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There’s this kid I used to know. Pretty decent guy all around, to be honest with you. But looking back on him, his flaws become more apparent, and perhaps none are so noticeable than those related to his gaming.

See, many of his choices were spotty at best. He spent two years on World of Warcraft, enjoying his time immensely but ignoring nearly every other game that came out during that period. He would choose a game like NFL Street over Beyond Good and Evil. Worst of all, he would take lengthy breaks from gaming altogether, playing little to nothing at all besides random games already in his collection -- some old, many bad.

Worst of all, he missed out on the great offerings on entire consoles. It’s hard to say exactly why: perhaps out of financial necessity, perhaps out of a misplaced and nonsensical sense of loyalty, and perhaps some combination of these. But the reason is unimportant, as the sad fact is that he deprived himself of great things.

Let this kid serve as a warning to you all, for this misled youth was me, and I’m still paying the price today for his past transgressions. 



There are plenty of reasons that people have dreamed of going back in time, but I bet few of you would do so in order to change your gaming habits. Yet, thinking of the differences between the player that you are today and he or she who inhabited your growing body many years ago, how many glaring and sometimes disappointing disparities can you see? For me, there are many -- some that I alluded to above, and others that I might not even be able to identify.

For instance, I never finished Final Fantasy VII. In fact, I purchased it on release date or very near it, and played only about five hours before moving on to something else. I never played Final Fantasy VIII or Final Fantasy IX. I got to the final boss of Final Fantasy X and never completed the game. And don’t even get me started on previous Final Fantasy games.

The even younger version of me played seemingly only the worst games of the SNES/Genesis era. Earthbound meant nothing to me until about four years ago. Super Metroid was a game that I knew about, but had no interest in. Super Mario RPG was not even a thought in my mind. Even Chrono Trigger is a game that, to this day, I have not played a single moment of.

My problems extended into the PlayStation 1 and PlayStation 2 eras. I give them that designation because, to me, that’s what they were. I never wanted a Nintendo 64, Gamecube, Dreamcast, Saturn, Xbox, or any other console that you could dream up. I played Sony consoles exclusively. Early on, I don’t know what the justification for this was, but over time, I fell into the same traps that so many people suffer. There are no good games on other consoles. Sony does it better than everyone else. I don't care about anything else.

Yet even on those console, my history is filled with failure. I purchased fantastic games only to never finish them. I ignored great games in favor of poor ones. I went years without purchasing anything new at all, finding myself consumed by World of Warcraft. What I missed out on during this time is staggering to think of.

It’s very possible that at least one of the admissions above has made you cringe in disgust and pity. But why? It’s because many of these games are those that you have to play. It’s a sense of obligation, and one that I most definitely feel.

That’s where the me of the present comes in.



Obligation is a terrible feeling for the working man. A 40-hour workweek coupled with various real-life obligations leave, even for someone like me, less time than I’d like for gaming. Yet, as someone who wants to feel like he has played the best that the world of videogames has to offer, I feel a deep sense of obligation toward those games that I missed out on. I have to play The Wind Waker. Ignoring it is not an option; if greatness exists, then I must experience it.

But it goes deeper than obligation. I know I’ll enjoy the hell out of these games. It’s not a matter of biting into a chocolate-covered grasshopper just to say that I did, as if it’ll enter me into some esteemed society of the hardcore. The obligation I feel is to myself, to end my self-inflicted depravation.

There is, of course, a problem: all of those pesky new games that keep coming out. Yes, with three pretty good consoles going right now, as well as a couple of handheld consoles that I try in vain to keep up with, time is a precious commodity even for those without a backlog. Yet mine grows daily, rolling ever on like a katamari of awesome, becoming larger and larger until it threatens to consume everything around me. Yet I must ignore this all simply to keep up with the greatness of today.

And it can all be blamed on that little bastard from my past: he who was ignorant to all that is awesome, he who lacked the fortitude to finish what he started, he who placed me in the impossible situation that I face today.

