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Hello, my name is Jenn and I'm a lover of games and student-dentist in SF. I live with my boyfriend (Max), our idiotic cat-monster (Brinkjob) and a classmate of mine from dental school (Sam). We drink too much and think too little. Or is it the other way around?

Fantasy games are my favorite. If I had to score Final Fantasy Tactics Advanced I would give it "BLOWJOBS/10" because reasons. I picked up Skyrim and proceeded to get into fights with Max over whose turn it was for the next 3 months. Sometimes we're best friends but usually I just need him to SHUT THE FUCK UP I WANT TO BE A LIZARD WIZARD, AGHH.


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Apologies for my last, very brief post. I was wrestling with the blog system and it beat me into submission. Rather than upload my avatar for the 16th time, I went out with friends and forgot my html sorrows in a sea of tapas a booze only to come home shockingly discover comments. By Jove, people can see my blog?! And here I thought destructoid.com/blogs/gennhaver was but a black screen informing me I had written nothing (LIES).

So here's a bit about myself: I'm a dental student, I have a penchant for making high pitched noises when I encounter oversized stuffed animals, I fucking love Final Fantasy, and I used to be a goth in high school. My favorite color is blue. If I were a pokemon I'd be a pikachu, because they're yellow and I can relate. My hobbies include eating and swearing. I used to ignore my loved ones in favor of spending time with a tiny pixellate effigy of myself on my pink DS but swore off video games cold turkey for the duration of my first year in dental school. I have absolutely no self control so I simply cannot be trusted to spend a "moderate" amount of time with my DS. Whenever I promise myself "only an hour of playing," it usually ends with me rocking alone by an electrical socket in the corner (ahem, battery life) surrounded by empty cheese-it boxes - lit dimly only by the haunting glow of a medium-brightness DS screen.

I like to think of myself as a gamer-in-hiatus. I spend most of my time in the lab at school, some of my time studying tooth-related things, and the rest of my time trying to convince Max Scoville to let me have bite of his sandwich.

I joined Destructoid because Max had been telling me for a long time how nice the community is, and how awesome it is to participate in dialogue among like-minded people - even (especially) those with different opinions. He told me about how generally, people who disagree are still quite nice about things. It was rather jarring for me to open up my comments and see that this isn't always the case. To be honest, it really hurt my feelings and pretty much turned me off the community for a second. I kind of figured, what's the point of being a part of a community that enjoys tearing its members down? I realized that like the real (ie non-intarwebs) world, the few do not always represent the many.

To those that I offended by not writing a "proper introduction," I apologize. I take that back, to those who politely informed me of their offense - I apologize. To those who were unnecessarily rude, I say: fuck you. And for that, I do not apologize.

While I see why I came across as a brainless twit, I don't think that under any circumstances that it's appropriate to come out with guns blazing (unless you know... there are zombies involved). I legitimately thought my blog didn't exist and gave up for the day. I decided to just figure it out with Max next time we both had a spare moment. Little did I know, it DID exist and people were not happy about it. I have just have one thing to say about that:

Please don't be a dick. Just don't. Okay?

I get it, you're a regular. You've been here a while and don't want dumb bitches posting pictures of themselves to whore for attention. You joined for the gaming community, you're here to engage in gaming-related conversations and you're not interested in bullshit. Gamers are hard to win over, they're protective of their culture and they're sick of seeing it diluted with scantily clad women of little to no substance. According to the mainstream media, gaming is a bastard medium - something meant for children and adults who partake are somehow deluded. It's understandable that you'd be defensive.

Well, I'm not trying to sell you anything, I just want to be part of the community. From my irl interactions with dtoid members, it seems like it attracts nice folks. But either way, I'm really not interested in unnecessarily mean comments.

Don't make me angry. You wouldn't like me when I'm angry. *TEARS SHIRT OFF IN FIT OF RAGE*
Just kidding. I hardly ever tear my shirt off and I rarely get angry, except for when my boyfriend eats the last Sausalito cookie. YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE SAUSALITO, MAX SCOVILLE, YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE THEM.

However, I am avidly interested in any pictures of baby animals you want to send my way.



