I have concluded that if I take these sour grapes and use those to make the wine that you will ask me if I would like cheese to go with, I can actually make sour wine, the most powerful metaphor for complaints ever concocted.
Or, I could apologize to a number of upset individuals who were offended by the brashness of my comments yesterday. While I stand by my suggestion that some people unhappy with the state of Destructoid need to come back and take part rather than be unhappy on the sidelines, being combative is the last thing that will see that happen.
There are a few untrue things floating around, such as I hate the community or whatever, and I doubt I can convince you otherwise considering it's something a number of you seem to have believed for a long time. All I'll say is that I'm in IRC more and more every day, I came up with the idea of a live podcast which included as many community members as we could cram in, and my Xbox Live games with guys from Dtoid are some of the most fun gaming times I ever have. A huge part of what makes Dtoid what it is, is the community.
The post yesterday is something I should have handled waaaaay better. My intent wasn't to upset anyone, but sometimes I type faster than my brain processes, and saying things like "I won't consider them the community" is not only unwise, but it also tars a lot of people with one brush and makes them feel persecuted.
I was never hired to interact with the Dtoid community, and I do in fact consider my job and the community two separate entities. My job is to help ensure the growth and the personality of Dtoid. My spare time is where I fuck around in IRC and Xbox Live and meet people and all that stuff. I'm not paid to make nice with anybody here, I do it because I have found some amazingly funny people here and because I even consider some of you friends. Some friends were pissed off yesterday, and that's fucking rubbish.
I'm sorry for coming off like a grade-A douche and I hope that the people who took what I said personally can draw a line under this. There were some pretty vicious and nasty things said about me, from my porky fatness to my worth as a Destructoid editor. Personally, I'd like to pretend such things were never said, because just as what I said yesterday was unbecoming of site staff, I think those comments were unbecoming of a Dtoider. On my end of things, I'm just gonna draw a line under the whole thing and move on, if you will permit to do so.
I didn't mean to upset the apple cart and I apologize for doing so. I hope we can all move forward a better community after this.
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(# 0) on 01/12/2009 07:56
Yes, I took the least significant thing in the post and made it my comment. Isn't that what we're supposed to do?
Hugs Jim.
(# 1) on 01/12/2009 08:01
I have never been called one but I've never felt like there was any malicious intent in your comments. I'd be honoured to be part of the list.
I realise that this was not the main point to any of this but I also think that some people take your humour without that pinch of salt it sometimes needs. I hope people don't actually thin you are as scathing as your tongue-in-cheek comments often suggest.
Oh, and without that live pod we would have never heard that fantastic Coldplay cover. Possibly the greatest event in history.
<3
(# 2) on 01/12/2009 08:08
(# 3) on 01/12/2009 08:08
(# 4) on 01/12/2009 08:12
That L4D match was good times :-)
(# 5) on 01/12/2009 08:16
Bravo, Jim. Its nice to see some people on the internet can still be accountable and actually care about what they say.
I have to admit though that I missed the entire hubbub cause I was in trance from watching too much doctor who for the past week.
(# 6) on 01/12/2009 08:16
Always.
(# 7) on 01/12/2009 08:16
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(# 9) on 01/12/2009 08:43
Tell me about it! I've had to go elsewhere for overpriced apples when apparently we had one here the whole time? :(
I demand reparations! Free apples for a week!
(# 10) on 01/12/2009 08:49
Look, if there's a Destructoid apple cart I WANT IN!
Seriously, somebody hook me up with the apples.
I love apples.
Jim's alright too.
He's not apple though . . .
(# 11) on 01/12/2009 08:52
good times
(# 12) on 01/12/2009 08:54
(# 13) on 01/12/2009 08:56
(# 14) on 01/12/2009 08:59
(# 15) on 01/12/2009 09:07
(# 16) on 01/12/2009 09:11
Cudos
(# 17) on 01/12/2009 09:24
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(# 19) on 01/12/2009 09:41
(# 20) on 01/12/2009 09:46
/sycophancy
(# 21) on 01/12/2009 09:59
I consider every single dtoid-user to be part of the Dtoid-Army!