But this is not a post to lament the size of my backlog. Not exactly. See, a backlog is something that we all experience at some point. It’s impossible to avoid. My current situation, however, is very different. I am paying for the idiocy of my past self, and no matter what I do, I’ll never be able to truly repair the damage that he caused. Unless I find myself suddenly afflicted with the “lottery winner” status, I fear that I’ll never have the time to experience all that I know I should have experienced.

It’s deflating, quite frankly. And in the face of tine’s continual movement forward, I’m helpless to do anything about it.



And so we reach the warning -- the true aim of this post. It’s with an overabundance of sentiment that I deliver this warning to you, and though I struggle to find the words that will express the true gravity of my feelings, I hope they ring true.

Do not, dear friends, let yourselves become like me. Don’t lead yourselves into a pit that you cannot escape. You may not think you're doing any damage now, but you will live to regret your actions or lack thereof. You will wish that you could go back and do it all again.

Yes, sometimes, experiencing all that is great is impossible. Financially, I can’t play everything that I want to, nor do I have the time to do so. It’s extremely likely that you’re in a similar situation. College was a busy time, and it’s no surprise that I didn’t play so many games. I do not blame my former self for this, and nor should you blame your current or former selves for circumstances out of your control.

But as I wrote above, many of the games that I missed were needlessly avoided for one reason or another. Maybe I didn’t try hard enough to finish a game, instead moving on to the new flavor of the week despite that fact that it was a piece of trash. Perhaps I was blinded by a pointless devotion to a certain console, and told myself that The Wind Waker must not be any good if it’s only being released on the inferior Gamecube.

Even if you don’t have the means to afford every console, don’t let yourself fall into a cycle of insulting other exclusives and bolstering those on your own console. We cannot help what consoles we can afford, but we can help what we do with that fact—whether we wield it as a sharp, angry sword or keep it in its place above the mantel. The same goes for games: don’t deprive yourself of something great simply because you have some strange loyalty to a competing game.

Simply put, don’t find ways to avoid playing something great. You will regret it when your self-made barriers disappear and you’re left wondering why you didn’t make the most of your time while you still had enough of it.


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Handy's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 10:16
Handy
The giant backlog: both a blessing and a curse.
Don’t beat yourself up, we’ve all done it.

Your ps1/2 era child hood is sounding very familiar to me, I’ve never owned a nintendo so I know I’ve missed out on a lot that I’ll never get to play. I’ve tried to catch up on great games that I missed like Shadow of the Colossus but when I got my hands on it, it was a region locked Portuguese version, so yeah....... really regret not getting that when I had the chance.
Xzyliac's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 10:44
Xzyliac
Oh how I love this piece and feel the same thing. I've been on again and off again with gaming an just this summer got on again and I've missed so much. Console launches, whole new franchises birthed.

And in my past gamerself I was...a fanboy. Oh it's a shady past. One full of trolling and banned forum accounts. I missed a shit ton of good games.
Elsa's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 10:45
Elsa
An interesting blog and I think you hit on something many gamers seem to feel (that they missed out on playing these "great" games for various reasons and regret it), but personally I say "no regrets". The choices we made 'back then' made us the gamers we are today, and we don't all have to be the same.

It's interesting that you played WoW... yet don't note it as a "great" game of our time, yet I'm quite sure that history will look back on it quite differently as possibly even the greatest game of our time (given the number of people that play, the profitability, the longevity). I've never played WoW, yet you almost seem dismissive of the time you spent playing it in lieu of other great games.

I don't know... it seems odd to regret not playing games that you tried to play and didn't finish, obviously at the time they weren't "great" for you. While going back and trying them again (or playing games you missed) would be great, you're then not playing current games that will in the future be listed as "great". The choices we made... and the choices we continue to make - they make us the gamers we are, and it's nice that we are unique. Playing "bad" games is just as valuable an experience as playing "great" games (especially if we enjoyed our time with those games).

eh... not sure what I'm trying to say...
Nic128's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 10:49
Nic128
That's why I keep my backlog to a minimum, but it threatens everyday to grow. And I need a replacement for my ps2 as fast as I can before Dragon Age consumes me.
Diverse's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 11:11
Diverse
I felt like I was reading a biography about my gaming life, but with some differences.

