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Pixelated Lilac | 11:40 PM on 12.14.2009 46 comments


Christ, I can't believe I'm actually doing this... but hey, what's wrong with letting out a little emotion, right?

Let me start off by saying: I'm really not keen on that whole “girl gamers” argument. It's a bit tiring. As someone who has to defend my ethnicity constantly, I am tired of arguing about the state of minorities in certain industries. While I'm open to fighting for civil rights and such, I'll only do it if it really matters. Asking for tits on a gaming site... well... I don't have energy to fight against that, quite frankly. In fact, I sometimes find myself laughing down at said rants and arguments. Moving on...

I'm currently in college. If you've looked around at my blog, you can see my pride for my school is so great that it's almost annoying. There's only one problem with this school however... it's not very welcoming to gamers. Sure, I've already explained how we have our Dance Dance Revolution machines and our little tight-knit community, but other than that there's nothing. In case you're unfamiliar with JMU, we're a pretty good school but also notorious for our parties and preppy student body. We're appealing to the women in Ugg boots and North Face jackets who love going out on a Friday night to party... not to play games. That being said, the chances of getting a room mate I can relate to are slim to none.

I was fortunate to get my roommate I had this semester. Although we had nothing in common, she was one of the kindest people I've ever met. Recently, her best friend who lives down the hallway lost her roommate and didn't want to stay alone. My roommate took this opportunity to fulfill her “best friend” duties, and long story short... I'm alone in my dorm again... and patiently waiting for the school to give me a new roommate.

This is where the meat of this blog comes in. When I was alone I looked at my Liberty City Underground map, analyzing it's locations and details, I realized that nothing would make me happier than to see my next roommate walk in and be able to find the Triangle Club on that map. I also took that alone time to play TF2 and make some War Contributions. Nothing would please me more than to have a roommate who would bitch at me for supporting Demoman. I would absolutely love for someone to help contribute to my Hideo Kojima/Solid Snake shrine. That's when it really hit me: am I really wanting... I don't want to say it... am I desiring... oh god I have to say it... do I want a... “girl gamer?”


STICKYBOMBS ARE FOR ASSHOLES

I used to look down at guys who were like, “I just want a woman who plays video games.” Granted, we're in completely different situations, I can finally see where they're coming from. Sure, it's one quality they demand and it's not hard to fulfill it, but to them, and recently myself... it means so much. Gaming is something that while may seem small, can open up to a whole new world of friendship and possibility. With this revelation, I'm finding myself blindly hoping for the possibility of my new roommate walking in and telling me, “I hope you don't mind me putting my Xbox360 near your new fish tank.” Guuuuuuuuuuurl, do I!??!

Maybe I'm living in a fantasy world... maybe I'm getting my hopes way too high, I don't know. I still really don't care about the whole female gamer argument. Hell, I wouldn't even be making this whole post if these dorms were Co-Ed. I guess it's up to the Office of Residential Living at this point.

I'll end this post with one more note: if any of you people who happen to be female are transferring to JMU next semester and would like to live in a dorm, sweet Jesus on a chicken-in-a-biscuit, PM me or something. You would make my semester.

PS: Yeah... Kings of Leon's “Use Somebody” just came on as I finished this blog... I'm going to tear up now =P

EDIT/CLARIFICATION: For the record, I'm a female in an all-female dorm at JMU who is looking for a new roommate. I don't want some "hot girlfriend" here. I'm not gay. Hell, I'm not even single. I was just expressing my need for a gamer roommate and I just so happen to have a sensational title that implies that I want a girlfriend or something.



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Galaxy Ninja's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 00:04
Galaxy Ninja
I'd fuck em

Ladies?
Pixelated Lilac's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 00:12
Pixelated Lilac
I'm sorry for being a bit confused but uh..

..fuck...

<_< >_> <_>

...me?
Mike Moran's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 00:13
Mike Moran
I'm not in the "I want a girl gamer" camp. It may be part of a natural progression, though. See, I'm of the belief that to have a girlfriend you must first be able to see that person as a friend. Someone who you would seriously want to just spend time with normally. Because of that, being a gamer might help such a thing.

