I'm not so much bitter, but pessimistic about relationships in general. I had a whole year to think about relationships and how the whole process works out. Now I always hear "THERE ARE OTHER FISH IN THE SEA FOR YOU!!!" and the famous, "just wait and they'll come to you!" After awhile I just get tired of hearing that, but it doesn't help me find a relationship any time sooner.
I'm in community college now and I'm almost going on to FINALLY a four year school to continue my education as a Early Childhood teacher. I've been there for a good three years now and I haven't really made friends there or met anyone who I would find interesting. Most of the people at my college act really immature and it's pretty much like the 13th grade for high schoolers. There are some who do take their education seriously, but there are some who just fool around. In short everyone there is ghetto, yeah I know it's a generalization to make, but this is just from what I've seen for three years. Three years here I haven't met a SINGLE gamer at my college. I walk around with my Zelda book bag that my dad got me and I think just one person said something about it.I'm not saying not all because no one said anything about my book bag means there are no gamers. I'm sure there are gamers, they're just hiding like ninjas for now.
Last year was my first year being single and I wasn't unhappy about it. I spent most of the time with friends and family, but overall I was very happy about last year. It's just ALL my friends are seeing someone or have someone in mind they like. My two best friends are pretty say this to me "STOP READING THOSE SHOJO MANGAS AND MAYBE YOU"LL FIND A GUY!" I laughed and thought "How could I not read those? It's the only thing I got to forget about my uneventful love life". It does keep my mind off things like love, but sometimes I wish I had that. My best friend is still amazed that I really haven't found anyone yet and a gamer no less. Yeah, I am looking for someone who shares the same interests as me and doesn't mind my nerdy side, but I'm also looking for someone who likes me for being myself, as corny as the sounds. Even when I read about these nerdy gamer weddings and stuff it makes me thing "That girl is so LUCKY D:! Why can't I have that!?"
So this Valentine's Day I don't really have a boyfriend to spend it with and that's okay, because I have my friends to keep me company on this very loving day. I'll most likely go about this day like any other normal day, but with the side of chocolate sweets! It's still the beginning of the year and who knows I may find myself a nice guy. I know there will be people who will tell me I shouldn't put a checklist for finding a guy, but my recent ex-boyfriend didn't even like that I played video games and pretty much disliked the fact I was nerdy about it. So I really think common interests do play a role in who you date.
Well I feel sort of better after writing this. Ugh, I went on the PSN this week and found their Valentine's Day specials for games. I can't even escape from Valentine's Day on my own gaming system D:!
Anyways I hope everyone here has a good Valentine's Day!
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I know how you feel about "Always hearing the same thing," but (and I can tell I'm preachin' to the choir) those things are said because they're true. Think of all the people within a 100-200 mile radius of where you are at any given time. Can't act as if those odds are somehow against you. And I dunno what the hell people are saying when they say you shouldn't have a checklist. You should totally have a checklist. And you shouldn't settle until you find somehone who meets every god damn criteria on that checklist. Because the fact is you don't settle. Trust me you'll be worse off for it.
Now chin up and enjoy your sweets kiddo.
HAPPY VALENTINE'S FROM XZYLIAC!
Well... luckily for me I still have a friend who i fins her pretty around here, but I think she got a bf.
Sooooo.....yeah.
I think it's actually good for people to find their own happy place while they are single... and it sounds like you are almost there. Read manga if that's what you like. Do the things that make you happy.. not things that will "meet guys". When you're happy being single I think it's easier to "choose" who you want to be with, and not be with someone just because you don't like being single.
Meh... not sure if I'm explaining this right, but there's nothing wrong with being alone on Valentine's Day. Sometimes just loving yourself and who you are is a greater gift than being with someone else, because it's better than being alone. The ideal of course is being with someone you love who also loves you... but that only generally happens when you are also happy with who you are.
I think I found your problem.
You might want to exploit interests like that, there's nothing wrong in loving gaming we are the proof but sometimes you can't force the Mario into someones mind. Sometimes people don't want to play games.
I've been alone pretty much all my life except from certain short-term relationships and I never really consider myself lonely. I'm a solitary person and I usually enjoy being alone for extended periods of time. Helps me think and keep my soul up.
I don't know I might just be a very weird guy but I don't consider Valentine's day that important.
You should cheer up Mellow you don't need to be so down on a day like that. You'll find someone that you really care about someday and the feeling will be giving back equally.
Anyway, if you come to PAX East, I guarantee you'll meet many good looking guys who will be overjoyed at the prospect of dating a girl who likes videogames. It's really weird that you're having trouble as it is. Bad luck maybe?