Growing up, I was privileged enough to own every major console since the 4th generation. The only problem with this was I was strictly a platformer player, and even then it was usually only the Marios and Sonics that took up most of my time. This changed when I turned 12 and was acquainted with Final Fantasy IX a year after it's release, but we're talking a decade of missing out on so much of what the SNES and Genesis had to offer. Even so, after I was acquainted with RPGs, nothing much really changed. Though I did become aware of other genres and the like, the time it took to complete any game became a wary subject. I've found it incredibly hard to truly dedicate myself to a game, and I usually tossed aside the game with actual substance over something like NBA Street(one of my favorite series growing up, sadly). The pick-up and play aspect is incredibly important to me, and it always took priority over anything else. This of course, lead to many games that should have gotten more of my attention to be completely, if not for the most part, ignored.

The reason I'm such a big indie gamer is because most of them can be completed in a very short amount of time, and(for the most part) remain a truly entertaining experience. I still buy many of the new games coming out in anticipation that I might someday take the time out of my day and give them the attention they deserve. This has lead to about 80 percent of my gaming collection to have never left it's packaging, 10 percent I've played for at least a few hours, and the last 10 percent I have actually completed.

Of course, I have all this to thank to my younger self and his stupid gaming habits. I'd love to actually get around to at least taking the Persona 4 disc out of it's case and putting it in my PS2(which is something I've owned since launch, mind you), and hell, I'd like to even be able to turn on my PS2 and actually playing the damn game! But something just holds me back, and I feel like there's nothing I can really do about it. Hopefully one day I'll get around to doing something about this ridiculously huge backlog!
DaedHead8's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 11:27
DaedHead8
I'm with Elsa, I may have a large backlog but I don't regret it. I made the gaming choices I did based on how much fun I was having and I still do that to this day. Great blog.
kauza's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 11:29
kauza
@Handy: Too bad you aren't NTSC. I'd loan you SotC. It's a fantastic game...hopefully one that would still hold up today.

@Elsa: Actually, I do think WoW is a fantastic game, and I don't regret playing it. But the problem with a game like that is that it doesn't leave you with any time to play other things. So it's not so much that I regret playing it, but that I regret playing so much of it at the expense of everything else that was released around that time.

It's interesting to think of those decisions as making me who I am today, though.
kauza's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 11:36
kauza
@Diverse: Yeah, I've also just recently acquired Persona 3: FES and Persona 4 (which came without the soundtrack. Cry!). The number of hours that I'll require for those games scares me, but I can't wait to get into them...when I finally dig up the time. I'm actually a bit of a jackass even today when it comes to indie gaming and even PC gaming to some extent. I've shied away from games like Crysis because I fear my compy can't handle them, and I can't afford new components just yet. And indie gaming...I just can't find the time that I want. I know I will regret this later, but at least this time I feel like it's out of my control.

Also, I just have to say that I absolutely love reading comments from you. You always put some serious thought into them.
Elsa's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 11:40
Elsa
... but to truly experience WoW, don't you have to play it for quite a long time... long enough to level up quite high, to fully appreciate the game, to get to know the community and the social aspects of the game? Wasn't that experience (which not all of us have had) worth missing out on some great console games for?
Maybe a lot of it is perspective...
kauza's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 11:49
kauza
Yeah, I think a lot of it is. I guess it's a matter of how you use your time. WoW is the sort of game that does demand a ton of your time, and even I wasn't as bad as some people I knew. But looking back, I certainly feel like I could have played it less. I mean, it's a game that is so persistent that, if I really wanted to, I could still play it for a couple of hours a week even today. Would I? Probably not. But if I had played it just a little less back in the day, maybe I would have gotten to experience even more great things.

