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Oh Internet gender confusion. I've née had that problem...nope...never...hey what's this in my PM box? "Are you a dude or a chick? Just asking. kthxbai." God dammit not another one.
Anyhow I've had the same experience on Live. Most memorable were two occasions. The one was when the dude had decided I was a chick and sent me pictures if his ass. That was nice of him. Of course he added all kinds of wonderful text to express the caring and loving things he'd do to me. And then another time when I mistook a chick for a dude. I was playing Halo 2 and I kept calling her dude (which I guess bothered her, I dunno) and she sent me a messgae to the equivalent of "I'm not a dude. Shut the fuck up." To which replied "My b." We were actually good Internet buddies for a while.
The gender confusion thing can be funny just because it's weird how some react. Some people get enormously pissed off. I remember on a forum from WAY back I told chick my gender and she was steamin'. I believe she called for me to get banned because I apparently "Tricked her." That was nice. If I do recall she PM'd me asking for my advice but whatever. She got banned for trolling.
What am I talking about? Oh yeah gender confusion. It's funny. It's even funnier how even with a mic nobody really knows. I've been on XBL, PSN, and a few group chats and to this day people are still confused. No matter the avatar or what. It's...interesting. Usually if someone calls me "Mr." or "girl," I just ignore it.
I'm pretty sure my first DToid related event will be the first time anyone on the Internet has ever seen my face. My face on the Internet. Creepy. I quite like my anonymity.
Anyhow I've had the same experience on Live. Most memorable were two occasions. The one was when the dude had decided I was a chick and sent me pictures if his ass. That was nice of him. Of course he added all kinds of wonderful text to express the caring and loving things he'd do to me. And then another time when I mistook a chick for a dude. I was playing Halo 2 and I kept calling her dude (which I guess bothered her, I dunno) and she sent me a messgae to the equivalent of "I'm not a dude. Shut the fuck up." To which replied "My b." We were actually good Internet buddies for a while.
The gender confusion thing can be funny just because it's weird how some react. Some people get enormously pissed off. I remember on a forum from WAY back I told chick my gender and she was steamin'. I believe she called for me to get banned because I apparently "Tricked her." That was nice. If I do recall she PM'd me asking for my advice but whatever. She got banned for trolling.
What am I talking about? Oh yeah gender confusion. It's funny. It's even funnier how even with a mic nobody really knows. I've been on XBL, PSN, and a few group chats and to this day people are still confused. No matter the avatar or what. It's...interesting. Usually if someone calls me "Mr." or "girl," I just ignore it.
I'm pretty sure my first DToid related event will be the first time anyone on the Internet has ever seen my face. My face on the Internet. Creepy. I quite like my anonymity.
That picture of the man getting attacked by turtles is far too amusing haha. It's like the artist drew that especially for me.
I don't know how he thought you sounded like a man but it's great to hear that most everyone was sticking up for both you and "gay men". As more and more games focus on teamwork, I'm sure these types of outbursts would decrease. Or I hope that the bigots can get silenced more.
I don't know how he thought you sounded like a man but it's great to hear that most everyone was sticking up for both you and "gay men". As more and more games focus on teamwork, I'm sure these types of outbursts would decrease. Or I hope that the bigots can get silenced more.
Elsa, you must have the patience of saint or a supreme love of online play to put up with that kind of behavior.
This is why I don't play online. I have a prepared line for when asked why I don't play games on Live or PSN and it's that if I want to get called a faggot, I'll talk to my 14-year-old nephew about music. Now that's a bit of a stretch but the sentiment is the same. I'm not that competitive when it comes to gaming and the idea of some child in another state talking about raping my mother because I got in the way of his frag or some shit doesn't appeal to me at all. I don't play games to be insulted and the fact that some people just can't act like human beings doesn't make me want to try online play.
It seems to me like a lot of people I know have a close group of friends they play with online and that's their happy place. Maybe I need to find that. More than likely I'll just stick to the lady and I playing games together.
Also, those turtles are really pissed.
