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Being a solo gamer in a multiplayer world

5:29 PM on 11.20.2008, Colette Bennett 103 comments

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Being a gamer over 30 means that you likely fell in love with gaming a long time ago. For me, that affair started around age 6, as my uncle showed me the Atari and I prowled through his Commodore 64 collection, wondering what the stone that came with Wishbringer was really for and fantasizing about kicking the sh*t out of Zork for not understanding my commands.

While a lot of kids turn to games as a way to share fun with their peers, in the time period I discovered games, they were very much the opposite for me -- since I was a bookworm and a bit of a loner, games were more like an escape -- a place where I could be alone and yet not quite alone, and have an adventure with friends that, while not real flesh-and-blood people, provided some of the most important friendships I ever had.

Twenty years later, the future is pointing at an age of gaming in which all of our activities are shared -- from friend lists to Microsoft's recent addition of parties, you are always accessible for multiplayer games, chat and more. In fact, games, like LittleBigPlanet focus mostly on user content and online play, taking all focus away from the single-player adventure.

These are all great advancements and certainly follow the flow of current technology to interconnect our world as completely as possible, but where in this new world is there a place for the solo gamer, one who not only enjoys the experience of playing a game alone, but actually (gasp) holds those gaming experiences above those he or she has with other players?

Hit the jump if this sounds all too familiar.

[Header photo by Adonis Werther]

It all started here.

People who are fans of multiplayer games are already talking back, I know it -- you're saying, "If you don't want to play with other people, just don't sign into Xbox Live!" And you know, you're right. I don't have to do that. In fact, despite the fact I love to game alone, I do also sometimes enjoy playing with other people, and I do enjoy the ability to interconnect with them so easily at any time.

The thing is, people who have never been heavy into the solo experience in a game are just not going to get it. Why play a game alone when you could play it with other people? That's like going to a movie alone. Which, of course, I also enjoy doing. Often.

A common complaint about the recent RPG Fallout 3 touches a little bit on the "why" of what solo gamers passionately pursue. Some gamers said they disliked the beginning of the game in which your character grows up in the Vault, where you are surrounded by other people. Personally I found that when I escaped the Vault and got out into the open landscape, I found what I was looking for: the experience of feeling completely alone on an adventure that you are wholly responsible for. 

I suppose it's a lot like reading a book. There's an almost reverential quality to the experience, because even though thousands of other people will read the same book, the unique way you will process it and how it will affect you is all yours. While total immersion into a game enviroment is being praised in games like Dead Space, solo gamers have to laugh -- we've had total immersion in the games we've played for a few decades now, not because of advanced graphics or sound, but because of our isolation and imaginations.

Because of my experiences as a solo gamer, I traveled with Crono and his friends and enjoyed their company as if they were my friends, I mourned the death of Nei in a way that actually prepared me to face real loss later in life (laughable, I know, but true), and I learned some pretty valuable lessons about life in general.

Sniff...

I think if I had had friends to share these games with at the time, I wouldn't have had the amount of free time to devote my attention to them in the same way. I would have been more distracted by those real-life interactions, and while that wouldn't have been a bad thing, I don't regret being an isolated gamer back then. I think the inability to share these gaming experiences with other people made them even more special to me -- and I believe the people who listen faithfully to RetroforceGO! on a weekly basis may understand exactly what I am trying to say here.

So yeah, I'm glad that today I can turn on my 360 and be instantly connected to a hundred friends who can invite me to parties, chat with me and enjoy games with me in real time. I think that rocks, and I'm so grateful that I'm getting to experience something like that in my lifetime. At the same time, some days I'm going to go buy a game, come home, turn out all the lights and make sure that I'm not signed on to anything that shows other people I'm there. While it may not measure up to being verbally abused by strangers on Xbox Live, I still kind of enjoy it.


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austenw at 11/20/2008 17:33
I also prefer to play games on my own. I'm not a big fan of the whole online multiplayer stuff. I'm not a fan of getting destroyed over and over again by 10 year olds alongside people getting pissed off and shouting out racial slurs the likes of which haven't been seen since the 50s.

Give me Final Fantasy or give me death!
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Technophile at 11/20/2008 17:33
As if it needed to be said, but you and me = on the same wavelength. You knew that already though. :D

Great article Colette.
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tazarthayoot at 11/20/2008 17:35
As much as I love playing online (and I do immensely), I have to agree with you 100% that sometimes a single player experience is all I really want. There's nothing I enjoy more then blocking out reality for a few hours and immersing myself in another world. It helps me keep my sanity to play myself as someone else, if only for a few hours an evening.
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brainderailment at 11/20/2008 17:37
I'm in the middle here. I fucking love playing online, but only with my friends. I also adore the opportunity to sit alone in a dark room and just lose time in a single player experience.
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SurplusGamer at 11/20/2008 17:37
I agree with a lot of the above. A whole lot of it. Although actually I have been completely swept up by Dead Space I must admit. I can't say it's the most moving thing ever, but I am well into that game.