But, yes, you're right: perhaps if I hadn't played the game as much, I wouldn't have met the people that I did, and that would be a shame. Perhaps, given the opportunity to go back in time, I wouldn't change so much about this period. My younger years were most definitely the more glaring problem.

You've given me much to think about!
GenStrike's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 11:56
GenStrike
Some of us truly ruined our lives playing World of Warcraft.
PappaDukes's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 12:38
PappaDukes
Thank GOD I never played WoW.
grafkhun's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 12:39
grafkhun
I don't exactly agree that there is an obligation to play a game, just because you missed out on the cream of the crop in the SNES era doesn't really matter. So what if you didn't finish FF7? Don't worry about it. Regretting the past and what it caused you to miss is ok, but don't dwell on it so much or you'll miss the good stuff that's going on now!

I have a large backlog as well, but I love it. I always play at least 10 games (seriously) at once, across multiple systems as well.
Zodiac Eclipse's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 12:52
Zodiac Eclipse
This reminds me of myself in high school when I started getting into anime and discovered there was this whole subculture devoted to it and certain films (Akira, Ghost in the Shell, ect) that you HAD to have watched if you wanted to be part of the 'in' crowd at the Suncoast.

Gaming is much the same way, when you're a kid you play a lot of junk because you just want to be entertained for a bit and really don't give much thought to highbrow things like graphics and story. As you get older you realize you were so busy playing Stimpy's Invention that you brushed off Mortal Combat. Sure I had fun, but I missed an important gaming experience by majority standards.

Heck, I'm just now playing through KOTOR which is a game that is right up my alley, but that I wholly ignored until recently. Fortunately the saying "you don't know what you've got until it's gone" doesn't apply in gaming. You can always go back and with enough time, cash, OCD track down any and all great gaming experiences that you may have missed. Just remember to pace yourself, you are no longer in it for the momentary rush, you're playing for the experience now, make it count.
kauza's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 12:57
kauza
I know you didn't just insult Ren and Stimpy in my blog.

But that's a really good call about being in it for the experience. I think I do have a tendency to rush through some games, just in an attempt to maximize the number of games I can play. It works for some games, but it really robs you of a great experience in others. Identifying which is which is the struggle.
Wry Guy's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 13:09
Wry Guy
I think you're taking it a bit far here. I really do hate World of Warcraft, but that aside so what if you played some low-tier games? Do you really REGRET playing NFL Street that much? Did you have fun with it at the time?

It'd be one thing if you weren't actually having much fun with the games you were playing, but to concern yourself too much about missing out on the greats is foolish. You just need to be more careful about what you play today, and less concerned about what you played yesterday. Some of my fondest moments from my previous Dreamcast article were from C and B-list games. Not the "greats" even though I liked those too.
Piellar's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 13:18
Piellar
*Shakes Kauza*

WHAT ARE YOU DOING?! CHRONO TRIGGER! MARIO RPG! GO GO GO!!!

Haha seriously, I think a lot of people must relate to you, myself included. I just wish I had a personnal gaming coach who could've jabbed me for playing WoW for so long and missing Shadow of the Colossus and many other unique titles... Luckily for me I spent a lot of time younger on emulators, when I couldn't get more than one new game per birthday/christmas, so I experienced most of the NES/SNES era classics. The Persona series pretty much awakened me to the fact that console gaming did not die with Final Fantasy X and since then I haven't looked back to my WoW days at all. ^_^

Great blog dude!
JamnOnTheOne's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 13:20
JamnOnTheOne
"You will regret it when your self-made barriers disappear and you’re left wondering why you didn’t make the most of your time while you still had enough of it."

If you actually can sit and write something like this without sarcasm tags you need some perspective on your participation in this hobby...pronto.
wanderingpixel's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 13:24
wanderingpixel
Games I need to finish/Play.

Metal Gear Solid 1, 2, 3, and 4
Every Legend of Zelda (Played them all, but never finished)
Every Resident Evil
Every Silent Hill
Every single JRPG ever.
Etc...