This is why I don't play online. I have a prepared line for when asked why I don't play games on Live or PSN and it's that if I want to get called a faggot, I'll talk to my 14-year-old nephew about music. Now that's a bit of a stretch but the sentiment is the same. I'm not that competitive when it comes to gaming and the idea of some child in another state talking about raping my mother because I got in the way of his frag or some shit doesn't appeal to me at all. I don't play games to be insulted and the fact that some people just can't act like human beings doesn't make me want to try online play.
It seems to me like a lot of people I know have a close group of friends they play with online and that's their happy place. Maybe I need to find that. More than likely I'll just stick to the lady and I playing games together.
Also, those turtles are really pissed.
Why did you have to bring Wesley in all of this ;_;
I guess people will never change especially in the First Person Shooting scene. Everyone's balls to the wall trying to proove their manliness for nothing....There's too much reppressed man-child testosterone flowing in competitive gaming if you ask me. That's why I've been playing coop and single player games exclusively for the past 5 years.
also , Girls on the internets?? Zimpossible!!!
@Xzyliac: Talking about gender , you know what's funny.... Last sunday my old folks we're listenning to a talk-show while I was invited for dinner and Elly Jackson was on that show. My folks are pretty open-minded people and they could've sworn it was a man until the host said "she". I facepalmed in my mind , I was so ashamed of them for a moment.
I guess people will never change especially in the First Person Shooting scene. Everyone's balls to the wall trying to proove their manliness for nothing....There's too much reppressed man-child testosterone flowing in competitive gaming if you ask me. That's why I've been playing coop and single player games exclusively for the past 5 years.
also , Girls on the internets?? Zimpossible!!!
@Xzyliac: Talking about gender , you know what's funny.... Last sunday my old folks we're listenning to a talk-show while I was invited for dinner and Elly Jackson was on that show. My folks are pretty open-minded people and they could've sworn it was a man until the host said "she". I facepalmed in my mind , I was so ashamed of them for a moment.
*bashes head on desk*
It doesn't really make sense though Elsa, and don't worry about your voice or anything, it says more about them than it does you. Also, they shouldn't say stuff like that but they have the stupid freedom of the internet behind them and they probably get off on it somehow.
Here's hoping you get less hassle in the future.
It doesn't really make sense though Elsa, and don't worry about your voice or anything, it says more about them than it does you. Also, they shouldn't say stuff like that but they have the stupid freedom of the internet behind them and they probably get off on it somehow.
Here's hoping you get less hassle in the future.
When you are a guy in any internet based medium, you expect some things:
1. A god damn majority of the users are male, especially in video games.
2. Being guys expecting to be playing with guys, it is hard to detect when someone is a woman, because women playing games are not obvious. Not too obvious, at least.
For example, it took me a while to realize Xzyliac is a girl. Yeah, it took me a darn time to analyze her for the reason she is not an obvious girl. Especially being in a community with very open minded people as well, she could have been a gay guy.
Do not take me wrong, I find the homogenization of genres as a virtue because there is not much discrimination at all when communicating with the anonymity of the web. The problem is, we are still in a society with very traditional standards, and the real world rules over the gaming world in any dimension being biological or economical.
And also, you are a very, very rare case with those standards, Elsa. You are a freaking 47 year old woman of course, we mostly expect people of that age being teachers, PhDs or any sort of the "productive member of the society".
1. A god damn majority of the users are male, especially in video games.
2. Being guys expecting to be playing with guys, it is hard to detect when someone is a woman, because women playing games are not obvious. Not too obvious, at least.
For example, it took me a while to realize Xzyliac is a girl. Yeah, it took me a darn time to analyze her for the reason she is not an obvious girl. Especially being in a community with very open minded people as well, she could have been a gay guy.
Do not take me wrong, I find the homogenization of genres as a virtue because there is not much discrimination at all when communicating with the anonymity of the web. The problem is, we are still in a society with very traditional standards, and the real world rules over the gaming world in any dimension being biological or economical.
