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Caitlin Cooke
10:28 AM on 12.31.2011

Wow, it's been a full year since I began posting on the cblogs...time flies. I know everyone's heard it a billion times from me and everyone else, but I truly am grateful for this community. Thank you for being you.

Anyway, 2012 is almost here so I’d like to touch on some gaming themes that have been in the back of my mind all year.

#1: Gaming as a variable, not a constant



Growing up, it's always been one way for me: I played video games constantly and slotted out time for the other things in my life like homework, friends, and playing outside (whatever that means). In other words, gaming was my constant and the other things in my life were variables to fit my mold. Literally, if a friend called me up to see a movie on a Saturday night but I was already playing NWN with internet friends, I would decline. Every time. Sure, it put strains on my friendships and I became somewhat of a caveman in my basement, but there was no way I was giving up my gaming time. I guess in some sense people would call that being anti-social, but in my mind gaming was a priority and internet friends counted as real people.

However, my gaming habits started to have a shift in college. I had barely scraped by in my honors/AP classes in high school and missed honors society by .01 of my GPA, so I made a commitment to myself to push harder in college. I know it sounds extremely corny, but it worked: I had higher marks than anyone I knew from high school, and I was top 5 in my major's graduating class. But my constant changed - I was no longer prioritizing gaming, and it was instead used as a reward to get myself to do the work. At least then, I still had the time (although less of it), and for a holiday or a long weekend I could again place gaming as my priority.

Unfortunately though, as most of you are aware, once you become an "adult" with a real job it becomes near impossible to place priorities at all. This was officially the death of gaming as my constant - and the beginnings of it becoming a variable in my life. With a full workday, social obligations, and other projects there just wasn't time for much else. And now with my added commute, gaming has officially become a "to-do" in my mind - something that I constantly need to remind myself to get to when I have free time. It's a strange shift, and I know I'm getting old because I look back to college and high school and think of them as my golden gaming years - something I won't ever have again.

#2: Gaming and the new (female) Generation



I honestly hate placing people in Generation [insert letter here] categories. Every person is different, and while the majority do tend to have similar qualities it by no means indicates that we're all the same type of person. Apparently my generation is known for being computer and technology savvy, but I can honestly count more friends that still use aol.com addresses and IE than those who keep up to date with technology. That being said, I do think there is a trend in regards to gaming with this latest generation - something I only started to realize once I moved closer to my teenage cousin.

Jess has an interesting outlook on games. I've seen her play Mario Kart (on the DS and Wii), blast through old PS2 games like Sly Cooper, play through a few of the Lego series on 360, and she's definitely obsessed with Dance Central. She's played all of these with her other female friends. But she adamantly rejects the fact that she plays video games. And not just around her guy friends - but around everyone. Jess has kicked my ass multiple times in Mario Kart, but the second I begin to talk about her Kart skills in front of her friends she shushes me. I'm also realizing that none of her friends, whom she plays all of these games with, ever talk about it around their other friends - specifically male ones. It's like some big secret that they don't want people to know about. They feel like there's some kind of stigma attached to the gamer label, and they want to distance themselves from it as much as possible.

It's a well known fact that gaming is reaching even more people nowadays. It's no longer some secret society, a hobby for the weird or anti-social as it was once pictured. But I feel the majority of people, including young gamers, are still treating it as such. Obviously, observing one girl and her friends isn't definitive proof, but it's a theme that keeps cropping up this year - and I'm curious to see what happens in 5-10 years when these kids grow up. Will they continue to be gamers, will it continue to be a secret, and if not will it just be a silly past time?

#3: Modern FPS can be fun!



I used to love old-school FPS - they had interesting themes (TimeSplitters, Goldeneye, Perfect Dark, Banjo-Kazooie multiplayer, etc) but most of all they were a blast to play through - especially with other people. Maybe it was the fact that the mechanics and graphics were so simple, or maybe it was nostalgic youth speaking, but I was always under the impression that these older games were a lot more fun than the modern, more manly and war-themed FPS. So as more and more FPS started to come out, I slowly inched away from the genre as a whole. I held an outlook that these games were too complicated and completely uninteresting and left it at that.