Sigh...
F Whipple's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 13:29
F Whipple
Great blog! It reminds me I still need to finish a multitude of games right now that I just can't find the desire to pick back up. :/

Also, don't be hatin' on NFL Street. I love that game
kauza's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 13:30
kauza
@Wry: Here's how I see it. I don't want to just progress through the games of the time and say "Well this is what's available now, and that's what I should play." I'd love to play everything that I know I'll enjoy. It's not exactly that I regret playing NFL Street, but that I regret not using that time to play something that I know will have meant more to me today. A thin line, but a line nonetheless. I'm not so much concerned about what I played yesterday, but what I didn't play yesterday, and I think that's a very, very valid concern. But the reality is that those are connected.

There must be at least one game that you regret not playing.

@Jamn: You must have missed the line about "an overabundance of sentiment." Also, don't be a dick.
JamnOnTheOne's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 13:45
JamnOnTheOne
@Kauza

Not intending to be "a dick", just shooting straight and speaking the truth as someone who is in the same stage of life (post college, working career) as you seem to be.

Pining away for "missed experiences" is a futile effort. You'll never be able to go back and play or do anything while being in the same state of mind.
WankerJist's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 13:45
WankerJist
This is exactly how I feel every time I pass on any blockbuster game I know I would enjoy. I still have regrets not playing Assassin's Creed, any of the Prince of Persia games (besides the original), and FFXI.
Wry Guy's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 14:35
Wry Guy
@Kauza: It's hard to say if there's a game I regret not playing. There are certainly games I would like to experience like Conker's Bad Fur Day, but if I never find it I'm not exactly going to be unhappy with the notion. I have other games before me as well. There's a select few like Ico that I certainly could not go without after having experienced them, but they're far and few between. The games I consider absolutely essential are small enough that I think most people could find the time to play them. For the most part I'd be content with what's currently sitting on my shelf.

I don't really think there's that many games out there you should shoot yourself over. The reason I collect older games myself is because this current generation doesn't impress me. The current trends revolving around shooters just don't appeal to me that much. Thus, I go play older games not necessarily because I absolutely have to experience them, but because they're a better and cheaper option in my opinion.

Perhaps it's because you never did experience so many of these games on the list that you regret it. As great as Super Metroid is and how much I love it, it's not as though the game will change your life. Still, perhaps because you didn't play it you will continue to wonder how things may have been different. Does that sound about right?
Dinin Vorta's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 14:37
Dinin Vorta
I was nearly in the exact same situation, there are in fact many 'must play' games that I would likely enjoy, but have never played. However it occurred to me early on that I was never going to empty the backlog, and therefore I came to the conclusion that I would prioritize every new game that appealed to me from then on. I now only play a 'backlog' game during a drought in titles that appeal to me.

Then I would go 'ah, I'll play THAT game instead'. I find it depresses me less, when I view the situation that way.

Great blog as always. You complete git ;)
kauza's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 15:07
kauza
@Jamn: Fair enough. I just can't agree that wishing that I had more time to play games I missed is totally futile. At least in my case, wishing has led to action, and I've already begun the long process of catching up. Just wish I had more time. Who knows: maybe even that wish will come to something one day.

@Wry: Sounds right to me. The thing is that I'll never truly know what I'm missing until I experience it. Take Majora's Mask. Krow's fantastic blog on the game made me wonder "Man, what did I miss by not playing this game?" Will I share his same experience? Probably not. It might affect me in a similar way, but I'll never know until I try. Maybe it's simply curiosity of the unknown. But no worries: I won't be shooting myself any time soon :)

Also, dammit, you just reminded me that I never played Conker's Bad Fur Day either.
Projectexodus's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 16:10
Projectexodus
I've felt like this alot - there's just so many games I regret buying or not buying. Like that time I purchased Pokemon Stadium over Link's Awakening DX. I'll never forget that...