However, being a gamer doesn't mean shit to me in the long run. Because if I want to be in a relationship with someone, it better be someone worth my fucking time. Being a gamer does not make you worth my time. At all. In fact statistically it might make you less worth my time considering how many gamers outside of Destructoid can be total fucking retards.

Give me an intelligent woman who I can relate to on the simple level that she's a good person with a good head and I'd say screw it. I'd try to make that work.
Pixelated Lilac's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 00:20
Pixelated Lilac
See Wry that's exactly how I saw roommates when I realize that I wasn't going to get someone I would completely relate to. While it was fun to have someone to connect with, not having something fantastic to always talk about and completely relate to felt awkward at times.

This is why I want to try a new realm where we connect through a different means like gaming. Yeah it's superficial sure, but there's nothing wrong with trying something new.

And you're correct... intelligence is always key. I don't want someone whose a 360 fanboy bitching about how MW2 was robbed at the Spike VGA's.
CelicaCrazed's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 00:22
CelicaCrazed
I'm calling it now: your new roommate will play nothing but Farmville on Facebook. Sorry -__-

This is the first year I've ever had roommates who game as well. Actually scratch that, this is the first year where my roommates play games other than WoW. It's great but at the same time, playing something over LAN till 4am on school nights is never good. Also, none of these bastards have current generation consoles. Looks like either the Xbox or PlayStation will be following me back to school next semester.

While your GPA might suffer slightly, I hope you get a roommate who is proficient with dual-analogs. Also, a cam-whore ^_^
Pixelated Lilac's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 00:34
Pixelated Lilac
Thank you for your wishes! I could care less if they're a cam-whore or anything, just give me something that I can really really relate to.

Oh gosh... just.. yeah mentioning GPA's makes me sick in my stomach right now, heh.
Lil Jorsche's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 01:32
Lil Jorsche
Having a gaming roommate that you can completely relate to is awesome. Yet this so called "awesome" will make sure you end up on Academic Probation.

I started off my freshman year without a roommate, then a kid whom I knew from highschool didn't want to live with his current roommate so he moved in with me. Together we had a PS3, PS2, Xbox 360, and GameCube hooked up to our two HDTV's. We even won the Cod: WaW doubles tourny at our school. Was failing all our classes first semester absolutely worth it? Yes, yes it was.

Too bad I'm going to a different college for video game design now. I miss those days... Hope you get a roommate that you can game with like I did.
Pixelated Lilac's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 01:43
Pixelated Lilac
Jorsche, thank you for your wishes! Although the thought of of Academic Probation makes me want to jump out of a window =P

Also, you mentioned Game Design... how is that? I'm asking since I'm currently a double major in Computer Science/Biotechnology and CS is more of a fall-back =P
grafkhun's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 01:53
grafkhun
Well good luck mate. I for one lucked out, my neighbors were all gamers and we spent many a night playing all maner of multiplayer games on someone's 360, it was glorious. Also, at first I thought this was a blog about a girl gamer girlfriend, but I see it's just a girl gamer roomate case.
Lil Jorsche's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 01:56
Lil Jorsche
"Also, you mentioned Game Design... how is that?" I'm really enjoying it so far. Had to take a bunch of the intro classes at first and they weren't so great. The farther you get in things like Level Design, C++, and Photoshop the more enjoyable it gets. I have to say that my favorite thing to do is model in 3DS Max. Wierd that you mention Computer Science, thats what I was gonna do at my previous college.
Cyber Altair's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 02:05
Cyber Altair
If you're on the internet then finding ANY girl is a blessing. Or it was last time I remember so why are people bitching about gamer girls these days?
Naim Master's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 02:48
Naim Master
Kinda sad...
Pixelated Lilac's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 02:50
Pixelated Lilac
@grafkhun
Thanks! I'm not very concerned about love and all, I just no longer think its funny that people want boyfriends and girlfriends like that.

@Jorshce
That's good! Your program sounds like my original major, which was more based on converged media. I'm not surprised about those intro classes either, as they seem to be a way to weed out those who aren't really involved. In the end, I changed my major because I would rather pursue a career in the medical field.

@Cyber Altair
I don't really know anymore. I could care less about the issue in general... I just want a sweet roommate.
MellowBunny's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 03:05
MellowBunny
I know how you feel :(.

