I’m married to a non-gamer. I was warned to never mix religion in marriage, but I convinced myself that I could work through anything…
Well, for Christmas I gave my wife a Nintendo DS (the coolio LE pink rose one) with a copy of Brain Age 2 – something I thought would be taken at least as a nice gesture of inclusion, and would hopefully be a good start into full-on gaming obsession. She opened the DS, and I instantly could see the body language and speeches of someone that was trying very hard to be REALLY nice to someone that just gave you something you will never use (It’s the same pattern when Her grandfather gives us a HUGE box of Hickory Farms and Some Boxed Fruitcake that clearly is not meant for actual human consumption.)
Now, this wasn’t the only thing I gave her, it was sorta the kind of ‘side’ gift that I was just checking to see if she would like it, but man…. I was hoping that I found that magic bullet to convert someone with no gaming experience into a fledgling addict.
So, I’m fighting depression over my $150.00 gamble that didn’t pay off. Any of you guys have similar problems- What has worked for you in the past? What has critically failed?
If she doesn't want it you can send it to me. I don't have my own DS anymore and would love to have one again. Another way to try and get her involved would be mario party ds (although I hate mario party) its a good way to get mutltiple people involved. multiplayer may be the way to go
I would agree that you shouldn't give up hope yet. There are lots of different games for the DS. If you can find one that she absolutely loves, that might be enough for the fish to take the bait. My wife isn't a hard-core gamer either. (I love BF2142, UT3, and the like; she loves 7 Wonders and other casual games.) But all it takes is to find one game that she loves and she'll become open to more of them.
Oh, come on. Is there really any difference between a forum and a blog that allows responses? There is nothing wrong with blogs that start a discussion. It's no different than the entry message in a forum. If you want to differentiate the two, prevent responding to blogs.
My girlfriend started gaming when I gave her a DS with a copy of Planet Puzzle league. Since then she's completely mastered Zelda: Phantom Hourglass, and is extremely addicted to cookin mama and pokemon snap and like she likes to also like wii sports.
You bought her something you wanted her to have, and not what she wanted. I sometimes (secretly) get annoyed when my wife doesn't buy me a video game or something that I WANT...not what she wants me to have.
I'm also married to a nongamer wife. I've just come to except it and realize that there are some good things about it...like not needing to fight with her over play time. To get her into a game, buy it for yourself and they continually offer her time to play it. That's what I've done to get my wife into, at least, a couple of games in the past (like Animal Crossing and Mario Kart: DD).
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I think you should of gone with something other then Brain Age xD. Mabey Cooking mama or Ninten Dogs. Something else she can get into.
My GF thought Guitar Hero was the gayest thing ever. Until she tryed it. Now i have to fight her for the damn thing.
Well, you did get her brain age. Kinda like giving memory pills to someone if you ask me.
also, I know it's your first blog, but isn't this kinda forumy?
in before heretic
Yeah crud blehman, you're right =( Me=failed
If she doesn't want it you can send it to me. I don't have my own DS anymore and would love to have one again. Another way to try and get her involved would be mario party ds (although I hate mario party) its a good way to get mutltiple people involved. multiplayer may be the way to go
I would agree that you shouldn't give up hope yet. There are lots of different games for the DS. If you can find one that she absolutely loves, that might be enough for the fish to take the bait. My wife isn't a hard-core gamer either. (I love BF2142, UT3, and the like; she loves 7 Wonders and other casual games.) But all it takes is to find one game that she loves and she'll become open to more of them.
My GF and I dont buy gifts for each other, that always takes out what if they dont like?
I really don't see how this is a forum post xD. It was a direct statement and story. It was part of his life. This is definitly a blog post xD.
On second thought, it was a blog entry that turned into a forum post....it's an entry that doesn't belong to either world....like Ariel...so tragic.
Oh, come on. Is there really any difference between a forum and a blog that allows responses? There is nothing wrong with blogs that start a discussion. It's no different than the entry message in a forum. If you want to differentiate the two, prevent responding to blogs.
requires a picture to be a blog post
So by zaqu's logic, now this is a blog post.
Oooops. I broke your blog.
VANDALISM!!
My girlfriend started gaming when I gave her a DS with a copy of Planet Puzzle league. Since then she's completely mastered Zelda: Phantom Hourglass, and is extremely addicted to cookin mama and pokemon snap and like she likes to also like wii sports.
Make her try it before you freak out. Playing is believing.
The major mistake:
You bought her something you wanted her to have, and not what she wanted. I sometimes (secretly) get annoyed when my wife doesn't buy me a video game or something that I WANT...not what she wants me to have.
I'm also married to a nongamer wife. I've just come to except it and realize that there are some good things about it...like not needing to fight with her over play time. To get her into a game, buy it for yourself and they continually offer her time to play it. That's what I've done to get my wife into, at least, a couple of games in the past (like Animal Crossing and Mario Kart: DD).