I've also struggled with having just one brand of console throughout my childhood. But it's nothing that could be helped, I was only allowed one brand of console+handheld. And for me it was the Nintendo consoles from the day I got my Gameboy Pocket at the age of 6 (and among the TV consoles - the N64). I dont regret choosing Nintendo over Sony or anything, but looking at all those great franchises like Final Fantasy, Metal Gear Solid, God of War, and the Team ICO games etc - I feel like I've missed out on alot of good stuff!

It's only during this generation that I have more than one brand of consoles, now that I'm old enough to have a part-time job and make my own decisions. And I've vowed to myself, that any game released that gets standing ovations by reviewers and gamers alike, will belong to, and be completed by me before this generation is over. Cant afford to miss anything.
wanderingpixel's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 18:35
wanderingpixel
Is that Two Worlds? -25 Gamer Cred.
kauza's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 18:57
kauza
Hey you, don't you talk to me about gamer cred! :)
The Prodigal Son's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/17/2009 20:39
The Prodigal Son
I feel you on the backlog. The last two years of school have been hellish -- this semester in particular (hence the disappearance). I rented Resistance 2 when it came out from GameFly. It's still sitting in the envelope...a year later. I don't even bother to send it back because I don't have time to play the next thing on my list either. I'll tell you what, GameFly loves me.
Everyday Legend's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/18/2009 12:24
Everyday Legend
You didn't play Chrono Trigger?

You and I have much to discuss, my son. Things must be caught up on.
kauza's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/18/2009 13:27
kauza
With any luck, I'll be able to remedy that before too long. I think a friend is sending me a SNES copy of that, Earthbound, and some other really awesome stuff. I may have to make those two a gaming priority and set some other stuff aside.
fulldamage's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/19/2009 19:27
fulldamage
@Elsa : Sounds like you're saying something along the lines of, "Our tastes all change over time, and there's no point beating yourself up over it." Which is true, though we all have our "backlog of regrets" anyway.

@kauza: Silver lining is, look how much your gaming horizons have expanded over the years. You're now aware of all the amazing experiences hidden out there, and you're never going to run out of things to try. As problems go, it ain't so bad. ^_^
Xzyliac's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/27/2009 18:42
Xzyliac
Zombie post comes back from the dead? O.o
Everyday Legend's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/27/2009 18:48
Everyday Legend
Your cblogs are so well-realized and executed. Good show.
Script-br's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/27/2009 18:57
Script-br
You shouldn't feel this obligation. A lot of the games you feel the obligation to play is just hype. It's not because everybody plays it and loves it, that you SHOULD play it OR love it. Of course, there is always that really nice game that you should have played instead of other. When I had a N64, I had to chance to get Ocarina of Time for a really low price. I didn't got it. Why? The character jumped automatically, and I didn't liked that. I got Clay Fighters instead. If I had gave that diferent game a chance, I'm sure I would have liked it. That's because one year later I played with one friend and love it! I even went to the same place searching for it - couldn't find anymore though.

Even so, I do think this obligation feeling is desnecessary. Your life don't depends on it. Good and memorable games are been realeased all the time. Much hype is build around them (damn you, Fallout 3!), but is not everyone that will enjoy it or get a chance to play them. You should live your life playing what you can, WHEN you can. I have some games that I have for months but didn't even played them yet (yes, I'm looking at you Hitman Blood Money and Thief Deadly Shadows!), because I'm really busy and I have other games to play as well. If this were 2008, I would have the same anxiety I had before, this feeling that I had to do that, that I was missing something. I've learned to control that better now. Who decides what's important to your life it's you! If that's playing all the games that you haven't, fine, do it, but don't cultivate this feeling, or you will make your life hell. I could be playing Thief or Hitman right now instead of reading throughout Destructoid, but I don't, because I don't feel like playin them right now. I will sure play them on this vacation though. :)
Daxelman's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/27/2009 19:08
Daxelman
I've said this before, I've played a shitload of games, rented, bought, borrowed and otherwise.

I've only ever completed 10 or so of them.

I regret not finishing all the games I've played, but I don't regret the time I spent on them.

