Title's "Homosexual", cause DToid censored "Faggot" out.
If you seek to avoid my horrid wall of text:
Long story short, people need to quit bitching.
Anyways, the honorable Jim's article on the rather FAT Princess game, or if you want to get all accurate and specific, Jim's article on the rather opinionated FAT lady's article on the FAT Princess, y'know made me think 'bout some shit I wanted to talk about.
(See what I did there, I made the word "fat", rather, fat.)
Basically, chill out, your life isn't that big of a deal, there's billions of rather similar ones running concurrently to yours and countless ones that've come before and that'll come after. So relax.
But if you really can't get over yourself and your opinions, occasionally, take a look in the mirror and fuckin' deal with what you see there.
Thinkin' 'bout this shit also reminded me of a bit of a story (y'know, cause I'm a self-centered egocentric prick so everything's gotta be about me):
So, I've just graduated high school. Wasn't all that exciting. A dyke friend of mine mentions to me, "Hey! Y'know how we just had prom? Well there's another one going on in Vancouver, much like ours, except gay. You should come."
And since I'm a person with a penis who occasionally likes other people who happen to have penises, I respond, "Yeah sure."
Then, she followed up with, "Sweet! See ya there... well if I can find a ride with someone."
So I give her a ride since she had asked so passive-agressively, show up, meet a few guys, a few dances a few make-outs yadda yadda. It's all good, until I get talkin' with the guys. All they want to talk about is being gay. Like it's their whole identity, like it's all they do. How they just wish they'd be accepted the way they are, that they wouldn't be treated any differently, yadda yadda, bleeding hearts of the world unite. Then they ask me what I think of the whole deal.
"Yeah I don't really give a fuck."
"You're gay aren't you?!" Like this automatically meant I cared.
"Nah, I'm Angus, nice to meet you,"
"Ha, very funny," said with a face like it's the least funny thing ever. "But you like guys?"
"Yeah."
"Then you're gay."
"Not really, I dig chicks too."
"So you're Bi?"
"Nah, I go through phases usually I prefer chicks though."
"So you're straight?"
"I don't think you can say that once you've fondled a dick."
These guys, who are supposedly trying to raise awareness for some sort of penultimate "Gay Cause" are usually the biggest hypocrites. They can't wrap their head around somebody who hasn't tailored their sexuality into one of three little boxes.
Honestly, boxes don't matter. Nobody can really, fairly be put in one. So if somebody pokes a lil' fun at a stereotype, don't worry about it because chances are you aren't going to fit it perfectly, so it's not like they're making fun of you. If they're making a generalization that isn't true, don't worry about, you know it's not, let them keep their ignorance. If they're saying something that is true, well, fucking deal with it, it's fact.
"Faggot!"
"Um, yeah. Wow, you really got me there, way to go champ."
Anyways back to the game about the chubby princess, "chubby people like to eat". Yeah, usually true. But not always, I know a few people who eat pretty healthy and in normal amounts who's metabolisms can just never seem to keep up. Those people it's not true for don't got to worry about it because they know the joke's not about them, and the people that matter to them know that.
Y'know similar stereotype that applies to me, (y'know, self-centered guy I am) "fags are wimps". Yeah, usually true. But not always, I've been in rugby matches and wrestling matches where I've taken out guys who were rather simply way bigger and stronger than me physically. I could do this because they were wimps, too busy with spray-on tans and how much they could bench to actually man-up, get their heads in the game and fight like real men. I don't worry about the stereotypes associated with my sexuality, because I know I don't fit them, and so do the people whose opinions matter to me.
Long story short, people need to quit bitching about words and stereotypes.
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so... you are gay then?
(sorry i dont get it)
Nice write up. Couldn't agree more. I've experienced the same sort of thing, it winds me up from time to time, but usually its fairly easy to ignore the people who don't realise that there is more to someone than their sexual orientation (or race, gender, and general appearence for that matter).