Aaaanyway, yes. Solo gaming is something I will always value very highly. The only multiplayer games I play right now are Left 4 Dead and Call of Duty 4, and they're because I play them with a specific group of friends.

I still value xbox live, though, because I like to see what everyone else is playing and talk about it with them.
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ShadokatRegn at 11/20/2008 17:38
Wonderful article on a very touchy topic. The one thing I find with the advancement in the multi-player world, is the neglect of the single player modes. The majority of the time, story is neglected for online compatibility, and so on.

I personally prefer the immersion of a solo game, than the general chaos of a multiplayer game most of the time.

Also, people seem to mistake online multiplayer gameplay for "Socializing" which...it can only, barely, be considered.
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Malovane at 11/20/2008 17:38
Agreed. I really miss those powerful single player experiences. Some of these multiplayer focused games just feel so watered down to me. Like they could have presented a much deeper and more immersive experience if they hadn't pushed for multiplayer. Tabula Rasa and Hellgate: London strike me as prime examples. They could have been amazing single player games, but instead presented extremely mediocre multiplayer experiences.

Its great to have multiplayer games, yet at the same time, its a bad thing if it comes at the expense of the quality of a solo experience.
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Rygiz at 11/20/2008 17:40
I can hoenstly say, I've always been envious of people who can get this experience. Once every couple years, I might find a game where I can emerse my self into, but it has never really been much of an option for me. Mostly because I can never afford my own systems.

Best one for me though, was Midnight Rescue on my Dad's old Commadore II PC(I think)
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Rockvillian at 11/20/2008 17:44
I spit coffee all over the place when they started releasing games that could ONLY be played with other people, or online. Up until that point, games were on the same level as books for me.

Give me single player any day. Nice read Colette!
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snotrocket at 11/20/2008 17:45
just as you said about Crono trigger, some experiences are best lived alone. Some times people only ruin the effect or pull your attention out of the game so you can't experience it like you wish you could. Recently, if I was online and a friend heard me cry no to Seth in lost odysyy they would have laughed at me. I agree some games like TMNT would have been awesome online but no way would I want to play a FF or other great RPG with someone.
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Xhumation at 11/20/2008 17:52
Great write-up Colette.

and yeah I remember last year asking a friend about "the single player mode" in COD4. While I do love online gaming sometimes there's really nothing like a solid solo experience.
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GunSlap at 11/20/2008 17:57
Great write-up Colette, I know exactly where you are comming from!

Sometimes I found that single-player games could be very social. Videogames was the biggest thing I had in common with my first playground friends. We used to spend all recess talking about how to beat such and such a boss and what cool new games would be available soon. Good times.

And might I add that sometimes online gaming feels like you are playing a watered-down single player game with much worse AI...
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SakuChan at 11/20/2008 17:59
Leaving PC games aside, I never played console games online ever. In fact, GH3 on th Wii was the first time I ever played a game online. I don't mind playing games alone and I don't mind when there's someone else next to me. Having an older brother, I used to watch him play games a lot or played 2 players games with him. When it came to RPGs, I loved watching him and helping him out.

I'm more for single player games but I don't mind if there is someone next to me enjoying the game. But after getting a 360 and playing Castle Crashers with unknown players (lucky me, I found gamers who thought I was a 12 year old boy rofl. But were still nice when they found out I was a girl), I found how fun it was to be able to interact with voice chat -- it was like having a friend right next to me.

Too bad the amount of jerks that consume XBL makes it's a turn off in wanting to try playing games with other players, especially being equipped with a vagina.
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SourGr8pes at 11/20/2008 18:07
Awesome article Collette, it makes me tears flow. THE TEARS!!

While other kids were playing Contra and Ikari Warriors with their buddies, I was on my lonesome, playing Dragon Warrior and kicking the living crap out of Wizardry.
The whole online connectivity of the console world has been slowly eating away at whatever world of the singleplayer world left. Oblivion, Fallout, and jRPGs still give me faith in the singleplayer experience.

The whole fact that there are more anonymous douchebags online than regular gamers sort of kills the wonderful concept of online connectivity.
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Spartacus at 11/20/2008 18:10
I can relate.
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Tubatic at 11/20/2008 18:12
Great article!

