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Video Games: Fun, Intense, Relationship Ender?
eski \| 11:46 AM on 11.25.2007	15 comments

Hey everyone.

So yesterday I was out at a LAN party hosted with some friends of mine. Nothing too big, we had about maybe 6+ people there, and we played a bunch of PC games, as well as everyone's favorite, Super Smash Bros Melee, and we even busted out the Wii motes and played some Wii Sports.

Near the end, we were cleaning up when my best friend approached me. After asking what was up, he told me that he came and needed some advice. Turns out that he came to the LAN party, when he really should have been on a date with his girlfriend. After an obvious "what the hell man !" I tried to comfort him, cause obviously he was feeling like shit.

This morning he IMed me, and told me that he had called his girlfriend, and that she was "seriously thinking about our relationship" In more simpler terms, she wanted to break up. Obviously he's going to blame his failure on one thing, video games.

This is the type of stuff that just gives games a bad name. I'm no relationship expert myself, I'm in a relationship, and I can safely that I have given up a lot of video game time just for her. Its not that I don't mind, but then here comes a hardcore gamer refuses to give up anything for anyone. How does he expect to maintain a relationship when he refuses to even see her?

This isn't the first time that I've seen this done, so many times have we seen things go wrong over people who love games more than life. What seriously needs to stop is the accusations of the games. Its not their fault, its the person's fault.

I'd just like to share that story with a video gaming community, but I ask you guys, have you ever seen this happen? Or know someone that this has happened to?

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15 comments | showing # 1 to 15

bahss says:
(# 0) on 11/25/2007 12:19

The key is to get her involved in gaming. Hell, when I met my girlfriend, she only had a general idea about gaming. Ask her if she's ever played any games prior and base your game choices along those lines. Example: My girl played Super Mario World when she was a kid and had a blast, so we bought an old SNES and she plays a lot. From that, that led into Super Mario Galaxy, which she enjoys. I also know she has a short attention span, so she LOVES Wario Ware. I'm still working on getting her into first person shooters.

Short of it, Wii is the door opener for getting your girl into video games.

Lord_Satorious says:
(# 1) on 11/25/2007 12:24

Thankfully, my girlfriend plays some video games too. She likes the Pok�mon, so we talk about Pok�mon and trade Pok�mon back and forth and so on. But heck, she even played with me though Halo 2 before the new one came out, it made the final boss battle that much easier, I can tell you. She even does retro games, like Final Fantasy and Chrono Trigger on the SNES.

Not everyone can be so lucky, but if you make a date with your girlfriend, you should really honor that commitment. I can understand wanting to hang with the boys, but at least have a talk with your girlfriend, explaining there's time with her and time with friends. But don't make one date and go something else, that's not cool man.

bhive01 says:
(# 2) on 11/25/2007 12:50

I was waiting for you blog to load... then I realized that your banner is a huge dark brown block. You might want to fix that.

I was a big gamer and then I got into grad school and got married. Now I'm coming back around to games. I try to get the wife involved, but she's not a gamer at all. I think she understands why I like them so much, but it seems like there are times when I just want to game and she wants other things. Such is life though. Sometimes I give in, and sometimes she does. Compromise. It sounds like your friend just wasn't wanting to compromise. Especially given the fact that he broke off a date to go to a LAN party.

youkilledmyguy says:
(# 3) on 11/25/2007 12:51

Tell him that I said not to blame the breakup on video games. Blame it on an uptight bitch of a girlfriend who can't get over herself long enough to realize that maybe her boyfriend has a better time hanging out with friends playing games instead of dealing with her attention whoring ass.

Tell him I said that unless when she spreads her legs fucking rainbows shoot out of her pussy that he needs to dump her ass and enjoy life.

eski says:
(# 4) on 11/25/2007 12:52

"I was waiting for you blog to load... then I realized that your banner is a huge dark brown block. You might want to fix that."

Yeah, I noticed that too, its just that I don't have some epic omg eye blinding banner.

Goei says:
(# 5) on 11/25/2007 13:12

OH SHI- DRAMA!

NintenDawg says:
(# 6) on 11/25/2007 13:13

In my opinion, if she's to much of a bitch to let her bf hang out with his friends and have fun, she's not worth it. I hate stupid girls that think they need all the attention, they aren't worth it, It's just another pain in the ass.

He should just be like, whatever and tell her to fuck off, then he can go find a girl who has the same interests that he does.

ShawnKelfonne says:
(# 7) on 11/25/2007 13:31

From the story here I get the impression that it's not the girl that's being the bitch, since he did indeed break off a date. Meaning that there was probably already a date planned, but when someone mentioned a LAN party he couldn't resist. In this case, it's more the fault of the boyfriend being an asshole than video games.

DanGale says:
(# 8) on 11/25/2007 13:50

Where the bloody hell is whiteboy when you need him?

That blog banner is quite next-gen. So high resolution, so brown...

Electrobes says:
(# 10) on 11/25/2007 15:36

Yeah that banner had me waiting for a while... prob cause I am retarded.

And from a retard with experience, I'll give you some advice. None of my girlfriends were into gaming. But I always honored prior commitments, so your friend was not bright in just ditching out like that. Unless she wore a paper bad as make-up, there shouldn't be a reason for him ditching her like that.

Plain and simple, plan ahead and don't bail.. on your boys or girl(s).

Now where's my golden star sticker for this epic advice!?

DaedHead8 says:
(# 11) on 11/25/2007 16:03

Did he at least call her before the lan party to let her know where he is? That would have been the right thing to do. If she still dumped him after that then shes a bitch.

Otherwise you should really tell him to find himself a girl who games. It makes life so much easier. My current girlfriend games and while I still don't play as much as I would if I were single, I get a lot of game time in. Also being able to play through the latest and greatest video games with a loved one just makes it that much better.

Tino says:
(# 12) on 11/25/2007 16:17

Did he just totally ditch her?

Come on. Doesn't your friend have common sense.

Is she controlling and hates video games? Does she try to demand he spends time with her?

Does he spend every day with her and she never lets him get out? Or does he spend all day playing games and she never sees him. There can be some seriously deep rooted issues at work here.

SH0RYUK3N says:
(# 13) on 11/25/2007 17:18

Yea I wouldn't blame the games either. Sounds like he just chose to hang out with his buddies over hanging out with his girl. I can relate sometimes..."Bros over Hoes!"

Mxyzptlk says:
(# 14) on 11/26/2007 02:49

Yup, this has nothing to do with games... This has to do with your friend blowing off his girlfriend. We don't know the whole story of course, so it's hard to say. But if you make a plans with someone, follow through on it.

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I'm into a bit of everything. At the moment I only have a PS2 and a Gamecube, but I'm hoping to get a job soon, so I can start collecting more stuff. I'm a very big Super Smash Brothers Melee player, and I've been playing the game almost at a competitive level for a year now. I'm here just to read/try to spread the word of gaming around, I've been just recently introduced to Destructoid, so I consider myself a newbie. I do however hope to become a regular in this community.