No, not Rush Limbaugh. Dr Laura (she comes on after Rush).

So a 44 year old woman married 21 years calls to get some advice on how to save her marriage and to complain about her husband who spends all of his time playing his "Computer Games"

Dr Laura asks if the man has a job.

It turns out that he does have a 9-5 job, and he makes a comfotable living for the both of them. After he gets home from work, he either eats dinner that's ready or makes something for himself and them he goes down into the basement to play on his computer until he goes to sleep aroung 11pm.

I'm laughing at this point from the lingo these two ladies are using, and I figure the man plays WoW.

"What is it like when the two of you do talk and interact?" asks Dr Laura. After some "err.."s and some "umm..."s she admit she nags him quite a bit.

This is where I was nicely surprised. Dr Laura told the caller that the Video Games were a symptom, not the problem. That they were an escape, and in all honesty one of the better ones the man could have chosen. He's not out in bars with his buddies, he's not having an affair, he's home.

Dr Laura explained that the woman was causing her husband to feel the need to escape. She'd stopped being his girlfriend, stopped being his lover, and had become only his nagging wife. "Give him something better to do than play video games. Make him a better offer, " urged Dr Laura.

"I'm supposed to compete with his Video Game?" asked the caller, incredulous.

"YES!" Was Dr Laura's emphatic reply. And to not expect him to give them up completely either. It's somthing he enjoys, and he does his job as provider apparently well, and he deserves a hobby or a passtime that is only his.

"Be his girlfriend again. Be his lover again. Show him that that is still you."

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I think my favorite part of the whole thing is that the idea or the focus wha NOT to find something to blame but instead to find something to do. Dr Laura wasn't going to give in to this woman and join her Pity Party. Instead she was going to give the caller some genuine help, direction, guidance.



[Note: all quotes are what I remember. I'm sure I paraphrased. I couldn't get a transcript. Also, I think this was almost 2 weeks ago.]