This is a long one, probably the longest blog I've ever bloged. It's not Zeta levels long (not a bad thing) but it's long so please bear with me.
We’ll I think it’s time for another 2am blog writing session as this has been something that has weighed on me for a while already. I would like to talk about debate and discussion here on D-toid, my own personal take on all this.
You know when I have a debate with someone it’s a test of sorts. It tests my beliefs and values as a person. Much in the way gold is purified through fire we as individuals are also “purified” when we enter a debate with an open heart and mind and that’s really the only way it works. You don’t have to change your opinion; debate may strengthen your beliefs and push you further to better things in life.
This is how I like to approach a conversation of a more serious nature, however in light of recent events, and many before it I have to say that it’s really hard to do so, and it isn’t just one group of people.
Let me open by saying that I though Jed’s article the other day was actually written better than previous ones he wrote. It’s not perfect and it’s missing a few things but overall more enjoyable. The comments, not as bad as I thought they would get but still not pretty.
I rate this 5/swagduck
Now moving forward as I’ve said before it’s hard to have proper discourse. Some of you are probably thinking “well it’s because of those sexist pigs on D-toid” and there are others who are thinking “it’s those fuckwit SJW’s”. If this really is what you’re thinking then stop. Take a moment and examine yourself. You are passing a pretty harsh judgment of someone you don’t know jack shit about. I think for some it’s all too easy to default to this and it really needs to stop. I try to avoid insults because all it amounts to is a week argument not based on fact but an assumption of character. If someone is really being a dick then by all means but More often than not I see this used on the wrong people for the wrong reasons. Even if it was true (generally isn’t but for those who may be stubborn), you would still technically be making an assumption you have no method of proving. Furthermore as the saying goes even a broken clock is right twice a day. It isn’t wrong for a criminal to condemn crime, or to tell you that 2+2 is 4. The only thing attacking a person ever does is leave people angry and with hurt feeling. Be they in the comments or from the actual writer (sad but it’s happened) they really serve no purpose. This doesn’t mean you can’t argue a point or take issue with the way someone goes about doing something but that isn’t the only thing it should be about. Basically don’t be that guy that say’s “well if you don’t agree with me then you're this that and the other” and leave it at that. Don’t be so overly dismissive. Take the time to address what you take issue with in a respectful manner. A jab or 2 is fine but don’t leave behind bile for the rest of the community to soak up.
The next thing I want to talk about are opinions
We are all entitled to an opinion. You can have yours and I can have mine. This is what makes the world so grand, that we can both be so similar and yet so different. This is what brings the vibrant colors to the painting that we call life.
The problem I find is that People end up responding quickly without taking a moment to really thing. A more emotionally post if you will. I saw one post on Jed’s article and all it said was “fuck off” (and this wasn’t to Jed but to someone else) there was no extrapolation, no meaningful dialog, nothing. It also seemed to be the only dialog between these two members, the receiver never made a retort. If all you really have to say is “fuck off” and it’s not a konami article or industry BS then please don’t bother. Take the time to make something better.
Is it really that hard to either let it go or post your thoughts in a respectful manner? Taking the time to write lets you cool off and allows a more coherent and beneficial response for the community to read. I have avoided my fair share of unnecessary vitriol by doing so. Why is it important to avoid? Because this space isn’t just my space alone nor is it the other person, it’s everyone’s space and I would like to keep it as clean as possible, except for konami because #fuckkonami.
It’s inevitable, soon all Konami based IP's will be a pachinko someday.
As an extension of that I would also like to plead with you all. Can we pull back and not instantly go on the attack. When someone makes a comment disagreeing with the article don’t rush in there gung-ho to tell him/her that he’s/she’s wrong and call him/her some kind of name in the process. Leave your opinion if you must but take the time to craft something good. Too often do I see people attack what I find to be a decent counter point to an article (being generally rude, nasty, or obnoxious)? The worst part is and I’ve said this before is that when this happens some people take on this attitude where nothing is ever good enough, said person can’t have a good opinion, they’re always wrong, and they can never bring a good point. That is to me the height of ignorance. If that’s what your post amounts to then don’t even post. This is vastly different from simply having a different opinion and agreeing to disagree.
Now this goes both ways as well. I ask our community members that we all take a moment to consider participation in these articles rather than jumping the gun and going straight into critique all the time. This last one honestly didn’t seem that bad and from what I gathered it only talked about the lack of black women in games, something that I think is true and wouldn’t mind getting changed. As a matter of fact none of us would mind provided the characters were we’ll written like everyone else, and as their own person (this however is another topic for another time). That’s something I think other members need to realize, nobody but the most extreme trolls thinks that diversity is bad. We’re probably more progressive than most sites, and the insurance combined
Take that flo
Jokes aside as a community we just don’t take BS (or spout it like kotaku) and write our hearts out pouring into each other like a weird internet family of digital love, homoeroticism, and well many other things. We are an equal opportunity sex lovin community. So long as it doesn’t break the law feel free to openly profess your love of Jed’s beard or Gardevoir in a SFW manner. When it comes down to it I almost feel like we end up fighting for no real reason at all because we all actually agree. Perhaps we simply disagree on the presentation or the method but the general points at their core aren’t exactly the issue (by my count at least).
To wrap this up I would like to ask of all of you, of us, can we all take the time to make ourselves better. Can we take the time to be better to each other, to staff and vice versa? Can we have more meaningful questions asked at the end of these to spur a more concentrated direction of conversation? Can we as a community come up with solutions and hash things out? I’m rather tired of having these war zones on our “home turf” when in truth they could all just be avoided. Agree or disagree that’s up to you but I’ve said my peace. I will not sleep for about 4 hours and then play MGS5 till I have to go to work. Until next time