I really do love baby animals. And ice cream. And you know, this drunk asshole:




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TITS OR GTFO

also that last picture is totally shopped.
Don't worry about the negative nancies out they're *quickly checks your intro blog*

Seriously TITS....no GTFO just TITS.

Okay seriously SRSLY this time. Welcome to the Community Blogs. Won't you stay a while and blog about games with us? (And gift me that perfect white smile I've always wanted since I was a little girl).
Welcome. I gave my girlfriend Chrono Trigger and Pokemon on her birthday and she chose Pokemon... What is it about this Po - kay - man stuff? Don't worry, I think there will be some people rolling out the red carpet shortly. There was a guy who thought you were a spambot, but at least he said you were a model right? :)
Jenn - can I call you Jenn? Actually, can I call you Jeen, cause I keep accidentally typing that out?

Jeen, while I can see why you'd be put off by the negative barrage (it's a Drgonball Z move, look it up), I'd like to make clear on the behalf of the barragers that their reaction was one of conditioning. Most of the time, such blogs are the result of spammers, bots, or simply people who disappear into the internet's many voids to never be heard from again and attacks in that vein are fair game. I'm not saying it's right, but I feel, if you do want to be part of their shenanigans (and you do, there are hats), that you understand why it happened. It wasn't because you, as a person, are lacking, but because that particular blog was, albeit for valid enough reasons. There will be no continuation of hard feelings. These are still lovely people and I'd hate for you to think otherwise.
You had me at 'at least three times that size'.

Dental school sounds hard.
Sorry Beyamor, but I disagree. Conditioned or not, I don't think that those sorts of attacks are fair game. I think average human beings are above Pavlov's dogs.

"We only ask that you act respectfully and above all: don't be a troll and ruin it for everyone else. Don't bring down gamers or we'll, you know, gently shoot you in the face and stuff you into a flaming mailbox."

There's comedy and then there's just being mean spirited. Maybe I'm old fashioned but I think that lashing out in that manner is unacceptable. That's like saying "Oh that's just Jim, he kicks kittens in the face, it's just kind of what he does."
Don't feel obliged to apologize to me. Frankly, and this isn't intended to sound demeaning, you're wholly entitled to be displeased by the act, especially being on the receiving end of it. That said, my opinion, my purely subjective opinion, is that the reaction was warranted. There's a lot of personal investment in the shared blog space and the community is defensive of it.

As crude an ultimatum as it is, the one offered, provide decent blogs or take your business somewhere else, keeps our little ship afloat. Now, obviously that particular blog wasn't really intended to grace our collective doorstep and it's, frankly, great to see this one instead, but that's the heart of the sentiment - it wasn't a good blog, however it came to be, and lest such things were left to persist, its standing was made, in no subtle way, evident. Those folks simply stated, in no uncertain terms, that without blogs of a higher quality, there wouldn't be much favour gained in sticking around. There is, in my eyes, no personal attack on you, but on that one instance.

Truth be told, it's not comedy and there's no pretense of such. It's kicking the faces of kittens who look like mountain lions selling knockoff boots or spouting thoughtless clutter. I'm not sure I'm coming off too clearly and I'm definitely not conducting myself as warmly as you, a soon-to-be beloved community member deserve, so let's move to four key points and wrap this up:

1) I can find it in me to hold to the actions of the c-bloggers, but can fully respect if you disagree.

2) Whether or not you can see where I'm coming from, I really do hope you bear no lasting grudges because, really, I think there's a lot of potential to have a great time here.

2a) You can still hate me though. It's cool. That's sort of the new Pogs around here.

3) I write a lot of nonsense after a long night. The morning will hold many regrets, not the least my representation of myself and the community in these comments.

4) As I should've said from the beginning, welcome to the blogs.
Now THAT! Is an intro. Now I shall give you a proper welcome.

Welcome to Destructoid: I'm sorry, Jen. I'm afraid I can't let you do that *eyes glow red*

Now, then.

Usually, the cblog comutters are nice people.g(specially Occams and Elsa). We're like that overly helpful cousin you don't talk to that much or don't even care for.

And again, welcome to the 3rd gate of heaven. Also, @Scoville, DON'T EAT HER DAMN COOKIES.