Recently though I've had a shift which began when I started playing MAG with Elsa and the other 'toiders. At first I thought that it was out of my league - so many customization options, so many guns and tasks, and not to mention 255 other people. But they walked me through it and after a few plays I felt I could actually make a contribution - I could fix up tanks, take control of a turret, heal others, or just run around like an idiot shooting people. That's when it clicked - modern FPS isn't about complication or manly-ness - it's about being a team player, about contributing your skills for the greater good (which happens to be winning some kind of war, but whatever).

Unfortunately though, I moved away and had to leave my PS3 behind - but with losses come great gains, and my gain happened to be at work. Just recently, I found a group of people that play COD periodically in the break room. Instead of shutting out the game and walking away like I probably would have earlier in the year, I approached them and asked to play. For the past few weeks I've slowly been gaining confidence and skill in FPS, and I've not only won games but I've also had loads of fun doing it. I'm glad I've gotten into modern FPS, and although I still miss my old FPS I'm very excited about the improvements made to the genre as a whole.

So that's it for me - what are your themes from 2011?



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Elsa and the other toiders can make any game fun, regardless of genre. They are the noble sherpa for any great expedition.

Between my kid, my job, my wife and my crack addiction known as the internet, I have no real time and too much money being spent on games. At least I take the occasion to finally play some games every once and a while.
That's a bit odd that your cousin seems to hide her gaming habits from some of her friends. Especially since I think alot of guys like girls who game. I normally don't talk about gaming among my non-gaming friends because they would find it boring. It's like if someone talks to me about cars I wouldn't have any interest in what they are talking about.
Yeah, I'm wondering when I'm going to get time to play games if this job offer comes through at the start of January. I'll spend about an hour travelling back and forth from work so I'll need to dig out my DS and do some gaming on the train.

There's also the cblog feature I want to write, but then the MGS HD Collection and Catherine get their EU release in February along with The Darkness II, then Max Payne 3 and Mass Effect 3 as well.... where do I find the time?

Or do I just accept there's not enough time in this life to actually work, do other leisure things and play all the videogames you want to?
Mana - This is very true. Wow, you get a ton of gaming done with all that going on! Make me feel a bit shameful, ha.

Scissors - Yeah, I thought it was extremely strange. At first I thought it was just her - but her friends act the same exact way...I have no idea why they choose to hide it...especially around guys. I feel the same way you do about talking about games...I don't want to weird anyone out or bore them.

Ali - I've gotten more into reading than gaming on my commute - it's easier to concentrate on when I'm tired, and I don't get as frustrated in public (lol). My goal was to open Catherine before the year ends but I'm still trying to finish LA Noire, which I opened back in August. I'm slowly accepting the fact that I won't really have a gaming life much longer, just an occasional play session once a week or so.
Is your cousin single?
Raunchy comments aside, I don't think this year could be classified in my opinion. I think there's been a huge focus on the 'online' gamer--what with FPS popularity, the PSN fiasco, etc-- and the culture is spawning from that. I think this year has gotten more gamers comfortable with talking about games outside as well. That social shunning thing has toned down a lot.

For me, this year has been my busiest spending year ever. I've spent $20,000+ on games this year, I believe, and only....5 of those games I've beaten, and very few are accessories I've bought & opened. (I'm a high schooler who's only /real/ job is to buy clothes & manage gas money. Everything else is Vidjas, sadly.)

Anyway, great blog, happy new years, yadda yadda yadda.
Ah! so that's why you haven't been on PSN for so long. :(

Hopefully you'll still maybe jump in and join either the Xbox crew or even the PC Dtoiders with a shooter game or two! :)

On the female gamer thing... it's interesting. I wasn't aware that young females hid their status as a gamer. I never hid my status and it was never a big deal. Older people of my generation played PC games and it was never an issue. In fact until I started hanging out on gaming sites, I never even realized that being a female gamer was a bit of an oddity. Once I started console gaming with the Dreamcast, it was still a somewhat solitary world and it wasn't until I started gaming with the PS3 and it's online components that I started to come across some of the "issues" surrounding being a female gamer. I was rather hoping that for our next generation of female gamers that things were better and there would be no stigma attached and few if any issues in terms of gaming online (it's MUCH better now that it was even 3 or 4 years ago).
... I wonder if their reluctance to use the word "gamer" or discuss gaming with men is due to some of the recent "you're not a real gamer" crap that seems to insidiously run through gamer culture now. You're not a real gamer unless you play Call of Duty and are in the top XXX of ranks... you're not a real gamer unless you hate Call of Duty and love Indie games... you're not a real gamer if you don't have an expensive PC gaming rig... or own all the consoles.... or whatever crap the current "not a real gamer" definition is. Women don't tend to be as competitive as men about those things - from what I've seen anyway. They regard gaming as an activity or hobby - but not often as a lifestyle where the judgement criteria is not only constantly changing, but it changes according to who you are speaking with! LOL!
It may simply not be worth the stupid argument that gamers seem to love about who is or isn't a gamer! :)

