, it is still necessary to maintain online communication. And when the end of the day rolls around and we're done with talking about video games together, it's nice to be able to just STFUAJPG. Together.

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walkyourpath's Avatar - Comment posted on 09/02/2009 20:22
walkyourpath
Nicely done. Fap'd.
Zodiac Eclipse's Avatar - Comment posted on 09/02/2009 20:49
Zodiac Eclipse
Agreed, it would be great if we really could just all get together, but when that doesn't work then just gaming together online is the next best thing. Virtual hugs all around.
Tactix's Avatar - Comment posted on 09/02/2009 20:49
Tactix
I fap'd as well.

And I PROMISE I'll play games with you again! At some point! (damn Blazblue...)

I love you.
Dexter345's Avatar - Comment posted on 09/02/2009 21:49
Dexter345
I love you too, Tactix.
de BLOO's Avatar - Comment posted on 09/02/2009 21:50
de BLOO
L4D was fun man.

:D
Nic128's Avatar - Comment posted on 09/02/2009 21:52
Nic128
That sounds awesome.

We just need a game that we both play, and from what you mentionned (L4D, CoD), you play everything I don't play. :(
Steel Squirrel's Avatar - Comment posted on 09/02/2009 22:44
Steel Squirrel
Modern Warfare 2 is going to bring us all back together in a big way I think... us old COD4 buddies anyway. I can't wait for it.
HarassmentPanda's Avatar - Comment posted on 09/02/2009 22:54
HarassmentPanda
Dexter is the sweetest man alive. I hope I can make it out to the west coast to meet the LA crew one day.
Elsa's Avatar - Comment posted on 09/03/2009 09:34
Elsa
Great blog and very nicely said!

I wasn't here very long at all when I heard about the Friday Night Fights and jumped into playing Killzone. The people are really great and you get to know them in a different way (as in "quit killing me!). :)
Daxelman's Avatar - Comment posted on 09/03/2009 18:25
Daxelman
Dang, no I can't fap because it been front paged.

Damnit, I wish there was cross platform play with multiplatform games at least. I heard EA was trying to get something like that set up....
guillermo316's Avatar - Comment posted on 09/03/2009 18:39
guillermo316
only hot chicks i want to meet!
Anifanatic's Avatar - Comment posted on 09/03/2009 18:53
Anifanatic
Nicely done. I need to meet you and others in my area since I didn't make it to the pre-pax party. =/ and I don't really do much online gaming so that puts a dent in it too... DON'T HATE ME. DDD:
Poopface Morty's Avatar - Comment posted on 09/03/2009 20:02
Poopface Morty
Dex, you still have your copy of F-Zero GX for the inevitable moment when I show up and rock everyone's faces with it? California's a long drive, but as soon as I strike it big as a coke mule, I'll be hauling ass cross country style.
vexed alex's Avatar - Comment posted on 09/03/2009 20:33
vexed alex
I want a miniature Dexter that I can go to bed with.
sire masta's Avatar - Comment posted on 09/03/2009 20:55
sire masta
well er i'm sorta new here so all this is stuff is new to me but does anyone here play SF4 or hd remix?
nekobun's Avatar - Comment posted on 09/03/2009 21:15
nekobun
Good points, and it reminds me how much I love the Friday Night Fights feature. I wonder if we'll start seeing movie nights using the 360's Netflix feature.
Ascythopicism's Avatar - Comment posted on 09/04/2009 04:57
Ascythopicism
Hey, Ascythopicism isn't that obscure! He's contributed tons of worthwhile video-game related content. Like... that time... with the pictures of his flipped-over car... or... videos of Penn Jillette? Hmm.

But I make up for it by being that one reliable and annoying game invite, where you get to hone your shotgun skills!
Batthink's Avatar - Comment posted on 09/04/2009 12:01
Batthink
Good blog. And you look like Dom Joly, according to your header image. O_o
Dexter345's Avatar - Comment posted on 09/06/2009 20:28
Dexter345
@Morty: Of course I still have my copy of F-Zero GX, and admittedly, I have no doubt that you will rock our faces off. That game is hard.
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