Also, have you gone to any of the events at the Nintendo World Store in NYC? I figure that would be a good place to find love...
I don't know why I hope. I'M GINGER. My position is hopeless. =O
But I may be an exception, as my entire conversation tree lies within the confines of gaming and to a lesser extent, anime. Anything beyond that leads to forced conversation with me.
I dislike the V-day, but partially because my lonliness through the years has lead to me being immediately jealous (which then leads to disgust and dislike) of others who have happy relationships and the like. I'm like the scrooge of Love, I guess.
But I will say this, it's hard to find girls (at least here) that are actually gamers, and know about games and whatnot. The fact that you do is pretty cool, at least to me, since that means I could hold a conversation with you.
Am I thinking too far into the topic? I'm slightly disoriented right now. For some reason, I've been really dizzy all day. It's probably not a good thing.
Have you tried online dating?? You might not meet your match, but it gets you out of the house and interacting with new people, so you have more confidence when it comes to seeing someone that youre keen on.
And always remember, it could be worse, you could be stuck in a shitty relationship, which has got to be a million times worse than single.
I would probably hate myself dating the average person in general. I'm extremely cynical over quality of character in human beings. Makes me exceptionally picky with women. Funny thing, though? There's a girl who gets a large portion of her relationship advice from me despite not having a woman myself.
I find it odd that being a female gamer you don't have your pick of the crowd, but I guess if nobody's out in the open it's hard to find any options. Really if you want to telegraph you play games I'd say pull out your game device in public. You whip out a Gameboy Micro and you'll have all kinds of people wondering what the hell it is. Someone on the bus just asked me if it were a Super Nintendo or something.
... he wasn't too attractive, though. Wouldn't be even if I were a girl. Hmmm.... maybe you ought to forget my advice.
ChronosWing@....
Monodi@ Well the guys at my community college make me want to bitch slap someone. Just some of the things they do are just so immature.
Elsa@ Elsa you should really write a book. You're right about loving yourself and I honestly do love myself for who I am. I do hope I'm at the point where I'll find someone to meet. For now I'll do the things that make me happy.
Gatsby@ Said from the person who didn't know I was a girl first off.
Kraid@ Oh I never try to change a person to like my interests. If someone doesn't like video games that's still fine with me. I won't be little them over something I love and they don't like. I like to be alone at times too, but not for too long, then the loneness starts to get to me. However, thats why I have friends and family for ^_^! My friends didn't want me being alone on Valentine's Day and I'm thankful for that. I hope I find someone to share my love for video games with.
Jonathan Holmes@ Yeah that's right. I am going to Pax East this year and I always hear it isn't so wise to meet guys at conventions, but this isn't a anime event so I think maybe I'll have a better chance at meeting a guy. I do go to Nintendo events as well and every guy there seems to be with their girlfriends.
beverlynoelle@ LOL XD! Thank you! My cousins said the samething, but their only kids. Well I don't have the gets to talk to a hot gamer guy sometimes. The feeling is mutual.
Pudge Controls the Weather@ I've experienced the same here. When I do meet gamers they're always into ONE type of video game or just one video game series all together. I never really met anyone who had a open mind about video games.
RenagadePanda@ I know how you feel when it comes to conversations. I can talk my head off about what video games I love and my opinions about video games in general. Whenever I talk to others it's really hard to start a conversation at times, because I may not show interests in what they like to talk about. Doesn't mean I'm not a social person, but yeah you know what I mean.
BlackSunEmpire@ FUCK NO! I would never try online dating. There are other ways to meet people and specially other gamers. Besides I rather not get raped or stalked by some crazy guys.
Wry Guy@ I Do actually play my DS everywhere I go and in public. The last time I did this some Xbox360 fanboy kept bitching to me why xbox360 ruled all. However I don't make one bad experience get to me. I still play video games out in the open anyways.
Anyways thank you guys for the advice guys and really made me feel better about yesterday!
It was good. I've had better.
Anyway, chill out. I live in an army town full of superficial, egotistical girls who only give you the time of day if you look like a GQ model or if you've got a ton of money. I was homeschooled, have never been laid, have never had a girlfriend, and have never even been kissed. Instead of wallowing in self-pity, I put my shame behind me and still try with women. I don't get rejected from women from a lack of game or charisma (people are surprised when they find out I was homeschooled), but because I got the short end of the stick when it comes to physical traits and I don't have money to compensate for it. Yet I still stay optimistic that things will change, and count my blessings in life and realize how it could be much worse.
If I can keep my chin up, so can you. Suck it up.