;D
Great news, everyone! We have a new friend in the Cblogs! (trying my best to channel Professor Farnsworth)

I'm glad that you're sticking around, and the only thing better than a great intro is somebody who writes a bad intro, I give advice to, and then they become an outstanding member of the community thanks to me! (so what? I have a slight narcissistic streak) But if they disregard my advice and start to consistently suck, oh here go hell come. I try only to break out the funny pictures when people truly deserve it.

Also, I'm still trying to decipher your comment about ants from the last blog.

Long story short, stay awhile. If you write good stuff (which you have) and aren't a dick (which you aren't) we will love you and cherish you, and crush you to death with affectionate bear hugs.

By the way, Max? I THOUGHT WE HAD SOMETHING SPECIAL!
@rex, re:ants,
Watch Zoolander, because you should and its funny and then you'll get it.

@gennhaver:

Your c-blogs handle sounds like a late nineties mecha anime. Which is awesome. Seriously, say it aloud to yourself. Use it in a sentence:

"I just got a new tape of Gennhaver. Wanna come over and watch it?"

So anyway, I was the one who accused your first blog post of being the product of spambots. That's not particularly an insult as I'm not one for bashing people's blog quality or flaming them for breaking unspoken rules. I get why some do, but I figure that as someone who primarily comments here (and doesn't blog much at all) and never presented an intro blog himself (seems silly now, its been so long), such criticism would seem quite hypocritical coming from me.

No, my conclusion was not intended as a rump-paddling, buy was merely based upon tried-and-true Sherlock Holmes observation techniques: the lone sentence, the alluring, obviously professional photos of a cosplaying model, the great white void. It really has nothing at all to do with you and something that happens here time and again. When it does, the comments section becomes something like a paintball range and we use it to work out our nerdrage on a autonomous target rather than a living one.

But HEY! You are really quite alive after all, which is pleasantly surprising. So welcome to this humble webspace and no hard feelings. I offer my virtual hand to shake yours in friendship. If anyone else offer you a different appendage, shake at your own risk. Not everyone's had there shots round here.

Jesus Max...
I can understand why everyone thought that the first post was a "look at me!" post, but thats all water under the bridge.

Welcome to Dtoid.
Dondé wammas?
I'm glad I wasn't an asshole in your first post, cause let's be honest here, I usually am. Anyone that cosplays as a Pikachu can join my sacred Dtoid community any day, especially if they are God's chosen race, Asian, and I mean that in the very best way imaginable. I LOVE ASIAN PEOPLE. It's nothing against other races, Asian's are just better. Asian American, Asian Canadian, Asian Asian, you get the point.

Also, here are some stuffed animals for you...


Who needs rabbits feet when you can have the whole rabbit?


Major Nelson picked this up at a gay bar
Don't listen to these people. You're entitled to fail once or twice when you start. Seriously, go read some of the cblogs. You'll see plenty of shitty ones with lots of faps and nice comments. Sure, many have some decent points or whatever, but most appear to be written by 15 year old kids who lack a proper grasp on the English language.

Not that I'm some fucking published author or anything, but these guys need to stop acting like they're writing life-changing or even enlightening stuff. There's plenty of good ideas and thoughts here and lots of great people, but many of those great people are way too fucking harsh. Would it not be simpler to just ignore bad blogs? Or maybe only give constructive criticism, especially on the first or second blog?

Side note: Usually the guys around here go nuts whenever a girl joins and starts blogging. WTF is going on around here? Guys? Female sexual organs = Free pass on "look at me" first blogs. These guys have become too hardcore. They don't even let chicks slide anymore!
... unless some comments were deleted, most of the comments you got on your last blog were actually pretty neutral, the community is actually nicer than they used to be - you haven't seen "mean" yet! (and I'm still rather stunned that I didn't post my usual nastiness given the blatant opportunity of a pic of a cos-playing female and a one line blog!)