And also, you are a very, very rare case with those standards, Elsa. You are a freaking 47 year old woman of course, we mostly expect people of that age being teachers, PhDs or any sort of the "productive member of the society".
I completely understand where you're coming from. Prejudice is starting to become second nature now, and that's really, <I>really</I> sad.
Also, this is the best blog title in the history of the website.
Also, this is the best blog title in the history of the website.
Elsa, you really make me want to abandon my reclusive ways and play online. :P
Single player does get me out of a lot of those situations, but I remember once upon a time being in a party with one of my few Live friends, and one of his friends joined us. It was cool until he saw I was playing through the storymode of Dead or Alive. I was then treated to a tirade from a 13-year-old about his masturbatory practices...
But still, you make me want to play online.
Single player does get me out of a lot of those situations, but I remember once upon a time being in a party with one of my few Live friends, and one of his friends joined us. It was cool until he saw I was playing through the storymode of Dead or Alive. I was then treated to a tirade from a 13-year-old about his masturbatory practices...
But still, you make me want to play online.
Me: Soldier Dude, help me!
Solider: I'm a girl!
-headshot-
Sniper: Now you're Dead!
I laughed all the way to Dustbowl...
Solider: I'm a girl!
-headshot-
Sniper: Now you're Dead!
I laughed all the way to Dustbowl...
" If I move the voice changer even one notch upward... I sound like Marvin the Martian."
Who would not want Marvin the Marshan as their Platton Leader?
I don't know how you put up with this. I don't play online for this reason. I just hate putting up with bullshit.
Who would not want Marvin the Marshan as their Platton Leader?
I don't know how you put up with this. I don't play online for this reason. I just hate putting up with bullshit.
Where's sexualchocolate? We've got proof that there are immature and retarded PSN users, just like on 360!
Also, asshole people are assholes.
Also, asshole people are assholes.
I actually never turn on my headset for some of these reasons. The first time in a long time was when I was playing FNF with some of the Dtoiders. Either I'm the "Fag/Faggot" or somebody else in earshot is and it just makes for a really obnoxious experience.
LOL Xyliac!.... yeah the "dude" thing seems to bother many gals. I too hate being called "dude". I don't mind "buddy" or "guys" - but for some reason I find being called "dude" really annoying. Regarding your gender... yeah, I have to admit it's been a matter of curiosity to me - but me wuvs you regardless of your gender... your comments on various blogs and your participation is a large part of what makes Dtoid special for me!
@Celica... bigots do tend to get reprimanded on PSN for the most part! (and I too loved the turtles pic!)
@occams... I really do love online play! I do try to group up with Dtoid people when I can, but often I also end up playing with randoms. These aren't actually common occurences, it's just odd that it's happened a few times in the past week. It should also be noted that for the few guys that did speak up... an awful lot of people probably also thought I might be a gay male and never said a word!
@Kraid... I loved that movie! Especially Swayze!
FPS games are getting better though... not as much testosterone. Some guy had loud music playing in a game yesterday and I asked him to turn it down... he explained that it was his girlfriend playing music and that he didn't want to be in the doghouse! Good enough! We all agreed that was a legitimate reason (though not a very manly one LOL!)
@Mark... yeah, hopefully bigots being hassled back encourages them to keep quiet in future games!
@Monodi... Xyl is a girl? meh, I love him/her (and don't care if it makes me gay!) I was a "productive member of society" for many years... but now I'm just a lazy-ass gamer! I think I like being a gamer better! :)
@Pedrovay... yeah, I do seem to luck into decent blog titles... though odd stuff keeps happening to me that lends itself to obvious titles!
@armless... yes! Come over to the dark side! Game online with us!!!!
@munkeex... thanks!
@socialnorms... OMG! LOL! That's hilarious!
@Dax... LOL!!
@Nate... I've had Marvin for a Platoon Leader... hard to take him/her seriously!