Well it's little different since I'm a girl and in my small community finding other gamers is very HARD! I mean they are like fuckin ninjas! You see them one min on the computer and next thing you know they're GONE! I even have a Zelda triforce bookbag for my books and even this whole semester I haven't had anyone say anything about it.

I hope when I go to a four year college I'll find other gamers.
Necro BABS's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 03:12
Necro BABS
I think it would be bomb diggity.
PhazonYoshi's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 03:40
PhazonYoshi
It makes sense. You want a friend first, not a sex object, and how better to do that than to share an interest? A "Girl Gamer" is no different in spirit than a "Girl Music Listener", of which there are legions (but about 3 with good taste), so I don't think you're in the wrong at all here :)
Guncannon's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 03:47
Guncannon
Hey, I'm a hot girl from *hometown unidentified* who likes to play games of video! You sound like a cool guy who ladie like! Come to www.girlgamershookups.ru so we can chat and see where things go from!
Pixelated Lilac's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 04:15
Pixelated Lilac
@Mellowbunny
I'm sorry about that =(
That must suck. The triforce is one of the most iconic symbols in pop culture, so for no one to get it is like... what? The good thing however, is that in a 4 year college you WILL find people you can relate to. Granted, it sort of depends on the school you go to, universities have everyone. Trust me, it's a whole new world.

@Phazon
Oh gosh, despite the plaid shirts and the manly gestures I'm not gay. I just want a roommate who can be a friend/fellow player. Sex objects are for lame-o losers.

@Guncannon
Uh... what? I don't... I'm not even... what. Maybe I should change the headline.
vApathyv's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 04:30
vApathyv
See, I guess this is the part where I'm to count my blessings and realize that all but one of my female friends is in fact a 'girl gamer'. Maybe they're just all over the place where I live (Which would be really weird, I doubt this state would be considered a haven for gamers), but at the least I should appreciate that I can find people of the opposite sex that are into the same things as me, though I should go on record as saying that they're all just close friends. As Wry said, you can't really base a relationship on the simple fact that OMG they're a girl that plays teh vidyagaemz.

Though, I should probably point out, I might just know a lot of female gamers because I've never really been 'one of the guys'. I've just never fit in with the male populace, practically all of my friends are girls...I'm sure that speaks wonders about my masculinity, but whatever. xD

I'd like to think it's got nothing to do with me being a girly person though, unless the opposite of being a man is refusing to objectify people. One of the biggest reasons I don't get along with my own gender is because I'm just not into joining into the typical "Dude, she's hot" shenanigans that's so prevalent these days. And when I tell them I don't look at people the way they do, they just kind of laugh at me. But, that somehow nets me respect in other areas so it's not all bad I guess.

...And I'm just realizing that this whole tirade has contributed nothing to what you were blogging about. I blame the fact that it's almost 6AM, I've been up for about 16 hours, and I just got home from work...umm, good luck with college and getting another room mate, and if it's anything, at least know that not every guy out there thinks of female gamers as just a pair of boobs with a controller in their hands. Seriously though, I'm sure you'll get a cool room mate. She'll probably support the Soldier though. Prepare for a heated debate on that one.
Pixelated Lilac's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 04:38
Pixelated Lilac
@Apathy
Heh, it's totally okay. You made great points and it's my fault I wasn't exactly clear on the subject. Thank you for your support though!

And if she supports Soldier I will fuck her shit up so much she'll regret even touching a Rocket Launcher.
vApathyv's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 04:50
vApathyv
Well, I'm sure with that fancy new Eyelander you Demos got I'm sure you'll have a fun time roughin' them up. Me on the other hand, I've adopted the simple philosophy of "The war matters not to me, you both burn the same". Pyros FTW.
Pixelated Lilac's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 04:57
Pixelated Lilac
I know~! It's nice considering we are losing this fight by a slight margin.

I keep that mentally when I go to play the class I normallly play, which is Heavy =P they may not have the tactical advantage of Pyros, but Sastca can be effective against Stickybombs and Rockets.
vApathyv's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 05:06
vApathyv
Well, who needs tactics when you have a gigantic gun that costs 400,000 dollars just to fire for 12 seconds? Heavy said it best- "I have yet to meet man who can outsmart bullet."