So, people at a gay prom talked about being gay?! I'm guessing they were at this prom because they couldn't or didn't feel comfortable taking their same-sex dates to their school's prom (maybe because of the persistence of stereotypes and bigotry), so it would make sense for them to try to connect with other people dealing with the same shit. I dunno, maybe things are different in Canada.
It's great you are so comfortable with your ambiguous sexuality, but why be so hard on everyone? I think it's important to talk about these things reasonably without having this knee-jerk "oh no, it's the PC police" reaction. It's just as predictable as the PC police itself. If both sides would just chill out we might actually be able to have an interesting conversation.
@Hoodie
Yeah I get people wanting to talk about it. It's just frustrating when people take one little aspect of themselves and make it their entire identity. They didn't want to talk about what it was like graduating from school, whether they were gonna work or go to University, what their plans for the summer were, what music they liked, if they played sports, were they into art etc. Whenever I tried to steer the conversation somewhere else they turned it right back.
Not to mention it was supposed to be the sort of prom where you don't have to constantly be explaining yourself. Yet I was constantly having to explain and defend myself from these supposedly open-minded people. That's the bit that got to me.
But you got a point, I was rather harsh I suppose. But I've been awake since yesterday, graveyard shifts kinda fuck with my rationality. Gonna go take a nap, probly realize how dumb I sound when I wake up and hide this whole mess.
Unreadable.
Nice write up, and no, you don't sound dumb. I salute you, sir, for being able to recognize the hypocrisy of the so-called "open-minded" at times. No one is perfect, everyone has faults, yet some of the supposedly open-minded seem to think they are above it all. Anyway, good write up, nice that you stood your ground and didn't feel the need to conform to their idea of what your sexuality should be called.
I take this simple theory and live by it.
If I'm not about to sleep with you, you don't need to know.
If you're at a gay prom, it should be taken as a given that you at least enjoy the sexual company of the same sex and just leave that subject out of the conversation because a) its not important and b) there are better things to talk about. If these people have to be so constantly reaffirming about their sexuality then they are probably in doubt of it themselves. Not all gay people are whining twats with fewer balls than a swimming pool but a lot of them are.
Stereotypes exist for a reason. Its up to every generation in that group if they're going to reinforce the stereotype again or try and break it. I get angry every time I see videos or photos from gay pride parades as its just an image of homosexuality which I don't recognise and certainly don't see as genuine.
I could go on for pages and pages on this issue, it inspires a great deal of anger in me.
Treating every race, ethnicity, sex preference or "life choice" as a four letter word is bigotry. We're all different and that's what makes social interaction fun. Besides, all of these things that make us different are funny as hell!
I don't think you sound dumb. I think this piece is cool because you're being very upfront and offering a unique perspective. I grew up gay (I mean I'm really not into sex with girls- crazy right?) in Tennessee, so while I would love it if we could all just ignore the bullshit that comes from people it IS there, it can be a big problem, and bigots need to be called out on it.
I can also see how a bunch of gays standing around talking about being gay could be really annoying and dull. But it will probably get better as you get a little older and people get more comfortable with themselves.
tl;dr
"So you're straight?"
"I don't think you can say that once you've fondled a dick."
Ths made me laugh considerably.
I've had/have friends who are in same-sex relationships, I've holidayed with gay guys and so on, I've really no problem with somebody's sexuality... But BY GOD I hate and despise people who make their sexuality a major facet of their personality that is constantly in your face.
Gay, fat, minority group... The people who shout the loudest are usually the biggest goddamn hypocrites of all.
This is meaningful, yet it also has humor. I like it, good blog, I agree. :]
I also laughed at the 'So you're straight?' line.
Nice writeup fag.
You are a (read name of blog).
Nice write-up, and I'm also excited to see that you are confident enough in your sexuality, as uncategorized as it may be, to talk about it freely with other people. As someone who has pretty much the exact same sexuality as you descibed, its comforting to see there are others out there that go through the SAME thing trying to explain yourself :P
Good on you sir :D
Bravo, well said. :] I agree whole heartedly. And it's nice that you are confident about your sexuality like that, as Tactix said.
[insert image of well-dressed audience clapping here]
okay.....
alright