@Jesus... south park "gay"! :)
@manasteel... honestly I've been playing MAG a LOT... by a lot, try about 7 or 8 hours a day on some days. Given the amount of gaming time I'm doing, running into these situations is quite rare (though memorable!)
@Xzyliac... no idea! (but he was pretty pissed off!)
@Celica... bigots do tend to get reprimanded on PSN for the most part! (and I too loved the turtles pic!)
@occams... I really do love online play! I do try to group up with Dtoid people when I can, but often I also end up playing with randoms. These aren't actually common occurences, it's just odd that it's happened a few times in the past week. It should also be noted that for the few guys that did speak up... an awful lot of people probably also thought I might be a gay male and never said a word!
@Kraid... I loved that movie! Especially Swayze!
FPS games are getting better though... not as much testosterone. Some guy had loud music playing in a game yesterday and I asked him to turn it down... he explained that it was his girlfriend playing music and that he didn't want to be in the doghouse! Good enough! We all agreed that was a legitimate reason (though not a very manly one LOL!)
@Mark... yeah, hopefully bigots being hassled back encourages them to keep quiet in future games!
@Monodi... Xyl is a girl? meh, I love him/her (and don't care if it makes me gay!) I was a "productive member of society" for many years... but now I'm just a lazy-ass gamer! I think I like being a gamer better! :)
@Pedrovay... yeah, I do seem to luck into decent blog titles... though odd stuff keeps happening to me that lends itself to obvious titles!
@armless... yes! Come over to the dark side! Game online with us!!!!
@munkeex... thanks!
@socialnorms... OMG! LOL! That's hilarious!
@Dax... LOL!!
@Nate... I've had Marvin for a Platoon Leader... hard to take him/her seriously!
@Jesus... south park "gay"! :)
@manasteel... honestly I've been playing MAG a LOT... by a lot, try about 7 or 8 hours a day on some days. Given the amount of gaming time I'm doing, running into these situations is quite rare (though memorable!)
@Xzyliac... no idea! (but he was pretty pissed off!)
Maybe it cancels it out, like two negatives. Oh man, that means if I can get Creed and Nickelback into the same room they could potentially cease to exist.....
I'm usually mistaken for a 40 year old man when I'm playing, so I've never been accused of homosexuality on voice alone. Speaking of awkward sexual advances, where's the FNF post for tonight?
@Occams: Or you would begin a musical holocaust, slaughtering all good music and leaving despair and derivative shit in its wake.
I almost never talk online, unless I'm with friends... which is worse because we speak spanish and for some strange reason, americans don't like that. I guess they think we are insulting them, which we never do.
Or maybe they hate the fact that we can speak two languages and they can't. But I've never heard anything about my voice, just about my gamertag, and they instantly start asking if I'm a girl.
Or maybe they hate the fact that we can speak two languages and they can't. But I've never heard anything about my voice, just about my gamertag, and they instantly start asking if I'm a girl.
I've mistaken girls for twelve year old boys and vice-versa. With the shitty quality of the 360 mics i can make it hard to tell the difference. I try to be smart though and not make any assumptions. If I need to know, I'll listen for clues, like if they curse a lot they're probably immature boys.
Actually, considering I play on XBL, they're all probably immature twelve year old boys.
Actually, considering I play on XBL, they're all probably immature twelve year old boys.
Working at a grocery store along with playing shooters online, I've developed a fairly thick skin and just learned to laugh at the ignorance of people. When L4D2 came out, on alot of servers the N-word was tossed around like balls at chuck e cheese, I just donned Rochelle's pink shirt shot special infectees in the face and slammed the safe room door in faces. It's also fun to know 98% of these jackasses who shout these comments over mics probably couldn't even look you in the eye IRL.
My gamertag is Kimdealslover.
So now because it has Kim in the title, men will ALWAYS ask the question 'Hey, Kim...are...you...er...a girl?'
To which I reply in my manliest, Welsh accented voice...'No.' Only one guy has ever caught on that it's actually pronounced 'Kim Deal's Lover' (she's the bassist to Pixies and the frontwoman of The Breeders).