You also nailed the reason... "dumb bitches posting pictures of themselves to whore for attention" - though you could add that 99% of those "bitches" are usually wannabe models who know little or nothing about gaming and mistake this for their chance to become the next Olivia Munn. You have to understand that many of these non-gaming models used to scream that they were "girl gamers" and they unintentionally created an image that the rest of us female gamers have to live with. Apparently we all want to be models, wear cosplay (or our GH Guitar for a bra), so it's perfectly ok to ask female gamers "got a pic?" or to ask what we're wearing when we join in on an online game. Your first blog inadvertently nailed that old stereotype - the one that most female gamers want to eradicate.

Additionally... pretty much everything Beyamor said. The c-blogs are somewhat community-moderated to ensure that they don't get over-run with people either selling a product or selling themselves (whoring their website usually, though sometimes just whoring themselves).

Anyway... water under the bridge. As a few others have done, you came back with a real blog - one that shows that you are not just a pretty face, but also intelligent and quite capable of presenting ideas in the written form, of wanting to be a member of the community. I think it should be noted that your current acceptance by the community is likely more to do with the fact that you gave us what we seek... a wonderfully written blog. If you had given a piece-of-shit second blog, I don't think that even being Max's girl might have saved you. The acceptance shown is for "you" and not just for "Max's girlfriend".

Welcome to Dtoid. You have a really nice writing style and I look forward to more of your blogs! ... though I guess if you're on "gamer hiatus" they're going to be more about how difficult it is to avoid gaming, especially when titles you want to play come out. I expect at one point we'll see an "I cheated!" blog... and you won't be talking about cheating on Max! :)
@gennhaver, EternalDeathSlayer: I think there has been some communication mishap here. No one was attacking Jenn at all. The few people who were a little harsh were attacking what looked to them like a spambot. So... Not attaking you, attacking spam. If you stick around, you'll find that we attack spam all the time. It can be great fun at times.
Oh my. Words and the such. Nice to see a polite discourse happening here. They all said it better than I ever could so yeah, let's do this.

Hello. Welcome to Destrutcoid. Here is your decoder ring and a Jesus statue I painted to look like the Joker. It's art which means no one can criticize it. Enjoy your time here. Despite what appears to have been a slightly rough start, I can assure you we are delightful people who are equal parts Dennis Hopper, Oscar Wilde and Pauly Shore. Dental school will keep you entirely too busy but blog when you can. You obviously have words and thoughts and opinions that we would all enjoy embracing. Shine for us and let the light fill the darkness of that 2:30 afternoon feeling we call the waking world.

Oh, and can I just say how jealous I am of your access to dental equipment? I mean, I could go get some, its just that I get the queerest looks.
The people who love this place fight to keep it the way it is. We police it, that's all there is to it. If you don't want to be the object of our policing, read the member guide / blogging guidelines. It's linked to from the "How do I not fail at life/blogging?" section directly underneath where you type your blog post body, and it's fairly clear about why your first blog was bad.

Seems you've figured out the important points now, so have fun writing good things here, so we can write them write (sic) back in the comments.
@rexwolf2: BTW - yes, Zoolander. What DynamoJoe said. But here is a link. Here is the joke for you wholesale.
Bahahahaha thanks for the welcome, all. Max is jealous because I got more comments than he did on his last blog.

@Beyamor SILLY HATS ONLY
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vEiyBbP28g8

@Jed I definitely SQUEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEED when I saw those bunnies. Sometimes I hate being a stereotype but other times IT JUST FEELS SO GOOD.

@Elsa That is the most concise and well written explanation I've read yet. Also, I always enjoy reading your comments on Max's blogs.

@Occam Yes dental school will probably beat me mercilessly, as I've given up games for a year can I post non-gaming related things? Also, dental equipment is surprisingly fun. We start injecting each other in the spring. You know, "for practice."

Also, he just woke up and was telling me about his dream:
"Then all of a sudden I had all these new step siblings... it was like a black family or something. I got a silver invitation to be a part of a secret society of womanizing playboys and they were all jealous."
@gennhaver

The great thing about those bunnies are that they are 100% real, 100% stuffed and 100% dead.
Oh. Well now I just feel dirty.
@ EternalDeathSlayer

Yeah, you're right, but look at the Fraps and comments she received at her first two blog post. I've read plenty of great written blogs that don't get that. Things are so much easier when you're a hot chick on a game website, just sayin'. It's not fair, lol.
Gotta love vitriolic humor. Welcome! And now I want a Jesus statue painted by Occam. :/
I've been on Destructoid hiatus for awhile (looking occasionally but not posting) but wanted to stop in and say hello. It sounds like you've got writing chops and a good sense of humor, so I'm interested to see what you come up with.