I can really enjoy the multiplayer experience, despite evidence to the contrary: I pretty much zoned out on Randombullseye and a few other Dtoiders (sorry guys) while playing Left4Dead demo. And I'm generally a quiet guy on mic anyway. Unfortunately, I'm easily distracted by my wife, my cat and shiny objects. But I genuinely do enjoy the multiplayer experience!

But then it comes down this week to either buying Left4Dead and joining the party, or giving Last Remnant, avery attractive new single player RPG experience. I'm at complete odds on what to spend my $60 on, (and even then, if I should spend my cash when i've got loads of games right now already!)

I completely get where you're coming from. I really do enjoy "curling up with" a good game.
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John B at 11/20/2008 18:16
There's just nothing more to add. Colette hit is right on the head. Read a book by yourself is far more immersive than hearing it read to you. Besides, single-player games mean that you don't have to deal with the puerile assholes that infest most (if not all) on-line games.
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Druid 01 at 11/20/2008 18:18
excellent
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Touch at 11/20/2008 18:20
Excellent article, it definitely rang a few bells with me! I was actually kind of scared of the idea of online gaming for a while...I've learned to live with it and had some great experiences as a result, but there's definitely something about a great 1-player game....

I've recently been going back to some of the C64 and ZX Spectrum games from my childhood and I'm amazed by how much you need to concentrate on those games - they require the player to totally cut him- or herself off from external stimuli in a way which is pretty much unheard of these days, and I kind of miss it sometimes too!
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Phantom Spaceman at 11/20/2008 18:20
Totally agree. People suck. Long live single-player.
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The-Excel at 11/20/2008 18:22
Being primarily a shmup player means that most of my games are single-player events, especially since my little brother is the next best player in the house, and I wouldn't exactly trust him to co-pilot reliably in Ikaruga.
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The Amazing Shenazin at 11/20/2008 18:24
I agree 100%

multiplayer can be a ton of fun, but it'll never beat a great single player experience
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coffeesash at 11/20/2008 18:26
I love immersive single player videogames. It's like a good book, you just want to be on your own and be transported to another world.
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Timmeh at 11/20/2008 18:26
I love stories - I love watching movies, love reading books and I love playing a game that tells me a tale. The thing that motivates me is getting to the closing scene of the story. For that time I am totally immersed in the game world. When I play something online, there's no connection with the character, there's no progressive story, no immersion and I get bored very quick.

I'm still waiting for a multiplayer game that captivates me and blows me away. I'll bet if you asked most people what their favourite or most memorable experiences and characters are they'll be in single player games
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Ludwig Von Robotnick at 11/20/2008 18:26
Touched a spot in me heart ye did.
Wonderful article Colette!
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vonneuton at 11/20/2008 18:29
I understand what you said about Fallout 3. I felt the exact same way. Sorry, in a hurry.
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Colette Bennett at 11/20/2008 18:29
I'm really, really happy you guys enjoyed it. :)
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digtastik at 11/20/2008 18:33
I really enjoyed reading this. I'm sure a lot of us "over 30s" feel the same way. These days, with a family of my own, alone time is harder to come by. It still happens and I definitely enjoy it whether it's with a book or fine solo game romp.

I'll play the occasional multiplayer game, but the problem with that is that 1) i like to play with people I know 2) like me, the people I know have families of their own and it's often difficult to rally everyone together at the same time.
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thebza at 11/20/2008 18:36
someone else knows exactly how i feel *wipes a single tear*

nice write up colette!
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The-Excel at 11/20/2008 18:37
Sometimes I wonder what Persona 3 would have been like if I could have controlled more than the character I hastily named after myself.
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Origim at 11/20/2008 18:43
Awesome article Colette, I grew up playing alone and still tend to enjoy doing so.
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raasbo at 11/20/2008 18:44
I think the only game with multi-player that I own is Guitar Hero and I have never been online. It's a good think that we can now play with a lot more people, but it's just not for me.
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Brian Keljore at 11/20/2008 18:48
Colette FTW!

Seriously, I know how it feels. When I am told a game sucks/rules because of its multiplayer mode or lack there of, I tend to roll my eyes. I love single player games. It's just that simple.

I do play some multiplayer games, and when I do, it is usually only with a small group of friends or off on my own somewhere being a lone wolf of sorts.

In some ways, I feel some aspects of gaming has been cheapened by multiplayer focus. And I am glad that, to a degree, someone agrees with me.
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Syn at 11/20/2008 18:48
I feel your pain. I got my gaming start in much the same way. I sometimes feel isolated in this world of massive multiplayer...