It kind of creeps me out the way younger men probe for an answer or immediately think I'll suck on their team because they assume I'm a girl. God knows what would happen if I was a girl. It's probably the worst thing you can ask a woman online. I mean, what the hell do you think is going to happen? That you'll get an instant reply of 'Yeah, I'm a girl. God, I'm horny...let's cybersex!'
Blows my friggin' mind sometimes.
So now because it has Kim in the title, men will ALWAYS ask the question 'Hey, Kim...are...you...er...a girl?'
To which I reply in my manliest, Welsh accented voice...'No.' Only one guy has ever caught on that it's actually pronounced 'Kim Deal's Lover' (she's the bassist to Pixies and the frontwoman of The Breeders).
It kind of creeps me out the way younger men probe for an answer or immediately think I'll suck on their team because they assume I'm a girl. God knows what would happen if I was a girl. It's probably the worst thing you can ask a woman online. I mean, what the hell do you think is going to happen? That you'll get an instant reply of 'Yeah, I'm a girl. God, I'm horny...let's cybersex!'
Blows my friggin' mind sometimes.
I finally cut him off and simply said "you're an asshole. I'm a 47 year old woman, I'm a level 58, and I'm your Platoon Leader... so YOU shut the fuck up!"
Will you be my Valentine? <3
Will you be my Valentine? <3
As a bi male, I totally milk the gay side of me for all its worth. My clan tag in Modern Warfare is [GLEE] after all :D
There was a gay who was once calling everything "gay" while playing on Xbox Live. I couldnt take it anymore and explained to him that I was gay, and asked why he kept calling everything gay. It turned out that he believed homosexuality was wrong...blah blah blah...but with further questioning I found out his brother had recently came out as gay.
I almost felt bad for the guy, and kept telling him..."do you love your brother any less now that he is out as gay". He replied "No" and stuff. Anyway, that was a very interesting therapy session I had while shooting people in Halo 3. I got a kick out of it at least, and hope things with him and his brother are ok! :P
There was a gay who was once calling everything "gay" while playing on Xbox Live. I couldnt take it anymore and explained to him that I was gay, and asked why he kept calling everything gay. It turned out that he believed homosexuality was wrong...blah blah blah...but with further questioning I found out his brother had recently came out as gay.
I almost felt bad for the guy, and kept telling him..."do you love your brother any less now that he is out as gay". He replied "No" and stuff. Anyway, that was a very interesting therapy session I had while shooting people in Halo 3. I got a kick out of it at least, and hope things with him and his brother are ok! :P
i actually find your voice soothing and perfect for a command leader. i have no problem taking orders from you. i just wish i was a higher level so i could have some upgrades to help me suck less.
im also not a talker. in game or in life. so even if i have my head set on,i dont say much. but i dont mind doing what people suggest as tactics etc.
i try to stay with groups, but sometimes you just join a game where everyone splits up . kinda sucks. played a game where the team had like 4 snipers, and one guy just standing not playing/moving. and me and 2 others rushing [A].oh and nobody was talking. and these valor guys were very good with the reviving. sucked.
im also not a talker. in game or in life. so even if i have my head set on,i dont say much. but i dont mind doing what people suggest as tactics etc.
i try to stay with groups, but sometimes you just join a game where everyone splits up . kinda sucks. played a game where the team had like 4 snipers, and one guy just standing not playing/moving. and me and 2 others rushing [A].oh and nobody was talking. and these valor guys were very good with the reviving. sucked.
"Shut up you faggy homo guy".... wow, I love how people have to stress the gay angle on homophobic insults. I mean, saying someone's a wanker or shithead is simple enough but with gay insults.... well you have to go all out.
People just do stuff like this. I got to listen to an argument playing Resistance:FoM where someone kept calling another player the n-word. I think faggot and motherfucker was thrown around for good measure. Because, you know, you have to add those in if the n-word wasn't enough.