(# 22) on 01/12/2009 10:15
(# 23) on 01/12/2009 10:37
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(# 25) on 01/12/2009 11:18
Sometimes calling someone on acting dickish directly is best, and if they get all indignant about it it means you were right; they obviously weren't confused over it, so they must know what they were doing. A "Fuck you, you're being douchebags." should not be able to break someone off from a generally hospitable community like Destructoid. Telling someone to shut the fuck up and come back to the party with everyone else works among friends.
Then again, that's just my personal experience. I may be too sexy for people to keep away, but I doubt that's the case.
(# 26) on 01/12/2009 11:20
I think people, myself included, are still on the edge about this whole thing and my be quick to jump to conclusions, whether right or wrong. I'm glad you had the balls to delete your post, and make this apology, and hopefully those members who you offended/offended you can kiss and make up so to speak. We all said some things while heated that may not be true, so hopefully we can all put this and all this other shit behind us and move forward as a community.
(# 27) on 01/12/2009 11:22
(# 28) on 01/12/2009 11:24
I look forward to this new era of piece and let it be known that any merchant who wishes to trade with sterling, that he is a fair and honest man.
(# 29) on 01/12/2009 11:35
I think my problem was focusing on the emailer at all. I never intended to make that the source of any blame, but obviously my mentioning it made it look like I was saying "this is everything that is wrong" and I fucked up my own point.
What should have been a much more welcoming call for people to come together turned into a blame game, which is thanks mainly to my own abrasive nature. This is of course why Niero is the man in charge of this site, and I am just here to post silly header pictures and photoshop Samit's head onto various things.
(# 30) on 01/12/2009 11:49
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(# 32) on 01/12/2009 12:36
Less than three mister Sterling.
Less than three.
(# 33) on 01/12/2009 12:44
The reason most of you got angry a short while ago over a specific banning is understandable, but that needs to remain between the two people it involves. IT SHOULDN'T INVOLVE ANYONE ELSE AND NEEDS TO STAY THAT WAY.
We're all in this together. For everyone that's saying that Dtoid is "dying", then you're part of the problem. Instead of saying it, get active and fix the issue instead of bitching about it. If you see a person dying on the street, you're not just going to stand there. You're going to call an ambulance. You're just as responsible for killing the guy if you don't call for help. And in this case, you need to call an escort service. I want a white blond girl and an Asian girl.
(# 34) on 01/12/2009 12:52
(# 35) on 01/12/2009 12:59
Dtoid is great, now can this PLEASE be the last dramatic "Dtoid is changing wawawa" post?
<3
(# 36) on 01/12/2009 13:09
I like rocks, they apple.
(# 37) on 01/12/2009 13:10
But really, I think its nice that you feel you need to say more. You didnt really have to, but you did. I wasn't offended, or didn't care in general about the whole drama thing, but saying more shows you really do care how people see you here and that you do care about the community. Just keep doing what you are doing. Keep saying cunt especially. I have several friends who listen to your podcasts for that reason alone. Never lose your humor, and don't let the trolls get you down. I fucking love just about all you do Jim, keep it up.
(# 38) on 01/12/2009 13:14
we can't and shouldn't dictate your interactions with the community and that's exactly what some people are trying to do by getting upset that you didn't comment in their shitty blog. you do what you can and there should be no apologising for that. in fact, i believe alot of people owe you an apology as well but they're so far up their own ass that probably won't happen. i don't think i do but i will and say i'm sorry if i crossed that line and its unacceptable to believe you can be everywhere at once and its unrealistic as well.
(# 39) on 01/12/2009 13:46
(# 40) on 01/12/2009 13:51
Fuck drama, and fuck the drama queens that troll around to stir it up. Some people need to grow the fuck up and live their lives without becoming 15 year old high school cheerleader shit heads.
(# 41) on 01/12/2009 14:14
(# 42) on 01/12/2009 14:14
I love you Jim.
(# 43) on 01/12/2009 14:18
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(# 46) on 01/12/2009 17:49
and to comment on what CTZ said, I would also like an asian girl.
(# 47) on 01/13/2009 02:41
", I came up with the idea of a live podcast which included as many community members as we could cram in, "
Which podcast are you talking about????
(# 48) on 01/13/2009 06:19
(# 49) on 01/13/2009 11:29