Whenever you do get to the time, above all, enjoy it. Don't bog yourself down with a backlog or what you can and can't play. Sure you wanna play everything that you wanna play, but don't forget to enjoy what's on hand at the moment.

God help us if you never finish Wind Waker though. God help up all....
lewness's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/27/2009 19:24
lewness
Holy fuck, I wrote a blog?! And I have an account named "kauza"?

I must have been drunk or something.

</imwithyouonthatone>
The Silent Protagonist's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/27/2009 19:37
The Silent Protagonist
I think its important to put gaming it perspective and learn to distance yourself from certain attitudes. Problem is, MS and Sony seem so intent on making you want to feel like you're keeping up with the Jonese.

You should recognize that symptom from your MMO experience, though. People are always after new guild officer ranks or epic loot. Its all about your in-game social status. Achievements and Trophies are an extension of that, they're just this "feel good" element there to keep you paying more than it will keep you playing a game to its fullest. In reality, you're just achieving the bar someone set for you, not really discovering anything new about your skills.

I've learned to distance myself from elements like that, though. Its hard to do, but as cool as online gaming is - you don't have anything to prove to anyone. Once you realize that, you're free from the "status" trap.

I don't have a PS3, 350 or Wii. Oh I want 'em, but I'm just going to approach games as I do now - exactly as I want to by my own pace. I'm playing PS2 games now and don't feel like I'm missing anything. PS3, 360 and Wii games will still be around when I get to 'em. Right now, I take my time with what I have.

Saves me some scratch anyway.
Neveryll's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/27/2009 21:20
Neveryll
Chuckle. I hear you on the WoW thing but I don't regret it. For me I look at MMOs as a one part fancy chat client, one part first person shooter, one part story. MMOs big thing isn't usually on telling a good story so much as getting you to interact with other people. I've played five MMOs in the last eleven years and they are a huge chunk of my gaming time in general.

For me though I game with my wife in most MMOs so for us this is our social thing we do together and meet other people. I do sometimes look at my stack of console games and go "I really should play those..." But here is the thing. Do what feels fun and right and usually after a while you'll get some time to play some of those other games. I had a break for a while where I got to play my consoles for a week or two when my contract lapsed. You'll get around to playing them when you have time.

For me I work 40 hours a week and also am a husband and have two wonderful kids. I take my gaming serious but you will set your priorities based on what you need to do in life. Usually life has a way of coming around later to give you a chance to try some of those games. But there is one thing you will have to face. Even if you had all the money in the world and no other commitments chances are you will never be able to play all the games in the world. Heck I don't know if you'd even have time to play all the really good ones because as you have pointed out there are always new ones coming out.

So the big thing to realize is not that you should play all the really good games there are, but that you have learned to appreciate many different games in many different ways. Gaming is about putting yourself in the game and having fun with it. Wether your a spoiled princess, a adventerous plumber or just some mercenary out for a few bucks. Its about having fun with the game and getting into the story in my opinion. Wether that's playing five games or fifty in a year for me its about a good story and a fun ride.
Woopman's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/27/2009 21:26
Woopman
I only owned Nintendo consoles until the GameCube, and I don't regret it.

Go play Chrono Trigger now!
Gryzor's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/27/2009 21:40
Gryzor
Mostly I only regret missing stuff in the arcade, since that environment was so significantly different from the home gaming experience (even before MAME came around.) Having the temptation of automatic free play all the time really, really cheapens the experience, too IMO.