Lol what the heck? When this shows up on the sidebar for friend's blogs on the front page, it says "Shut up you gy homo guy" and I was very confused. Do we have some weird word filter up there?
Yeah I'm in the camp that hates being called "dude". I can't say that I've really had this problem before because I never use voice chat online. Likely because I don't want to have to deal with stuff such as this and also because I don't play many games that require really cohesive teamwork.
Sometimes it makes me ashamed that the world is still so afraid of anyone and anything that is different to the point of having to dehumanize and ridicule them. Shouldn't we be ready to move past this by now? It's not as if homosexuality or gender identity is a new thing that's just happened. I guess that's a bigger topic for another day though.
@Xzyliac, I'm totally jealous, I want a badass BFF too.
Sometimes it makes me ashamed that the world is still so afraid of anyone and anything that is different to the point of having to dehumanize and ridicule them. Shouldn't we be ready to move past this by now? It's not as if homosexuality or gender identity is a new thing that's just happened. I guess that's a bigger topic for another day though.
@Xzyliac, I'm totally jealous, I want a badass BFF too.
I can't say I've ever thought of your voice as that of a gay man, but I guess now that will be in the back of my mind the next time we play a game together. The fun never ends.
Ive played with alot of girls online and I can tell you it really makes no difference. If they are there playing TF2 then they know their shit so there really is no difference. Some of them are even more foul mouthed than the guys, sometimes I think this is a sort of over compensation but what do I know?
Elsa, yet another awesome piece!
That last picture is amazing. However, I go to San Antonio for work all the time, and there are no manly men like that there. It's the fattest city in Texas. But thanks for making me paranoid of turtle attacks! I'll never stop to go to the bathroom there until I get out of that town!
That last picture is amazing. However, I go to San Antonio for work all the time, and there are no manly men like that there. It's the fattest city in Texas. But thanks for making me paranoid of turtle attacks! I'll never stop to go to the bathroom there until I get out of that town!
@walkyourpath... yeah, I googled a picture for "manly" and that came up - it was perfect!
@Stevil and Xzy.... LMAO!!
@Bigby... I'm pretty bossy online (especially when in a leadership position which as a level 60 now I usually am)... and my language isn't exactly "delicate" - but I'm also pretty decent at the game (have my medals for 1st and 3rd place MVP - over 25 wins in each of those positions)
@Zyr... GET MAG!!! (and go Raven) :)
@Zodiac... It's kind of odd about the "dude" thing! I'm not even sure why most girls (including myself) dislike it!
@Wedge... maybe it's filtered in case stuff shows up on the sidebar on the front page (which goes to my last blog and oddities in filtering and "unacceptable" language... personally I think that "gay" is often legitimately used in gaming discussions and shouldn't be filtered, but meh).
@enteringoblivion... given my own generation, the N word is a word I detest hearing. I used to verbally castrate anyone ignorant enough to use the word... though nowadays I'm inclined to let it go a bit more because on several occasions I've been informed by the user of the word that he's black and "entitled" to use it. Language is so wierd. Now I'll usually more politely ask that they not use the word and just say that I'm 47 and to my generation the word is highly offensive.
@Xzyliac... BFF's!! Awesome! :)
@Ali... I'm pretty sure it was a younger person, likely a kid and it was my "faggy voice" that he hated, so I guess simply calling me a wanker or shithead wasn't going to work for him because he wasn't offended by my tactics (he cut me off when I was explaining them) it was my supposed sexuality that upset him.
@fetusmilk... thank you! Soothing is nice! Yeah, I too find our win margins go way up when we play with our clan - at least we're working together. Clockwork and I are both 60's (he hit 60 before I did) so one of us is usually SL or PL which is also nice because we at least know that fragos will be used. Regarding being a talker... some people are and some aren't. My husband (Monngoose who usually plays with us) is a talker too... though usually it's a tapestry of swear words! He keeps forgetting he's on open mic. :)
@wanderingpixel... my Dtoid avatar is one I found years and years ago when playing Baldur's Gate: Shadows of Amn on the PC. Your character was only seen from above and you chose a picture to represent yourself. There was a website with tons of them and I really liked this one (I like the strength and femininity). It's been my avatar on the internet since avatars were first used on the internet! :)
@Tactix... LOL! Love that clan tag! At least that guy had personal issues and a reason for his hate... and you probably did help him.