... and on the being an adult and not having time to game... as I keep saying, just wait until retirement - more time than you know what to do with! (and gaming is cheaper than golf!) :)
Funny, now that I'm doing a term at work instead of in school, I feel as though I'll have much more time to get back to my virtual worlds. Okay, not laugh-out-loud hilarious, but let me have it. I guess that's the benefit of having a social structure built on games - even if I get dragged out with friends, we'll probably end up hunched over dimly glowing screens at some point.
Happy birthday Jesus!!
I'll tell you my theme from 2011. Staring down the sights of a gun. Any gun. Guns with one barrel, two, hell, even a plethora of barrels! They even had scopes tacked on to other scopes in some games!

So, I've started a No Gun Policy, knowing full well, I'll be breaking it when Max Payne 3 and the Alan Wake spin-off drops.

I have to say, 2011 wasn't a particularly facinating year for gaming, bar the handful of games I enjoyed. I ended up reading more books than I used to, too. I don't know why that is, but maybe, as I hit 30 in March, I realise that I don't really need to play everything under the sun, because everyone else is. So, I'm cutting back in a big way and if I miss out, I'm not going to lose sleep over it.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!
holy hang over batman

Epic - 20k? I don't even think 20k worth of notable games and hardware has even come out this year...

Elsa - Yeah! Maybe when the next one comes out I can start fresh with everyone else.

I was hoping the same with this new generation...that there would be so many gamers in both genders that it would be a thing of the past. I know for sure it's not a thing they hide because they don't feel skilled enough - even last night Jess and her friend were booing Skyrim and some other games that the guys were playing (including dance central, lol). It's like they don't want to admit it's a fun hobby, and they go to great lengths to show this around guys. Because they're completely different around each other - I've even heard Jess talk about how much she misses playing games with her girl friends. Who knows...I think honestly she's afraid of being labelled as a gamer.

I thought about you when I wrote that...thinking it would be awesome in retirement to play whatever. I just hope I'm as savvy as you when I get there!

Bey - Yeah, I miss that...I've moved away from all my gaming friends so now I'm stuck in the middle of nowhere with no one to game in person. Unless it's at work, which is cool, but y'know it's work so I can't sit there for 5 hours and game.

Andy - lawl

Stevil - Same here - I've read far more this year than I've ever read in my entire life. I think I finished 9 books this year, but only 4 or 5 games. It's fine to cut games out as long as you're still playing the ones that you'd enjoy most. Like, there's no way in hell that any part of my normal commute/work/family/whatever life is cutting into ME3.
Ah . . . how "real life" catches up to you! Tis be part of the reason why I classify myself as a "collector" rather than a "gamer" nowadays, but enough with frivolous titles/designations! Twas a lovely read, and we should just enjoy the time we have with games, instead of thinking of what others think! ^_^
You're pretty awesome Caitlin. Keep writing things.
Cool themes I enjoyed reading them! Very down to earth stuff , loving it! Ddddd
Funk - Very true. I suppose I feel more left out than anything, but I can't force myself to have more time so I'll accept it as it is for now :]

Random - Aw thanks!

Kaggen - Thank you! I feel bad, although I read your blogs I rarely comment...but know that I still read them, I just don't have much to say. :]
Great blog! I totally feel you about finding and prioritizing time.

Even at my age I find it's very difficult to talk about games even with most of my gamer friends. Most people (at least most I seem to talk to) just don't want to talk about them, especially when other people are around.

A lot of us play Battlefield 3 if you're interested. Don't succumb to the CoD temptation! ;)
@Cait , thanks! It means a lot to me, it can't be helped, you shouldn't comment just to comment right? Anyways maybe that can be one of your resolutions? xD
Chiming in with Scotty for a second, the way you talk about FPSes sounds like you would fit right in with our Battlefield 3 platoon. It has plenty of room for people who SUCK really bad, like me.

Nice thoughts in here. Good luck with all your crazy work stuff.

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