Other than that, I don't think 'what you missed' is worth stressing about... games are supposed to be about fun, right? Anything you miss now can be uncovered later,anyways, and usually for much cheaper. After all these years, I'm *still* finding great 8 and 16-bit games that passed me by... and every time I wonder "how the heck did I not know about this?" :)
kauza's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/27/2009 23:57
kauza
I love you all. Let's hook up sometime.
ThaJinx's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/28/2009 02:36
ThaJinx
Going to throw out a quick question: Have you ever played Out of This World? Because if not, you're going to need to drop it onto that growing backlog.
Kasreyn's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/28/2009 03:16
Kasreyn
Isn't World of Warcraft considered one of those great games? I can identify with a lot of this though. But what makes a game great? Do the reviews tell you what to think or can you make up your own mind? Perhaps this is the reason you try to sample many different games a few hours each.
Pengbros's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/28/2009 03:54
Pengbros
The only thing I ever really missed out on was the XBOX generation, I didn't touch a Microsoft console until the 360 had been out for two years. Now, I say I didn't miss much since most of the 360 exclusives that are held in high praise are shooters, and... I don't like shooters.

Still though, you shouldn't get too hung up over it. However, I do wish all the weird console loyalty would stop... Every time I hear someone bash a really good game, usually an exclusive on something, I can't help but facepalm.

Then again, the people being pricks about exclusives are usually twelve year olds mic spamming or some dumbass teenager who thinks he is the king shit so only the games HE plays are the good ones. Asking children and teenagers to be sensible is... hard?
DixieNormus's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/28/2009 11:37
DixieNormus
Definitely not alone on this one.

I was weaned, so to speak, on the PSX back when it first came out. There was a long, long gap from that until my second-hand PS2, obtained just two years back. My PC is only able to run games from 2003 and earlier.

Suffice to say, there are a damn lot of games I have missed. Everything on every other console save the PSX and PS2, and all the current-gen stuff. But what to do? Finances were never really all that great.

I DO feel a pang of sadness at missing out all sorts of gaming goodness, and I realize the only time I'll get a PS3/Xbox 360/Wii is when the next generation of consoles come in.

So... yeah. Hell, I actually feel a bit down now. Buggerit.
daysocks's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/28/2009 13:35
daysocks
I have many games that I haven't played but are quality, but I'm ok with that. Until recently my gaming (the consoles I had and the games I had) were completely out of my control. Why regret something you have no control over?

I am slowly going back and collecting games that I have an interest in, and eventually I'll play them too. Yes, I'll never finish, but it's the experience that matters most.
pinstonlee's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/28/2009 22:37
pinstonlee
kauza ur not that only one. i was born in early 90s so thats when gaming started to really grow. and i havent owned a single console until this gen. in the past i was just never interested enough to purchase and gaming console. i had handhelds but i still didnt buy much games for those. it was always playin video games whenever i go to friends house and that was it. maybe it was my parents not wanting me to play video games but i seriously regret all the potential time i couldve had playin 2 generations worth of games =(

nice blog btw
BumGamer's Avatar - Comment posted on 11/30/2009 09:54
BumGamer
I don't know, but if you guys think you've got it bad, at least be happy that you've got (or most of you do) the independence and the money to buy what you want and hunt down the video games you like. I find it amazing that I am so interested in video games (or just read way too much stuff on them), but I myself own so very little. I have one Dreamcast and 10 games that I bought off of a garage sale for $15 over a year ago in the summer, and that's it. Amazingly, I've only completed one of the titles, and then went on to complete it three times more: Jet Grind Radio. I've played very few current gen titles, and only in demo form at local game stores. I've played Resident Evil 4 on my brother's Game Cube and completed it, but that's the full extent of my hands-on experience, so to speak. Oh, I've owned an XBox and a nice library of games, but I sold it all and only after beating one title: Jet Set Radio. I almost beat the entirety of the original Sonic the Hedgehog on a Genesis that we got from our neighbor along with an SNES, but I had to sell the games for both systems, and this is going on for a bit too long, so I'll just conclude by saying that that is all of my video game experience. I can count hundreds of games (no really, off my head) that I'd like to play and so many consoles that I'd like to own, but at the end of the day, it's not really that important, because as 5th grade Economics classes say, video games are a want and NOT a need! Yeah, that was incredibly corny, but my point is that I've missed a lot more than all of you have. At least you all now have a "ground zero" to base yourselves off. Well, whatever. That's all I have to say.
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