@BS3 Owner... yeah I've come across several woman who play the game... and most are very good! In that situation it was sabo and she was Squad Leader and I was Platoon Leader... so we also had some minor leadership benefits that may have helped! :)
@LG Jargon... LOL! Yeah, I don't exactly speak like a delicate little flower! :)
@Stevil... I can definitely see the confusion, and I bet you get called "Kim" online all the time! (though the minute I mention my age, the whole cybersex issue immediately seems to vanish! LOL!)
@Monodi... only 70% sure? :)
@s0lesurviv0r... that's another aspect of online is the racism. Again, it's pretty rare. Recently I've heard the "speak English" demand because there are a lot of people that don't speak English on the servers in the afternoon... but again, someone usually pipes up and says something in defence of those "dern fereners" (personally I love hearing all the different languages!)
@Wry... LOL! I can never understand what someone is saying when they sound like Marvin the Martian (and there are a few of those on PSN!).
@pixel... if they curse a lot they could be 52 year old men like my husband! :)
ParaParaKing... the game is AWESOME!
@Coafi... yeah, there is some prejudice against those who speak another language, though I think that with more and more servers going international it's becoming less of an issue in online play as people become more used to it.
@ Aurain.. LOL!!!
@Stevil and Xzy.... LMAO!!
@Bigby... I'm pretty bossy online (especially when in a leadership position which as a level 60 now I usually am)... and my language isn't exactly "delicate" - but I'm also pretty decent at the game (have my medals for 1st and 3rd place MVP - over 25 wins in each of those positions)
@Zyr... GET MAG!!! (and go Raven) :)
@Zodiac... It's kind of odd about the "dude" thing! I'm not even sure why most girls (including myself) dislike it!
@Wedge... maybe it's filtered in case stuff shows up on the sidebar on the front page (which goes to my last blog and oddities in filtering and "unacceptable" language... personally I think that "gay" is often legitimately used in gaming discussions and shouldn't be filtered, but meh).
@enteringoblivion... given my own generation, the N word is a word I detest hearing. I used to verbally castrate anyone ignorant enough to use the word... though nowadays I'm inclined to let it go a bit more because on several occasions I've been informed by the user of the word that he's black and "entitled" to use it. Language is so wierd. Now I'll usually more politely ask that they not use the word and just say that I'm 47 and to my generation the word is highly offensive.
@Xzyliac... BFF's!! Awesome! :)
@Ali... I'm pretty sure it was a younger person, likely a kid and it was my "faggy voice" that he hated, so I guess simply calling me a wanker or shithead wasn't going to work for him because he wasn't offended by my tactics (he cut me off when I was explaining them) it was my supposed sexuality that upset him.
@fetusmilk... thank you! Soothing is nice! Yeah, I too find our win margins go way up when we play with our clan - at least we're working together. Clockwork and I are both 60's (he hit 60 before I did) so one of us is usually SL or PL which is also nice because we at least know that fragos will be used. Regarding being a talker... some people are and some aren't. My husband (Monngoose who usually plays with us) is a talker too... though usually it's a tapestry of swear words! He keeps forgetting he's on open mic. :)
@wanderingpixel... my Dtoid avatar is one I found years and years ago when playing Baldur's Gate: Shadows of Amn on the PC. Your character was only seen from above and you chose a picture to represent yourself. There was a website with tons of them and I really liked this one (I like the strength and femininity). It's been my avatar on the internet since avatars were first used on the internet! :)
@Tactix... LOL! Love that clan tag! At least that guy had personal issues and a reason for his hate... and you probably did help him.