I also support your stance on the "welcome" you got. I also got pretty much the same welcome- I broke a code I didn't know existed, and also committed the sin of posting pictures. (which i will defend, and keep doing as long as I damn well feel like it ;)) And the barrage of comments attacking every single thing about me ensued. (even got one promising the rip out my uterus. Thats just vulgar.)I also didn't write an intro blog, which I thought was somewhat made up for by actually having a thorough About Me, but apparently, when the crucifixion started, everything in my About Me was just an example of me being an attention whore. At the time I made my living modeling professionally. I still pay my mortgage spokespersoning/marketing/modeling for a pc hardware company. I believe I have a right to talk about that just as much as a father has a right to talk about his kids and real life.

(the capital sin I committed, according to everyone, was immediately bringing over blog posts from my word press blog which literally five people had ever read in succession. But I'm not sure the comments would have been so vicious if I hadn't been a female with pictures posted.)

Anyway, I understand that its easy to see a girl who puts up a picture, or hell, even just admits to being female and say "ATTENTION WHORE!" or "vapid idiot dumb twit!" And I can certainly see that I make it easier for people to jump to that conclusion than others.

But I also believe that there is no excuse for excessive rudeness, esp. on the first time you encounter someone. And I also believe that not waiting to see what someone is really like before taking a rash stance towards them does one thing first and foremost: it makes the person doing it look like a shallow dick with no vision. I've done it myself before too- it made me look that way too. This is esp bad when it takes place in a community that often cries for more depth in their preferred media- the irony of not taking the time to look for depth in people!

I left up my welcome wagon posts, because the way I see it, I did two things that pissed people off - I made a noob mistake: I didn't realize posting things in a row was offensive (i didnt even realize anyone would notice) and I presented myself honestly. I only see one of those as a misstep, and I think I should be less ashamed of making a noob mistake than the people who were excessively rude and personal in their comments.

I also think that a gamer on hiatus might have some plenty interesting things to say about gaming and games. Those of us that read can coherently discuss a book we read five years ago, yeah? Just because you're not playing your heart out at the moment doesn't mean you don't have something interesting (and I'm betting in your case cleverly funny) to say on things you've played before, or things you're playing on a time-available basis.

Anyways, I'm chronically long winded, but the main thing I want to say to you is: while I don't feel I'm qualified to welcome you to Destructoid, I will welcome you to The Internets in general. And I for one will be looking for your blogs. And ps I like your avatar. (and your sidebar pic for that matter) :)
Whoa, you can fap yourself? I feel like an 11 year old boy for just realizing that.
@rika Thanks for the understandin and the compliments. My avatar is a remnant from when I was a lab monkey. Disregard women, acquire novel glycosylated peptides.

NERDS FTW
Cheese-Its are my favorite snack to eat while gaming as well! Anyways, welcome! It's always great to see a new face in the C-Blogs. Just don't post any awkward pictures or make a total ass out of yourself and you will be a-ok!



There we go... let the horror begin!
Hey you’re not a robot, great!
Baby animal pics? You'll regret not stating what condition said baby animals should be in the pics... I have harddrives full of dead and abused baby animals! Literally, I mean. I can take some pics of them if you want.

Anyways, I am not some necorphiliac baby animal fetish lunatic, I'm just another Dtoider who rarely logs in and therefore by the transitive property, seldom posts. I login for intro blogs, usually... usually not that is.

Welcome.
I'd like to thank Lenigod for providing me with a pic to post:


Anyways welcome to Dtoid!! I'll try and be nice to you but telling us that you rip your shirt off when you're angry will probably have the opposite effect haha >:D

....wait, Max doesn't have banning-capabilities, right?? *gulp*
Welcome to Destructoid.
I missed the shitstorm, but back in time for the hugs. Good times!
Welcome to Destructoid. Dentistry is a noble profession, and no doubt makes you awesome at Trauma Team.

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