Plus, most of the time, I throw tactics out the window when I play Pyro...I can't help it. The simple act of SETTING PEOPLE ON FIRE AND WATCHING THEM BURN TO DEATH AS THEY SCREAM IN PAIN tends to distract me from the whole playing smart thing...
lloyd's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 06:07
lloyd
@apathy "The simple act of SETTING PEOPLE ON FIRE AND WATCHING THEM BURN TO DEATH AS THEY SCREAM IN PAIN tends to distract me from the whole playing smart thing."
I know fire is so much fun.

@ Lilac good luck in your roomate fortunes, but as others have already stated gameing roomates = lower grades
Kraid's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 08:21
Kraid
Females appreciate shit. Especially in gaming.

For Example : I played more Little Big Planet with my girl friends than with my buddies because it's too "childish" for them. I'm serious if you have to play LBP play it with a girl.

I remember talking about Persona 4 to one of them and seeing that little sparkle of joy in her eyes. You don't get that with male gamers. (rarely)

I can see where you are coming from.
Neonie's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 09:17
Neonie
Girls on the internet?

It's more likely then you think >w>
Arttemis's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 10:03
Arttemis
Lilac, I seriously hope you find someone who's at least openminded about gaming and willing to give it a try.



(irrelevant/selfish boasting time)
I consider myself indescribably lucky for having a girlfriend who accepts my gaming obsession. She wasn't allowed any gaming while growing up, but

My future-wife stole my DS to play New Super Mario Brothers DS, and she kept her NES on for at least a straight week, paused with the TV off, playing through SMB3 with me.

Even better is when I brought over my 360 to her house and watched her play Assassin's Creed 2 for several hours, stabbing, stealing, and running throughout Florence like a pro after very little practice. She mastered counter-kills and mid-fall ledge grabbing as soon as I told her about them.

We fell in love with each other outside of gaming, but I'm glad beyond words that she's so eager to play with me.
Arttemis's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 10:13
Arttemis
Erm, didn't finish that sentence... "She wasn't allowed any gaming while growing up, but" she gets a kick out of playing some of the retro games she missed, such as Mario and Crash Bandicoot games.
Jon B's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 10:35
Jon B
I have a picture to post that is actually quite relevant to the topic indeed, but one section is NSFW and I'm on my way out and unable to photoshop it.

And finding a "girl gamer" of sorts is a difficult feat. I know.

I've tried.
Occams electric toothbrush's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 10:40
Occams electric toothbrush
Good luck with the search. A great roommate can really make a house a home if that makes any sense.
Elsa's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 10:59
Elsa
I have no tact, so I'll just wade right in here... are you male or female? Much as it doesn't make much difference, in some ways it does. If you're male, then wanting a female roommate who games isn't all that unusual, if you're female (and from several things you've said, it seems you could be) - then I understand where you are coming from.

The words "girl gamer" just tend to bring up images that most gamers who happen to be female don't often relate to.... but when it comes down to it, having a roommate who shares an interest such as gaming would be awesome enough to overcome the possibilities that she's one of the stereotypes (an attention-wh0re, a driven "be the best, PMS clan, girls are better than guys" type or one of the other stereotypes).

EDIT: Just saw your edit... and as noted, what you've said makes much more sense being female. I found it interesting (as you probably did as well) that though you didn't state your gender, many seemed to just assume that you were male. It really shouldn't make much difference...but it does. As a female you can't help but have a different perspective on gaming (and on anything) because being female is simply part of who you are. You also mention being an ethnic minority (but again don't specify) and once again, this is part of who you are. I don't see a reason not to blog about the lack of certain minorities as avatars in games, devs may not listen, gamers may see it as attention-wh0ring... but we're not all the same. There is a massive diversity of gamers and devs, the gaming community and even those on the outside looking in at the gaming business need to realize that lots of different people play games. More importantly, when blogging, it's nice just to let stuff out. That's what personal blogs are for... personal perspective.