...although that could be because most massively multiplayer games SUCK in my experience
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Lithium at 11/20/2008 18:49
As a Wii owner I still live in the age of isolation :/
well, if it weren't for PC gaming anyways.
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kapshhh at 11/20/2008 18:52
Damn. Great read. You really got me with this one. I never really liked online gaming. An occasional co-op session and TF2 with some buddies is great from time to time. However, nothing beats a personal experience. A moment, while playing, that is simply yours.
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Wexx at 11/20/2008 19:02
Totally. I get irritated when I'm bothered playing.. Well, any game really. Unless I'm just playing GEometry wars or something killing time.
You really can't have a great group storytelling experience in the modern gaming landscape. The day that does happen, however, I'll be Ecstatic.
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John Johnson at 11/20/2008 19:13
Gamers need never fear the complete elimination of single player games, because it's only in single player games that the designer will truly be able to tell a story with definitive beginnings, middles, and ends. Then introduction of more than one human player introduces variables that can't be controlled by the designer. I've always thought that video games are really just heading into two genres of game: the massively multiplayer game, and the single player 'story' game. To me, each has it's benefits and can borrow from one another, but I believe they'll always remain distinct, and enjoyable, each in their own way.
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Lemon at 11/20/2008 19:14
This is the EXACT reason I put hundreds of hours into Morrowind.

BEST.GAME.EVAR!!
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opeth2112 at 11/20/2008 19:18
I'll add my kudos for a great article. I'm 37 now, and it just seems impossible to get a group together to play anything. My friends all bypassed me a million times over in WoW, and surprizingly, when I DO get time to game together with people, I often find myself just wanting to go it alone. With the games I enjoy, I would rather guarantee a great experience alone, than risk some idiot ruining it.
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Loogibot at 11/20/2008 19:21
True, very true. The best moments I've ever had whilst playing a game, always end up being solo. I love multiplayer games, and online games but single player does invoke things that multiplayer can't, and vice versa. Although more than often, there is a higher level of imersion and even enjoyment when alone with a video game. When the formula is created: you, the controller/peripheral, the console/computer, and the digital entertainment at hand, a small yet significant world adds up. It is an experience that is seldom simulated outside of that moment. In the end, this is gaming's origins and highlights. No technology can replace it, only enhance it.
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MotoRobo at 11/20/2008 19:23
Fallout 3, Far Cry 2, and Mirror's Edge should tide you over for awhile...
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ArrestedDeveloper at 11/20/2008 19:34
Johnny Cash!
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MaximusDarr at 11/20/2008 19:35
Thanks for the awesome article, Colette. I have had to defend my lone gamer attitude several times in recent years. I enjoy multiplayer with friends and family, but that's it. Gaming is my personal escape from the world at large, and playing with strangers doesn't do that for me.
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toast! at 11/20/2008 19:41
this is relevant to my interests...

a lot of times friends think i'm weird when i tell them i usually buy a game for it's singleplayer mode. if it has awesome multi-player then that's a bonus and all... but i rarely buy a game for it's multiplayer. the only reason i got CoD4 was for the singleplayer campaign.. it just happens to have an awesome multiplayer as well. I think that's also why I really don't like Halo so much. The multiplayer may be awesome, but that's not what I wanna play.

Except CS:S L4D and TF2... apparently valve has the right formula for making me love playing with friends. :D
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Corak at 11/20/2008 19:41
I feel exactly the same way. There are nights where I'd just rather be left alone and play a single player game until the sun comes up. And other nights I like sniping random scrubs in a shooter, or plowing through some online co-op in Resistance 2 or LBP.

My first memory of gaming was walking into my grandma's house and she was upstairs playing Night Stalker on Intellivision, I can still hear the music in my head. Then a little while later I got a hand me down Atari 2600, still have it somewhere, then the 7800, and so on. Maybe if I grew up now with multiplayer games everywhere it would be different, but I didn't, I'm an ageing gamer, turing 31 in March, and I do enjoy my isolation every once in a while. It takes me back to my childhood if only for a little while.

Also good write up.
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LsTr_Of_SmG at 11/20/2008 19:46
Dear Colette,

Thank you for this write up, you have saved me the time and effort of twonking brainless idiots who attack my love of solo gaming over the head with my keyboard. Now I can take the pacifist route of linking them to this article. That and, more importantly, save money on buying new keyboards.

Yours thankfully,
LsTr.
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norm9 at 11/20/2008 19:53
Nice article.

Nothing beats a nicely crafted single player experience. Give me a fleshed out character I can relate/escape to any day over a digital representation with a gamertag over their head. I was late to the multiplayer/online party, and I feel as though I have yet to catch up to those that play online on a consistent basis.

Also, I think that only with a single player experience can a true story arc and sense of accomplishment be felt.
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