@BS3 Owner... yeah I've come across several woman who play the game... and most are very good! In that situation it was sabo and she was Squad Leader and I was Platoon Leader... so we also had some minor leadership benefits that may have helped! :)
@LG Jargon... LOL! Yeah, I don't exactly speak like a delicate little flower! :)
@Stevil... I can definitely see the confusion, and I bet you get called "Kim" online all the time! (though the minute I mention my age, the whole cybersex issue immediately seems to vanish! LOL!)
@Monodi... only 70% sure? :)
@s0lesurviv0r... that's another aspect of online is the racism. Again, it's pretty rare. Recently I've heard the "speak English" demand because there are a lot of people that don't speak English on the servers in the afternoon... but again, someone usually pipes up and says something in defence of those "dern fereners" (personally I love hearing all the different languages!)
@Wry... LOL! I can never understand what someone is saying when they sound like Marvin the Martian (and there are a few of those on PSN!).
@pixel... if they curse a lot they could be 52 year old men like my husband! :)
ParaParaKing... the game is AWESOME!
@Coafi... yeah, there is some prejudice against those who speak another language, though I think that with more and more servers going international it's becoming less of an issue in online play as people become more used to it.
@ Aurain.. LOL!!!
These are some EPIC comments.
I should say, I'm a gay male, but I don't really have much experience being discriminated against in online games. I hardly ever play online, just because I'm not much of an online gamer.
But on the internet, I've always been pretty open about my sexuality. I don't shy away from it, like I've posted Cblogs on Dtoid about sexuality in games and junk; but I have never been discriminated against because of it. I guess the places that I hang out online are pretty progressive when it comes to that kind of thing.
I should say, I'm a gay male, but I don't really have much experience being discriminated against in online games. I hardly ever play online, just because I'm not much of an online gamer.
But on the internet, I've always been pretty open about my sexuality. I don't shy away from it, like I've posted Cblogs on Dtoid about sexuality in games and junk; but I have never been discriminated against because of it. I guess the places that I hang out online are pretty progressive when it comes to that kind of thing.
While being mistaken for a man online does sound annoying; yet, I do have to say being mistaken for a woman in public is worse.
When I was 22 I had long lustrous blond hair. I used to wear it very long, but in a manner ‘I felt’ was not feminine. It was just long like some guy on a 1970s commune would wear. However, after wearing my hair very long for over two years without incident I must have hit some sort of long and blond threshold because that summer I kept being addressed as ‘Miss’.
“Can I help you miss?” or “Excuse me Miss” would be quickly followed, by “Oh, sorry... sir.” Okay, I'll admit it, my hair was “Marsha Brady” long, blond and straight; so I guess I can see why people would think ‘girl’ in retrospect. Yet at the time I didn't see it and I liked my hair!
After being called Miss four times in one day I got a crew cut. Once or twice in a day was one thing, but four times is when something is wrong. It was a twist on, "Happens once shame on them. Happens twice shame on me". Men’s egos can be fragile things as we all know, so being called Miss that much felt shamed. The choice was cut the hair or have my manhood figuratively chopped off; I choose my hair.
When I was 22 I had long lustrous blond hair. I used to wear it very long, but in a manner ‘I felt’ was not feminine. It was just long like some guy on a 1970s commune would wear. However, after wearing my hair very long for over two years without incident I must have hit some sort of long and blond threshold because that summer I kept being addressed as ‘Miss’.
“Can I help you miss?” or “Excuse me Miss” would be quickly followed, by “Oh, sorry... sir.” Okay, I'll admit it, my hair was “Marsha Brady” long, blond and straight; so I guess I can see why people would think ‘girl’ in retrospect. Yet at the time I didn't see it and I liked my hair!
After being called Miss four times in one day I got a crew cut. Once or twice in a day was one thing, but four times is when something is wrong. It was a twist on, "Happens once shame on them. Happens twice shame on me". Men’s egos can be fragile things as we all know, so being called Miss that much felt shamed. The choice was cut the hair or have my manhood figuratively chopped off; I choose my hair.