I hope you do find a roomate who loves gaming... but if you don't, I hope you find a roommate that you can introduce to gaming - because gamers are made, not born. :)
Riegel88's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 11:30
Riegel88
One of my good friends goes to JMU, he used to go to Emory, and now I'm at ETSU.
I miss him =[
bottled dark's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 12:39
bottled dark
yeah it seems like it would rule.
then she beats you in blazblue and you start some shit.
bitch cheated, she only played as NU
TheCleaningGuy's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 13:01
TheCleaningGuy
Hell, I'm in an engineering hall at University of Washington, and my male roommates won't play games with me. Good luck!
Arch649's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 13:42
Arch649
I know what you mean. Finding girl gamers is difficult. Most girl gamers I know are either the "clueless Japanophile" type or casual gamers.

My gf is mainly a casual type but she got a 360 about a month ago with MW2 and L4d2. She's gotten pretty good at Left 4 Dead but mostly because I was showing her the ropes.
Jesus H Christ's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 14:07
Jesus H Christ
Best. Header. Ever.
AlLeBlanc's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 14:37
AlLeBlanc
One of my ex was a gamer, and I can tell, it's fucking awesome.
CWal37's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 14:59
CWal37
Man, sometimes it's nice to be a guy. You know how women who live together get on the same menstrual cycle? My roommate and I will independently start playing TF2 within a second of each other, it happens all the time. Which I think means we're on the same TF2 cycle, although our Rock Band, LittleBigPlanet and Bomberman cycles aren't quite synced yet.
Dan CiTi's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 15:08
Dan CiTi
I don't know how to talk to girls!! Ahhhhhhh!
Pixelated Lilac's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 17:15
Pixelated Lilac
@Kraid
Oh I totally agree. That's why I love being in an all females dorm.

@Arrtemis
I mean that would be fine and all, I just want someone who I can immediately connect too. Granted getting my boyfriend into MGS was a great experience and I appreciate his openmindness, I still want someone whose already been exposed to the gaming world just to have that connection already. Wow... after reading that I realized I'm pretty picky. Well damn.

@Jon
If I'm trying to find them as a platonic roommate for school do you think I'll be a bit more lucky?

@Occam
Yeah it really does. It's the difference between freshman success and freshman fallout.

@Elsa
Thanks! I was pretty convoluted with my words so I almost feel bad for not explicitly stating my gender. I guess despite it's significance to the story, I didn't want it to be one of the main points in this post. You're completely correct about having difference perspectives about certain situations based on your race or gender. It goes beyond gaming to - there are some issues I can't help but see completely different from others... and i'm willing to accept that.

@Riegel
I'm sorry that you miss him =(
Do you happen to know is major or something? If he's a huge gamer I've probably seen him around since we have a lot of events that attract gamers on campus.

@bottled
LOL oh jeez. Gaming or not, those are the finest moments in roommate/dorm life.

@TheCleaningGuy
That doesn't bode well it with me I'm assuming =\
Hell, I'm surprised you're gaming right now. Engineering majors have such an enigma to me ><

@Arch
Meh, you're right. It's a huge roll of the dice here.

@CWal37
Did you just compare videogames to periods? I'm getting cramps thinking about it.
confusionbomb's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/15/2009 23:37
confusionbomb
I game, my wife games. But we play different kinds of games. Sometimes I miss the all night SSB Melee and MvsC2 action I got from my roommates in college. I feel your pain.

P.S. - I see you're localish; you are coming to MAGfest, right?
Yashoki's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/16/2009 02:25
Yashoki
Thanks for the blog, it actually made me ponder why I would choose this person over that when it comes to their hobbies. I'm really into anime and manga, but I wouldn't really want to room with someone else who did since possibly 90% of the people who do are these kids who spaz out when they watch naruto.

Thanks for the thinker. :)
Crunshii's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/16/2009 10:46
Crunshii
lol. This should be in the front page.
Pixelated Lilac's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/16/2009 16:17
Pixelated Lilac
@confusion
Yeah, I just got my hotel room and tickets yesterday. In an ironic twist, I'll be attending with a bunch of dudes.

@Yashoki
Lol thanks for the remarks! I'm glad it makes you think and you have a point: I love anime but I don't want someone whose trying to turn Super Sayian everyday between classes (were there any female super sayians? sheesh)

@Crunshii
Hahah, yeah I was considering putting on a roommate find or something.
CrocBox's Avatar - Comment posted on 12/17/2009 01:22
CrocBox
360 next to a fish tank? That's dangerous :o
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